(Closed) Save-the-date timeline help

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee

Will you have many out-of-town guests? It is really only important that they get their STDs in advance so they can book flights if necessary. For the local people it’s definitely OK to wait until June or July.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

I’m very sorry for your loss. I think sending them in late June/early July is fine. I wouldn’t burden your mother about this right now. If you know of certain people from out of town who you want to give a heads up to then do so. I’m sure everyone will understand if they are a little late. Again I’m very sorry for your loss.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

I’m so sorry for your loss.  I can’t imagine what you and your mother are going through right now.

 

However, I have to say that 6 months is actually a little late to be sending out STDs.  They’re usually sent 12-9 months in advance.  If you’ll have out-of-town guests, they’ll need to buy plane tickets like now, or within the next month or two to get good deals.  Plus, weddings are a big deal and people need to plan to attend them, ask for time off work, make hotel reservations, etc.  You should notify guests ASAP that you’re engaged and plan on getting married in November.  At this point, I would probably just call people.  Then you can skip mailing STDs and can just send the invitations 2-3 months prior.  That’ll give your mom ample time to compile addresses.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m so sorry for your loss. I think it’s fine to delay sending them given your circumstances.

Another alternative would be to do an E-Save The Date and email it.  Saves money and is efficient!

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m so sorry for your loss. Skip the STD’s and just sent invitations on the early side (10 weeks). 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

so so sorry for your loss 🙁

 

i think thats totally fine. as long as your wedding isnt super close to thanksgiving (looks like its the 9th) you should be ok. we sent ours out 6 months ahead because its the week before the 4th of july and summer weekends tend to get booked up insanely quick in our groups of friends. if we were having a winter wedding i probably would have waited a month or 2 longer.

 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Christy42213:  wow, 12-9 months? i never heard that long! we didnt chop our guests list to a dealable number until 6.5 month out. im impressed you had it much more together than me!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

@NalaBee:  Flights are usually at their cheapest 3-6 months out.  The important part is that they know you’re getting married so they can budget and plan accordingly.  You can find another way to tell them.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Christy42213:  I think the 12 month ballpark is usually recommended/common for a destination wedding, but definitely not for a regular wedding.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@NalaBee:  I’m so sorry  🙁  HUGS!!!  Poor thing  🙁

And yes, 4-5 months is definitely plenty to book a wedding.  I usually do mine more like 2-3 months out.  If you can get them out in June (2 whole months away) you should be just fine.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

@Shkragoldfish:  It depends on your definition of what a “regular wedding” is.  If everyone you’re inviting lives in the same state, then they’re maybe not going to need much notice.  But if your family is spread out all over the 50 states, then you’re going to want to provide as much advance notice as possible.

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