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So, I see a lot of stories on here about terrible in-laws and crazy FMILs who are insanely unhappy about everything... So, I kind of want to take a moment to be thankful that I have really lovely future in-laws. Hopefully other people will do that same.
FMIL and I don't have similar personalities, and we have different views on things. But over time, we've come to understand each other really well. Sometimes, she seems a little guarded around me, but I finally realized one day that she's just worried I'm going to get offended about something. She's been really trying hard to be helpful with the wedding stuff without stepping on my toes, and she seems like she's attempting to make the most out of it with me, since she only has sons.
FFIL is one of the sweetest men ever. He is just so kind to FMIL, and I can see where FI gets his mannerisms from. He is always reasonable and is just really interesting to chat with. He's calm and collected, and I'm thankful that he passed that on to his son.
They both treat me like I'm already part of the family, and they are so welcoming to me. They were excited they were "finally getting a daughter" whe we got engaged. They also raised a truly amazing man, and they set a beautiful example of what marriage should look like along the way. FMIL and FFIL truly love each other, and I hope that in 30 years, FI and I are as happy as FMIL and FFIL are now.
I look forward to our wedding day, and I hope I can find a way to honor both his parents on that day as well.
I am fortunate to have in-laws that are allowing my hubby and I to live in their home rent free while they are away in Japan. This is allowing us to pay off debt and save money for a down payment on our new home.
my inlaws live right next door but always respect our privacy and boundries and my MIL does all my ironing - they are keepers!
There's not one negative thing I can say about my FIL. I seriously adore them to pieces. FI and I live together in their house, we are renovating the basement so we can move downstairs and they have been helping us big time.
FMIL does not want us to pay any rent, all she wants is for us to help around the house with groceries, or pay some bills. I mean how great is that.
They treat me like their own daughter. FMIL is my business partner, we have a cake business together. FFIL drives me to the bus station every morning when FI is working. She drives me everywhere I need to go, picks me up after.
They have been married for almost 38 years and you can still see the love between them, it's awesome to see.
Seriously, I have been blessed with my FI and his parents.
I feel really lucky to have such great FIL's. His mother has been a little hard to crack, but I have worked hard and now after seven years we have made some great progress, especially since we became engaged. As for the rest of the family from day one I have felt like a member of the family, extended family etc. There are some cultural differences, they are italian and I'm an Aussie, but over time we have all grown to understand eachother and our ways. I'm marrying into a lovely family.
@bridetobe7844: I feel you on the tough to crack thing. I thought for the longest time FI's mom disliked me. Turns out, she's just a little reserved!
@couawilou: That is just so sweet of them!!
@eloping: Mine doesn't iron, but she does cook for me sometimes :-)
@melisslp: That is like the BEST. It shows they really care about you both.
@miz fizzix: must admit im not a fan of my MIL's cooking but she makes great pork chops!
oh my inlaws gave us $20K about 2mths ago as a "give it now before we die" gift - im spending it on the house :)
ummmmm.....theygave birth to a handsome son! lol
Seriously though, FFIL passed away so i never got a chance to meet him but i heard he was an amazing man and dad and know my FI is going to be just like him. My FMIL....loves her kids...its the outsiders she has the issue with.
@eloping: LOL...my FMIL doesn't cook the best either. (She's never met a recipe she's cared to follow, so things can be "interesting" sometimes.) Last week she attempted a peach cobbler, and the top crust had the consistency of white craft glue.
But she tries, and I think it's the thought that counts.
@miz fizzix: yes it was. they gave each of their sons (there are 3) $20K so the other brothers are also doing house renos i noticed when iwalked passed their houses yesterday..... did i mention i married a good greek man so we all live in the same street :)
i know for my BIL & SIL having my inlaws was great, they do the before and after school runs which have been a great help. my SIL ering has my MIL's centre stone - i was a bit jealous at the time (because its a great stone) but its all good
My FMIL bakes an amazing pineapple upside-down cake!
And she got super excited when we announced our official engagement... took me to Hobby Lobby because she said I just had to see what they have for wedding stuff! LOL!
@Stellar Magnitude: That's awesome, mine took me to Micheals lol
My FFIL is a very sweet man and is always so calm and reasonable. My FMIL has her moments but really they are not that bad. She is a really nice lady, just a little sensitive at times. She treats me as her daughter. Since I have never been overly close with my mom, it is a new experience but still nice. I have never had a problem being comfortable around them, which is a big plus. My ex-fiance's mother was nice but made me uncomfortable at times and could be a little intense. I even went dress shopping with just my FMIL and she cried when I found my dress. In fact, she cried both times I tried it on. She was also very careful not to influence my decisions or as she put it "be like those horrible people on say yes to the dress." And she bought my veil and hairpiece because she was so excited that I invited her.
My FILs do have their hearts in the right place.
Although FFIL and I got along from the start, it took FMIL a few years to warm up to me (if I had to guess, it was warming up to the idea that her son had a girlfriend, and I think she was afraid I wouldn't encourage him to follow his dreams). It was Christmas of FI's first year at grad school. He lived about 5 hours away, and while the drive wasn't too bad, I would mostly fly. For Christmas, they got me a gift certificate to an airline. That was when I realized that they were happy that I was still with FI, and that I want the same things for him as they do.
@eloping: That is TOO funny. It reminds me of "My Big Fat Greek Wedding".
@couawilou: Oh I love me some Michael's. I'm in there constantly
It reminds me of "My Big Fat Greek Wedding".
you have no idea... it really IS my life! so many similarities that its scary :)
@Stellar Magnitude: I hear you. I was at 2 different Michael's last weekend. And JoAnn Fabrics, Hobby Lobby and Old Time Pottery. Gotta love wedding crafts.
My in-laws have always treated my daughter from my prior marriage just like one of their own biological grandchildren. I love them for that.
@eloping: I'm Greek! My family isn't that similar to the movie, although...I guess they are in some ways. :)
My FMIL and FFIL have supported me emotionally through some trying times which I will never forget. They are both kind and I feel genuine love from them...which is all I could ask for.
They also will be a HUGE help with the grandkids I think!
I'm already married, but I love my in laws! The day of the rehearsal dinner, they rented chairs and tables at the last minute (some plans fell through), and MIL even bought beautiful rose bouquets as centerpieces. They even let us go with our crazy Q'Doba catering idea even though it wasn't what they were expecting :).
Throughout DH's and I's relationship, they've always been supportive and friendly. I really couldn't ask for better in laws!
My in-laws don't really have any negatives from my perspective. They've welcomed me with open arms.
My FIL's are the greatest!! FI and I have been together for 11 years, and they have treated me as part of the family since the first time we met. They have always been 100% supportive of us, and so loving.
FMIL is the sweetest ever. Our personalities are different (I am loud, she is more reserved), but she appreciates the me-ness of me, and I love that. She is also incredibly supportive of me as a mother; which is invaluable.
FFIL is the nicest guy in the world. He is also a ton of fun! His bond with FI now is great, and I love seeing how father and son can grow to be great friends. He has always loved me like a daughter, and is always telling FI that he is lucky to have me. :) I hope they know that I feel just as lucky to have FI.
We are blessed with wonderful family all the way around. Love this post!!
FIL is a wonderful artist and a very interesting man to talk to. He's very neat and doesn't hold a grudge. He's been very generous and forgiving with his kids.
MIL is very unique and is being brave about a different transition period in her life. She loves her kids and has been open to finding common ground with me.
SIL caused no drama during our wedding and was generally very kind.
I love my FIs family! My FMIL is this amazing little thing that rides her bike all over her little town doing what ever she can to help anyonr who needs it. She was just voted citizen of the year in her home town! She loves and accepts me for who I am...and that is asking a lot! LOL
My FFIL is very quiet I haven't really gotten to know him but he is excatly like my FI. Everyone swears that they are twins born 30 years apart!
I really do like all of my FIs siblings but he has one sister that I feel the closest too. I just wish we didn't live so far away from her.
My FIL's gave birth to my FH, that's enough right there 
But his mom has also taken the lion's share of the planning off my back while I'm in school and working. We have a tight deadline for the wedding and I couldn't have done it without the extra help. FFIL even went scouting and booked our reception site on his own! Let's just hope the interactions for the rest of our lives go this smoothly!
They had a son:) and they are building a house and we get the current house they live in now and get to live rent free!! I like them, just don't agree with their ways some of the time:)
FFIL is the type of man who will change your windhsield wipers if you mention they're getting a little streaky. He won't say anything about it; he'll just go to Wal-Mart after dinner, change them, and you'll notice it the next time it rains.
FMIL is the sweetest little lady. She's super-quiet and very traditional. She saves all of Fi's school projects and loves to tell me stories about his childhood.
I love this thread!
FFIL is a very handy, helpful man. He likes to be able to help us out in our new home in his own way. FSMIL(step) is really supportive and bakes *amazing* desserts (she runs a bakery). FBIL is my favorite. :) Lol. He and I are a lot alike and FI and FBIL's GF are a lot alike. We are a cool group. Haha... By the way, I used way too many abbreviations in that short little paragraph.
FMIL and FSFIL are not ones that would go on this thread. I will say, I haven't been around them enough to create a complete opinion even though we've been together for years.
My FIL's are amazing. First of all, they made my handsome and, beautiful inside & out, FI. They are like my second parents. They let me move in with them and FI for awhile when things weren't going great at home with my mom when I lived there. His mom takes care of me like her own daughter. They took FI and I on a free trip to Vegas last summer for my birthday/a fun family vacation. I could not ask for better FIL's. I could go on forever about how wonderful they are. I feel very fortunate, especially after reading on some of these boards and seeing what some people say about theirs. It breaks my heart.
I really love my FILs too. They are really sweet and accepting of me. His mom gives me presents just like she gives her own family, even when I'm not there for Christmas/my birthday. So sweet!
My FIL's are amazing people who accepted me into their family from day one. They are young at heart, adventurous and hilarious. I am truly blessed to be joining their family and taking on their name.
I don't always get on with my in-laws. I don't think they've ever really liked me but they've sort of learned to accept the fact that they wouldn't be able to convince my fiance to give me up.
That said, this is about saying something nice... They've always stepped in to help support my FH whenever he has been hit by unexpected financial issues (when he lost his job they paid his share of the mortgage for six months, they've paid for fixing the car at times and things like that, plus they used to slip him an envelope of cash every now and then).
They're very generous! They're helping my family out a lot with the wedding and not asking for a single bit of control or say in anything, they are allowing me/us to choose what we love.
They are good to their friends- they have tons of friends that they've been close to year decades, I hope that FI and I are like that when we are their age!
They do a lot for him/us!
I know my future in laws aren't perfect but I do appreciate the fact that they take care of me as if I was their daughter, despite the language barrier. Also appreciate the way that they are accepting and loving of our "son" Mochi - our papillon doggy.
My future in laws are amazing!! Ever since I started dating my fiance years ago, they have always made me feel like part of the family. I didn't meet them for 9 months when we first started dating as they were in TX and I was up in the Northeast. During that time, his Mom sent me a Christmas present. She hadn't even met me yet and she sent me a present! She is the sweetest woman. I feel very fortunate to be marrying into such a great family :)
My in-laws are fantastic. FIL is a gruff but sweet man to his kids, he truly loves them and is always there for them. My own father and I are estranged so I have loved seeing my husband and his father interact and how sweet they are together... in a very manly Southern way :) My MIL is a mama bear for her kids - she's always been so nice to me but once she started realizing that DH and I were a team package, she stopped putting him first and started considering us a package deal and looking out for both of our future interests. I love them both :)
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