Save the Dates?! Yay or Nay

posted 3 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Right around the time that we had set our date we also moved into our new house so we just sent change of address notes and included the save the date cards…nothing elaborate, just that we were finally getting married and when.  People commented that they thought it was a great idea to send both together…it saved postage and did double duty for us.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@rhiannonzdanowicz:  I think they are important if you have a large guest list, if you have people over seas or who will need to arrange travel and time off of work, anyone who would want to stay at a near by hotel (mid 20s who want to drink)….

People need time to book travel arrangements and time off of work. 

Its also a good way to get a read on what your actual guest count will be.

Con: its extra paper, its extra money, people throw them away/dont care/dont plan accordingly

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@rhiannonzdanowicz:  We ordered these STD magnets off of ETSY.  We only had to order 50 so the price was right:

We didn’t have a destination wedding, per se, but about 80% of the guests are flying in so we wanted to make sure they had plenty of notice.   We loved them – everyone did 🙂

I say go for it.  STDs can be very easy and quick to make (assuming you aren’t putting your picture on it.) no muss, no fuss.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@rhiannonzdanowicz:  we are sending them because my future MIL kept passive agressivly asking if we were going to be sending them even after we told her we weren’t. Only 3 or 4 of our guests are traveling via plane. The rest of the 190 people invited are coming from within driving distance. Normally if people are within driving distance you dont need to send them. There really arent any set rules though, sometimes people send them because they think they are cute. We are sending them late February, about 8 months out and then we are sending the invitations out in July/August 3..5 moths out.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Nope. 

I felt that the people in my life already knew the date. As for others, if they wanted to be there, they would have. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We sent out save the dates because the vast majority of our guests were from out of state. I wanted to give people advance time to plan/save if they were planning on coming to the wedding. They were sent out in September and our invites will be going out in early March.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I did them because I thought people would need to make accomodations.  Turns out I don’t think many people are going to stay (it’s about a 40 minute drive from town).  It also turns out  a 6 month lead time wasn’t enough, because the main hotel in the small town is already booked for our date 🙁
FI thought they were pointless and gets a kick out of it when our guests ask: “So if this isn’t an invitation…what is it?” 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@rhiannonzdanowicz:  We are getting married in October, so I think save the dates are pretty crucial since that’s when a lot of people are getting married. I’d rather give people a heads up to make sure that they come to my wedding as opposed to one of the other 1028019283 others going on that month. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We were debating until my brother said “you want to send an pre invite for a wedding invite?!” 

I figure if it’s important enough, people will make arrangements to attend. If they’re unavailable, we can catch up another time 🙂

So, we aren’t sending them out!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@rhiannonzdanowicz:  Semi-destination, in that it would be for all our mutual friends and my side of the family. 2 year engagement, sent them out 9 months before wedding. Definitely worth it. Invites won’t go out until 2-3 months before hand, this allows people to plan. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@rhiannonzdanowicz:  I sent out magnets, we had a lot of people coming from out of town so we wanted to let them know earlier.  Traditionally invitations don’t go out until 8 weeks before the wedding, not a lot of time to book a flight and hotel, get time off work, etc.

Unexpected bonus, seeing our faces on all our friends’ fridges.  I still have an STD from 2011 on my fridge so I think I’m going to own some serious fridge real estate for a while 😀

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Our wedding was on a Friday night, so our guests were going to have to make work arrangements- the more notice we gave them, the better. We had a pretty high response rate-close to 95%, I think.

The nice thing about save the dates is that people generally do just that- we’re not going to book our vacation for the weekend of our friend’s June wedding.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

We sent them mostly because I just wanted to. Seemed cute and fun. We also got married in an area that books for summer very early so we wanted to give lots of notice 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We sent them bc we have guests that will need to travel. Gives them more time to plan!

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