Post # 1
Today my mom criticized me for wanting to send Save the Dates for our destination wedding. She said it was unnecessary because our guest list is so small (immediate family and our wedding party). It’s true that we expect 15-20 people to attend, but despite the core list of people that I think are For Sure, I still think it’s courteous to extend an invitation to even those family members that will likely decline. For example, my mom has four brothers. She thinks only one will attend, but I can’t invite one uncle and not the other three? I thought it would be courteous to send Save the Dates for those family members who may not necessarily be aware of our plans, that way it’s up to THEM to decide. Yes, it will likely be a “no.” But I don’t want to run into an issue where certain family members feel upset because they were not even invited. People get offended about that kind of thing!
Also, just because most of our family already knows, it’s still nice to give them a cemented date, instead of just “September or October in 2015” which is what they know currently. We were going to have simple magnets printed through a vendor on Etsy. It’s not going to be a huge cost to us and we thought it was a cute and creative idea.
Thoughts? Are Save the Dates unnecessary for small destination weddings?
Post # 2
happyuphere: We did for ours. I agree with you, it’s courteous to send it out to everyone, regardless if you know they won’t attend. You never know, some people’s circumstances might change and they will attend after all. As well, the save the date will provide more accurate detail around location and dates that will allow people to save up money or plan vacation time.
Our save the date had the resort name and the week that we planned to get married, plus our wedding website and travel agent info. This way, people could get a rough idea of how much the trip would cost and they also knew where to go to get up-to-date info on our wedding plans.
Post # 3
We did for ours, just a simple postcard style that cost us nothing to make. We also are having a destination wedding and surprisingly, two aunts and uncles that I swore wouldn’t come are going and booked their deposits within the first couple weeks of sending the cards out! So people could surprise you.
Post # 4
how are you planning on timing your save the dates? The travel agent I’ve been talking to said just to send invites because they are only going to hold the hotel block for 90 days, so save the dates are pointless… We haven’t committed to anything yet… Were planning on November 2015, so invites now seems early?
Post # 5
We sent post card save the dates a year in advance. I thought they were adorable, and I wanted to give our guests as much notice as I possibly could. If you shop around, they don’t have to be *that* expensive, so if it’s something you really want to do, I say go for it.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
We sent ours already. The only issue I see right now is you’re posted for October of this year! We are going to be sending our invites out in the next 2 weeks! I expect my shipment as of next week for my invites! My wedding is the 30th and is a destination wedding. In your case forget the STDs and just send the invites ASAP.
Post # 7
I didn’t send save the dates we just did invitations (super cute passports) and we sent them to EVERYONE (family and close friends) We may have 20-28 people at max attending but we felt like people would actually keep these inviations instead of throwing it out or replacing the save the date magnet after a few weeks. We sent our invitations our exactly 1 yr in advance 🙂