Post # 1
This is my first post on this board, but I had a question and figured you could help out. Is there a standard amount of time before the wedding when the save the dates should be sent out? That is, if you are planning on sending STDs at all. I’m getting married on 11/22/2008. I’ve been on the 11/2008 knottie boards and some of them are sending out their STDs in February, and it seemed really early to me. The knot checklist has them being send around May or June. All the different wedding checklists I have, say something different.
Anyone have any thoughts?
Thanks so much!
Post # 3
I’ve always heard 6-9 months prior to your wedding in there will be lots of out of towners, it is a holiday weekend, or bookings can be challenging in the city for travelors. Since my wedding is basically a destination wedding for most people and in a larger city (booking flights, hotel rooms sometimes challenging), I’m sending mine out 9 months ahead. Plus I want to get my pretty babies out for the world to appreciate :-). If you have a wedding that everyone is in town for already, I’ve seen them sent out only 3-4 months prior.
Post # 4
I was confused about this too! the knot boards are scary, btw, and filled with over acheivers, so you should totally come and camp out with the cool kids here! 🙂
my wedding is 8/2/08, and 80% of my guests are traveling. I just sent mine last Friday (think some will be recieving today!! yipppeee!) but I think 6 months is plenty o’ time.
good luck and welcome!!
Post # 5
Katie, my wedding is 08/01/08 and mailed mine on saturday…it is so nice to feel on time with something!
Post # 6
My wedding is 11/08/08 and we are sending out our Save the Dates next week! We are doing this so early mainly because our wedding is in Jamaica and most of our guests are from the West Coast so we wanted to give them enough time to plan and save. (West Coast to Jamaica is about $500 more than people leaving from the East Coast.)
Post # 7
I sent mine 10 months in advance, but I have a lot of OOT guests and I’m really impaitent…LOL.
I think it’s fine to send them wheven as long as it’s in the year – you know? No sense in sending it if it’s a year and a half away.
Thats just what one girl thinks though – not sure if there’s actual ettiqute or not.
Post # 8
I’m 9/6/2008 (8 MONTHS from yesterday, YIKES!) and many of our guests are OOT. I originally wanted to send out STDs late January but being that I went stationery shopping and didn’t find anything I loved (and if I did, it was WAY too expensive and not practical) I’m going to DIY…Which is going to take me some time.
I say send them as soon as you can since your wedding isn’t THAT far away. People will appreciate the advance notice and well, what have you got to lose?
Post # 9
Thanks for all the advice!
I get scared when people say that my wedding isn’t "THAT" far away. To me it feels like an eternity, and other than picking my date and venue, I haven’t done much else besides browsing the internet for ideas. I guess I’m a total procrastinator
Post # 10
My wedding is 06/07/08, and I sent them exactly six months before, on 12/7/07. We also will be having a lot of OOT guests, so I wanted to make sure it was on everyone’s calendar. We are also going to send out our invitations on the early side instead of the “proper” 6-8 weeks ahead of time.
Post # 11
<span style=”font-size: 7.5pt; font-family: Verdana”>My wedding is 10/18/08 and I’ll be sending mine 2/18/08. I also have a lot of OOT guests but I feel that in today’s world people are heavily booked well in advance and I want to be first on their calendar!
Post # 12
I think 6 months is traditional, and if you’ve already told people by word of mouth, it’s not as though they will be surprised by the date/time of year when they get the STD. We sent ours about 6.5 months out- I wanted to send them earlier (eager & impatient!) but Fi insisted on waiting until after the holidays!
Post # 13
Hello, I just wanted to let you know that you have plenty of time to send out your Save The Dates. Everyone who has posted so far is giving you good advice. Customarily, it is about the six month mark (if you want to get really technical). I tell all my brides that, usually, you would send your Save The Dates 6 to 8 months before the wedding if there were going to be a lot of out of town guests, a destination wedding, the date is around a holiday, etc.. If you are in contact with a lot of your guests and have already given them the information, there isn’t such a rush to get your STD’s out. Just remember that the main point for sending these in the first place is so that your guests will have enough time to make arrangements to be there for your big day! If you feel that everyone can still make those arrangements at 5 to 6 months out, then you can wait until then. Hope this helps and take care!
Post # 14
My wedding is April 5 and I sent my STDs out before Thanksgiving. I figured more than 5 months is plenty of time to make travel arrangements. Plus, STDs are still a fairly new thing, so people will appreciate any extra time you give them!