Save The Date/Invitation Etiquette Question

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Yes, I would still send them an invitation. 

Post # 4
2787 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Send the invitation, as plans may change, but I would include a note saying something along the lines of “I know you told me you could not make it, but I wanted to still let you know that we want you there.  If your plans change, please let us know.”    This way you are acknowledging what they already told you.

Post # 7
1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Hmmm interesting…


All the weddings I’ve gotten save the dates for, and then told the couple that there’s no way I could make it, I’ve never received an invite for.

I always assumed that by telling them that, it would free up an invite for someone else and save them the money on the invite and postage.

Post # 9
171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I didnt send save the dates but when a friend who already knew my date got told about the date of another wedding she was invited to on the same day, she told me she wasnt coming to mine and I just asked her, would you like me to still send an invite to you so you feel included, want to have it as a keepsake or whatever. and she said no save the money for someone else

So maybe ask like I did?

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