Post # 1
Right now I’m trying to decide whether or not to bother with Save the Dates. Before I got engaged, I was very adament that I would NOT have them, mostly because they seem, to me, just another thing the WIC tells you you NEED, and another thing to spend money on. Having a fairly small family myself, I always assumed the word would spread easily and I wouldn’t need them.
However, we picked our wedding date, and it will be in the summer (not my first choice but the most convienent due to our work schedules). And I know the summer gets incredibly busy- friends of ours are going to 7 (SEVEN!!!!) weddings this summer alone- and people like to plan for the busy wedding season in advance.
Addtionally, my SO’s family is much larger and we just found out his cousin is getting married the weekend after us. So now I feel like we should at least send them to his half of the family so they can coordinate whehter they want to go to ours, hers or hopefully both! It may be worth noting, that part of the family lives about a 6 hour drive from our wedding.
So, what would you do bees? Stick to your guns and don’t send any out because you don’t need to have them? Send them to part of the family, or just figure what the heck and send them to everyone?
And if I do send them- when?? I’ve read anywhere from a year ahead to 6 months.
Post # 2
Just based off what you told us in the post, I would do them. They do seem to be a bit on the excessive side but given that your friends will have 7 weddings to attend in the summer & your fiance’s family has a wedding right around your time, I think it’s important. Summer is a MAJOR wedding time. Peak wedding time actually (especially June)
I wasn’t going to do them either until my FSIL set her date for the DAY before mine. She has since changed her date, but of course it was AFTER I ordered the STD’s.
I’ve heard you’re supposed to send STD’s anywhere from 6-8 months before the wedding. Maybe someone else can confirm that or deny it.
Post # 3
ClaudiaKishi: Base on everything you said I say do the save the date. They doesn’t have to be expensive walmart have magnet STD for $2 and vista print, Walgreen and theses other online Compagny make save the date for cheap or you can make your own. The summer is a very buzy time of the year people goes on vacation etc. I say do it.
It will help you not to stress on getting the word out to your family.
Post # 4
I did STD, since our wedding is “destination” and I went to Vistaprint and made postcards. $10 for 50 cards and shipping. Figured if they looked absolutely horrible in person it was only $10 wasted. And I am doing it a year in advance, because everyone will have to fly in and rent a car.
Post # 5
I am in the same boat. I was adoment on sending them at the 1 year mark…. but then hesitated because then you need to commit to inviting those people. I think we decided to hold off and send them in January (after the xmas card rush). We are geting married in July, so I think that’s in the time line.
I would say go for it.. looks like you can do them somewhat cheaply and that way you ensure people know before plans come up 🙂
Post # 6
I feel the same way as you and am on the fence about sending them. What about compromising and sending out an email? That way you can communicate the date (and other important info) to everyone but not have to actually order/make and mail something out.
Post # 7
ClaudiaKishi: “just another thing the WIC tells you you NEED” LOVE IT.
Thwart them by creating your own STDs and e-mailing them. http://www.weddingchicks.com/freebies/save-the-dates/ . You don’t need to sacrifice your principles!
Post # 8
Thanks for all the advice, bees!
I thought about emailing but I worry it might get lost in someone’s inbox or something- plus the side of the family I think will need them the most (the one’s related to the cousin whose wedding is the next weeekend) are a bit older and might appreciate a paper copy more.
IF I do them it will just be a postcard from Vistaprint or something.
canadajane: I thought about making some but when I add the cost of materials plus my precious time (lol) it’s probably more worth it to just get some postcards printed.
And yes, I hate giving in to the WIC but I guess I can see the usefullness in this case and I’ll probably end up sending them- I’m thinking 9 months before, so around November.