(Closed) Save The Date's – Do you indicate +1's?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We did it to just the person, then listed who was invited on their invitation. If you were concerned about people being confused, you can always write: John Doe & Jane Smith on the STD. People will ask you if you are allowing +1s or will ask if their SO can join them.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I did add the names of the +1 (just wrote + NAME):

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

For the people we absolutely knew their SO or who their date would be, we included them. However, there will be other people that we will be inviting with a +1 and didn’t indicate that on the save the date, we will just address the invitation with “and guest”. 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We addressed STDs to married couples or the intended guest only.  The invitations noted the plus ones.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

 We addressed it the couple if we knew both names. We are extending a plus one to all adult guests. So we put to “John Smith and Guest” if we did not know their intended guests name. For the invites, we will put in the guests name (we are calling people to ask).

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We addressed to the person only unless it was a married or long term couple, people who were just getting regular +1’s  just got it addressed to themselves and then on our invitation we indicated “& guest”.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think its best to write “John Doe and Jane Smith” just to clear up any confusion. If I got a STD in the mail that was only addressed to FI or only addressed to me, I’d be a little confused. So if you know the guest is in a relationship, you should just address it to the couple. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We just sent our save the dates out.  We added all the names of the guests that we are inviting.  The only person getting a plus one that’s not in a relationship is my cousin who is in the bridal party. 

I had a situation last year where the Save the Date was only addressed to me and I wasn’t sure until we got the invitation if my fiance was invited.  I just wanted to make it as clear as possible for our guests up front.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

We only invited people whose names we knew (seems like everyone is married or in a serious relationship!) so we put both names on the STD.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Not on a STD.

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