Post # 1
I have a question about the etiquette around addressing save the dates/invitations. Both of my parents are dating people who have kids (I use the term kids loosely – they range from 14-25 years old). My parents do not live with their signficant others. Both the people my parents are dating will be invited, along with their kids. How should I invite the significant other’s and their kids? Should I . . .
1. Address the envelope to my parent, their significant other and the kids and send to the address of my parent? I would also send separate invites to kids over 18.
2. Address one envelope to my parent, one envelope to the significant other and their kids, and other envelopes to kids over 18 and send each to their own address (i.e. my mom receives her envelope at her address, her significant other receives his and his kids at his address, etc.).
I feel like option 1 is awkward because they don’t live together. However, if either parent was to breakup with their signficant other, the SO would not be invited.
I feel like I’ve been researching this all day – help!
Post # 3
Personally I would send one std to your parents with the Sig Os/kids on the std. My main reason for this is that there is still a lot of time between when save the dates go out and the wedding actually happens. God forbid one of your parents breaks up with his/her significant other before the wedding, the Sig O and kids won’t expect to get their own invitation because they were basically listed on your parent’s std as his/her guests.
Post # 4
etiquette wise, you send an invite to each household. As your parents aren’t dating poeple in their household, I would go with option 2.
Is there a chance they would break up? 😐 If you want, maybe put the SO’s & their children on the “b” list, and if they’re still dating when you send out your invites upgrade them to the “a” list. (In either case, if they break up do you really think they’d RSVP yes?)
Post # 5
I would just send the STD to the parent. We hope that their relationship goes well, but this way there are no awkward expectations of an invitation , should theirr relationship end before the wedding.
You can make it clear to them that their SO and offspring will be invited at a later date.
Post # 6
In all honesty, as a parent of the bride, I wouldn’t want a STD or would tell my kids to not send me one to save the postage! I think they can just tell the people they’re dating and save you the angst of sending them out to everyone. That’s what I’d do, anyway.
Post # 7
STD’s are meant for those that you simply cannot imagine getting married without. I would send one to your mom, and let her know on the phone that of course her BF would be invited (and his kids if you so choose). When invite time comes around you can then send an invite to his house like in your #2.
Post # 8
Thank you for the responses, everyone! I think we’re going to send 1 STD/invite to my mom and 1 STD/invite to my dad and include their SO and kids on my parents’ STD/invite, since the SO/kids are a guest of each parent.
Post # 9
I would send one to your parents. And one to the SO, including the kid’s names on it… even if they are over 18. 🙂