Save the Dates – When to send out?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4366 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Are you having a destination wedding?

Post # 4
889 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My wedding is the weekend after yours and we will be sending ours out at the end of August/Beginning of Septmeber, but thats because 3/4 of our family is from out of state and even we live in a different state than our wedding will take place.

Post # 5
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here … lol.

Save The Dates have sort of replaced “Engagement Announcements”

But in fact NEITHER are required elements in the Wedding Process

In truth STDs were invented solely to make more money for the Wedding Stationery industry

All that said…

The important thing is to make sure you’ve Dotted your I-s and Crossed all your T-s BEFORE you take this step

You truly need to have figured out your Wedding Budget – Guest List – Venue – And Date

If you just send em out cause you’ve gotten Engaged, and Picked a Date, without doing the other bit of homework…

Then you could end up being one of the MANY BRIDES who find themselves in the sticky situation where you’ve sent an STD to someone you cannot ultimately send a Wedding Invitation to (or have had a falling out with in the many months leading up to your wedding… sad but it does happen too often here on WBee)

Generally speaking the STDs don’t need to go out more than 9 months to a year in advance.

The far end of the lead time is needed if your plans include a Destination Wedding, or a popular vacation time (Christmas) or a Long Weekend etc.

Hope this helps,


Post # 7
182 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I am sending mine out a year early then my formal invitations 6 months in advanced. I am having a destination wedding with people coming from out side the country and at a vacation desination where if they want to do OTHER activities some of them have to be booked fairly far in advanced. So the super early dates are necsesary

Post # 8
1040 posts
Bumble bee

I almost posted the same exact question (I’m glad I looked through recent posts first!). 

My wedding is also next May, and I’m still planning on sending out my Save-the-Date in mid-September.

We only have about 10 people that will be travelling from out-of-state (we have family/friends that live in CA, MA, and NY… our wedding will be in upstate NY). I’ve known people who sent their STD’s out A YEAR beforehand… so 9 months isn’t terribly early 🙂

Post # 10
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We sent ours out about 5 months in advance.  Ours isn’t a destination wedding either but a little over half of our guests are coming from out of town – we’re getting married in the city where FI and I live but we’re both from different States.

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