Save the Dates – Yay or Nay?

posted 3 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Save the Dates - Yay or Nay?
    Yay : (33 votes)
    60 %
    Nay : (22 votes)
    40 %
  • Post # 3
    825 posts
    Busy bee

    I have a lot (150+) of out of town people from a lot of different ‘circles’ coming, and so a Save the Date is absolutely essential so they can make travel arrangements and what not. But if I was having a smaller/local/family only wedding, I can see people skipping them to save time and money.

    Post # 5
    310 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @ClassicLady:  I personally dont see the point in them unless they are for out of town guests. Waste of time and money. Your going to be sending out invitations anyway, why send out 2 sets of invites right …. if your worried I would just send my invitations a little earlier thats all. They have enough time to prepare. If they canèt make it , its honestly not your problem.

    Post # 6
    2657 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think they can be very helpful and appreciated.  Most of the guests at our wedding live out of state and need to book flights and hotels, so the STD gives them plenty of time to do that.  If my guests were local or we had a smaller guest list, I’d consider skipping STD’s though.

    Post # 7
    1362 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

    I think it depends from couple to couple.  For us, 100% of my family is OOT (3+ hours away, with a majority 10+ hours away).  They are also not financially well off, so I sent out STDs 12 months in advance to allow as much time as possible for them to plan a trip.

    If my entire family (or a vast majority) was local, I would not do STDs.

    Post # 8
    310 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @birdy88:  also …. all my out of town guests were on facebook, so I did a save the date event on there instead of sending them through mail. And ill be sending the actual invites when the time comes.

    Post # 9
    843 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I think they are helpful in my case since we are having a Friday wedding.  Plus when we sent them out, a family friend immediately requested to throw my shower.

    Post # 10
    975 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

    @ClassicLady:  I’m a designer too! I am doing ALL of our paper, Save the dates, invites, programs, guest book. I’m also super into scrapbooking and crafting so hand making our invites after I do the printing part, making our bouquets, card box, ceremony decor, reception deco, photo booth, ribbon wands. I love doing all this stuff and saving money helps too!

    We are doing save the dates because we are having a semi-destination wedding in a tourist town, so people will need to plan travel and accomodation ahead of time, and because they are so cute! Pretty much the only expense is the postage as we are printing them at work. They are postcards and printed double sided with the website info, accomodation info on the back. 

    Post # 11
    8720 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I always see STDs on people’s refrigerators. My guests loved that we sent them. I say YAY

    Post # 12
    4468 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @ClassicLady:  Helpful for large weddings maybe, but we had a small family-only 12 person DW, so we passed on the STDs. I don’t know how much guests really appreciate them, but I think they are a nice touch! 

    Post # 13
    5207 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @ClassicLady:  STDs are a relatively new concept. I don’t think they’re necessary unless a certain guest will require plane tickets and hotel accommodations to attend the wedding. If you can do simple ones cheaply, fine, but to go over the top with them is a waste.

    Post # 14
    10902 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I had my wedding on the Friday night of a holiday weekend, in a location that was semi-destination for my local friends and me (about 1.5 hours away) and destination for DH, all of our family members, and our other friends, and I still didn’t send STDs.

    Even though STDs are not traditional, I’m not opposed to the idea of them. However, what I dislike about them is the fact that so many couples feel pressured to send them soon after they become engaged — often a year prior to their wedding — and long before many people have finalized their budgets and, therefore, their guest lists. 

    I’ve also read stories of bees who have found themselves in difficult circumstances when an unexpected event (loss of a job, illness in the family) results in funds that previously had been committed to the wedding suddently having to be diverted elsewhere, forcing couples to cut their guest lists prior to issuing their invitations.

    Based on these factors, I personally think that sending STDs carries some risk, and there are other ways to notify (just) your most important guests of your anticipated wedding date. 

    Post # 15
    941 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    We are doing them simply because we’ve been engaged for so long that people have stopped asking “when’s the wedding?” It will be good to give them a head’s up that, yes, this thing is actually happening, earlier than just a few months ahead of time. 

    Post # 16
    705 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I’m very pro-Save the Dates! We have a lot of friends getting married right now and it helps us plan ahead so we can take time off of work for the various weddings and wedding-related events, and of course to make sure we save some time for vacations! I’ve also found that for those who are in a similar phase where it seems like everyone you know is getting married, it helps newly engaged couples plan around other friends’ wedding dates, particularly if you have a larger group of close friends that would want to be at both weddings.

    I also think it’s just polite to give people a heads-up anyways, particularly if you have a large invite list and won’t be able to talk to everyone personally to let them know about the date. As a side note, I can’t remember the last time we were invited to a wedding and didn’t receive an STD before the formal invitation! 

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