Save the dates

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Can I email them
    You really shouldn't I get you wanna creative but its not right to email a save the date : (7 votes)
    28 %
    Ya thats totally ok, they prob have fun looking at what you make editing it your self : (13 votes)
    52 %
    You should send out a real save the date but have fun send yours online too : (5 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 3
    2915 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    I’d say yes, but not everyone is all that active on the computer, so they might miss seeing it at all! Mail real ones to be safe.

    Post # 4
    1090 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @whoa_its_ash:  +1

    I personally have some older folks on my guest list, and we’re having almost 150 people, so I’m mailing mine just to make sure everyone gets one.

    Post # 5
    926 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    My thing is that emails can sit for a long time in my inbox, or they may get filed away and never seen again.  Once I get a STD, I immediately put it up on my magnetic board in my office along with other important stuff I see every day.  I am just one who likes to have a real piece of paper in my hand to see.  Maybe I’m old-fashioned.

    Post # 6
    103 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Since save the dates aren’t even necessary, you can absolutely send them online. A word of caution: make sure you only send save the dates to those people that you know 100% that you want at the wedding. You don’t have to send them to everyone. There are countless stories of couples who sent save the dates to everyone they knew, and then regretted it because they decided they wanted a smaller wedding or couldn’t afford to invite that many people.

    Personally, I would only send them if I were having a destination wedding or if it were during a long weekend for which people make plans earlier.

    Post # 7
    2896 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    i wasn’t going to do save the date’s at all. i just let the news spread through word of mouth. but i kept getting asked, “when is your wedding again?” so i did online save the dates. i didn’t send them to everyone, only people  who i had an email address for or who had a facebook account. and people still asked me when my wedding was, lol.

    Post # 10
    926 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @Kissed_by_lightning:  STDs are not mostly for destination weddings – they are more recommended.  In the US, it’s pretty standard now to send one if you have a fairly long engagement (at least 6 months).  I’ve always received one in the mail from every wedding I’ve been invited to.

    I designed my own in photoshop and had them printed at a local graphics shop (were less than $1 each).  You could pay a ton if you had them professionally done.  There are lots of DIY tips throughout the boards.



    Post # 12
    2057 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

    My parents and I sent emails (sort of formal) while my FMIL called her siblings. All we have got left is to inform my future FIL’s family’s side.

    I see a Save-The-Date as an unnecessary expense. If I’m sending one at all, I probably would use this as a background and photoshop the sign:

    So far, receiving emails about being able to make it to given date & time helps me budget more effectively for # of guests. Plus, it’s more personal being able to talk to each of them. (Also, we surprise our potential guests as our engagement isn’t Facebook official, lol)

    I am thinking of creating a blog for guests on information on getting there; etc. Ours is a semi-destination in the Rockies. Most of the younger guests are tech-savvy, so they could use their smart-phones to navigate.

    Actually, FI and I would have a lot of vacation pictures to choose from. There are lots of possibilities!! 🙂

    Post # 13
    1340 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I didn’t bother with save-the-dates but we did personally tell everyone the date. I sent out our invites online via Paperless Post. Best thing we’ve done so far! We have gotten almost all of our RSVP’s back in two weeks.

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