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Save the Dates-Oops! Is it a big deal?

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    Happy2gether    2/27/10   Atlanta

    So I designed these wonderful STD postcards on vistaprint.com with the great deal they are running (100 postcards for FREE).  No envelope + cheaper postage= done deal!

    I get the email today that they have shipped and I want to go back and look at my masterpiece.  Dummy me forgot to put "formal invitation to follow" on them!!

     On the front it says "Save the Date; MyFirst and HisFirst are getting married!; Date; Location"

    The back has "Please visit our website below for details and information about our wedding; website; we look forward to a wonderful day and hope you can share it with us"

    Is it a HUGE fopaux that I forgot this small, hopefully minor detail?

     

     

     
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    tessabella76    September 12, 2009   Ohio

    I think you'll be ok.

     
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    krissycake    November 21, 2009   orlando,fl

    i actually made the same faux pas, but as it was, most people knew about the date anyway, and wondered why i even did them (hey, i loved our magnet design, goshdarnit!) but i think your adding the website info is more than fine to cover it!  

    ((after i realized i forgot that line*, i added a little insert with the website info and that covered it for us, so you should be good, too! =D ))

     

    *when i say forgot that line, it was more like, i created the design, then FI had to change the fonts when it came to printing, and he didn't know what that line might mean and he deleted it...saying it was a "duh" thing...oh, men! 

     
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    MsDownwardDog    9/12/09  

    I also forgot to put that on my save the dates (actually, I just didn't even think about it). Two people told me they thought the save the date was the invitation. But it got cleared up when we sent the invitations out, so it was no big deal.  Most people know that a postcard that says "Save the Date" is a save the date.

     
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    Definitely NOT a big deal, I've recieved two save the dates that didn't have that on there, no biggie! Most people will know that a postcard they recieve 6 months before the wedding is not the invitation and if they don't, like Msdownwarddog said, any confusion will be cleared up when they recieve the actual invite...If you're super concerned about, put something up on your website about how STD's have gone out and formal invites wil be mailed at such and such date...

     
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    abrideagain    October 24, 2009   Austin

    I don't think that it's a big deal at all...when Save the Dates were a newer concept I would say that people didn't know what to do with them and the "formal invitation to follow" needed to be included.  But now, most brides do them whether it's a DW or a holiday-weekend-wedding anyway just because they're cute and fun, so most people are more aware of what they are and that an invitation usually follows.

     
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    I think you're fine. This is where MOH and the moms come in handy.  Make sure that they politely let guests know that a formal invitation will follow. This is great for the older guests who might not be familiar with the tradition.

    Either way you're fine. My cousin's fiance sent out their STD's without saying "are getting married" on them! If you didn't know they were engaged you would be even more confused :)

     
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    Bridebella    October 17, 2009   Knoxville, TN

    I think you're fine, Save the Dates are becoming more common so I think most of your guests will know it isn't your formal invite.

     
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    alishaneva    May 2011   Lancaster, PA

    You're totally fine! No big deal at all! It kinda goes without saying, anyway!

     
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    spaniel    March 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    Eh. Maybe someone will think that's the invitation? They'll figure it out when you send the formal one. :)

     
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    Noelle-a-Belle    October 16 2009   Southern CA

    I didn't even know we were supposed to write that on our save the dates.  Only one person thought it was an actual invitation and called me asking 'where?  what time?' I told them to hold their horses, a real invitation was coming.  I think most people know a STD is not a real invitation. 

     
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    GaBGal    September 25, 2010  

    If it SAYS save the date then people know that is a save the date. I don't think anyone would confuse it with an invite. You are fine

     
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    poodle    April 1, 2010   California / Planning Process in Chile

    I agree with all the previous comments, your good! :)

     
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    vintage2010    April 10, 2010  

    I don't think it was a big deal.  I just bought our postcards on vista this week too! Got the 100 cards free!  :)  They should be here on Wed. and I can't wait.  I'll upload some pictures of them when they get here! 

    I can't believe it is here and time to be sending these out! 

     
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    Annui    March 13, 2010   Bend, OR

    I didn't know we were supposed to write that either!

    But I have four other save the dates on my fridge and none of them say that so I don't think many people write that now. I wouldn't worry.

     
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    His Barista    September 4, 2010   Spokane, WA

    I think you'll be okay. haha.

     
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    melizabeth    09/05/09   New Haven, CT

    "... We look forward to a wonderful day and hope you can share it with us" is just a more friendly way of saying "You're going to be invited, so watch the mail," which is a less formal way of saying "Formal invitation to follow".  

    I think you're good to go!

     
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    kmattso2    May 22, 2010   Morris, IL

    I think you'll be just fine.

    I just ordered mine yesterday from Vistaprint!! I had an email that also included a waiver for the $4.99 upload fee. 

    Can't wait to see what yours look like.

     

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