Save the dates 11 months in advance?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1154 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I don’t think so at all, especially if you’re having guests from out of town. Go for it! 

Post # 3
98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - My parents' back yard

I don’t think so, since it’s around the holidays. Do you have many people coming from elsewhere? Because that would be good as well.

We sent ours about a year in advance because we got married in Montreal but had people from Australia, the UK, Western Canada and the US coming so we had to give them plenty of time to plan and book if they wanted to come!

Post # 4
659 posts
Busy bee

We sent ours 20 months in advance (!!) I basically sent them as soon as I set the date so everyone I cared about could keep it free. Our guests included family from Canada & Australia (for a wedding in England) so I didnt mind sending them out so early.

Post # 5
705 posts
Busy bee

I did mine about a year out since it was a dw I wanted Peoole to have a lot of time to plan. 

Post # 6
996 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I think it’s a good idea. Your date is a bit tricky and if you have anyone coming from out of town, they will surely appreciate the advance notice. 

Post # 7
951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn

i dont think thats too early at all – especially as its going to be a christmas wedding. give people as much notice as possible!
im a UK bride who has family in Ireland, France, Spain, Portugal, and the Bahamas – i sent mine out about 18 months before the big day.

Post # 8
2551 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

We’re sending ours 10 months in advance since everyone will have to travel. It gives time for people to save up if they need to!

Post # 9
2818 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think anything less than a year is reasonable, especially if it’s a weekend when people are likely to make other plans such as mid-summer, Christmas time and holiday weekends. 

Post # 10
2642 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

STDs are tricky because you want to send them out early enough that guests can plan accordingly but not too early so that they forget about it.

Honestly, I think 11 months is just a bit too early, especially if you plan to send them out in January.  It’s a very busy time of the year and I’d worry that your STDs would get lost in the shuffle of other holiday cards and back to school stuff and people will forget about it.

I would wait until 9 months out (STDs typically sent 6-9 months prior to wedding) to send them and spread your wedding date via word of mouth.

Post # 11
6969 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think 9-12 months before the wedding is pretty standard for STDs.

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