Post # 1
We got engaged in November and the wedding is in June, and these whole 5 months FI and I are long distance. I have to work in my country and it’s hard for FI to get a visa and visit me here. It’s extremely hard to be long distance, mainly because of the challenges of communication in his country: internet is rare, no skype obviously! We text each other daily, I call him once a week (phone calls are expensive) and we email a couple of times a week.. That’s about it. It’s HARD! Plus I live with depression and it feels like double burden.
I really want to go visit him before the wedding but on the other hand I could use the money and save up ..I’m not sure what to do, any advice?
Post # 3
@ALazi: for me it would depend on how much money and how much time we would actually get to spend together.
Post # 4
Go with your gut if you think you need to see him before the weddig make a budget and look at what your giving up to see him. see what is most important and if seein him is all you can think about? Go for it
Post # 5
Go see your man!!! Im in a long distance relationship as well (im in the US he’s in the caribbean) and we try to see eachother as often as possibl. That may be every 3 months, but there are times that we are both going crazy and need that physical contact. Face time is always worth the extra money!!
Post # 6
I’m in Canada he’s in the Carribean. It’s extremely hard!
Post # 7
@ALazi: Yeah, thats such a big distance. Think about it two ways, if you go see him now, you will get rid of any anxiety that you have and reduce how much you miss him. The other option is to wait until your wedding day. yes i know its a very long ways away but think of how much anticipation, excitement and other emotions that you will feel when you see him for the first time.
Everything will work out the way its supposed to but if you really have to, then go and see him. Im sure he misses you too!!!
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
I was in a LDR for 4 years…CA to UK, so I know how hard it is. We often went 6+ months without seeing each other. If you REALLY need to save money, I would not go. You will be busy wedding planning during the time, and you will be SO excited to see him for the wedding! If you can spare the expense then you should go see him, but I assume since you even posted this question, that might not be the case.