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Maybe its just me, but I can not believe that people actually pay $5,000 to $10,000 for a dress!! That is just crazy!!! I thought that spending $1000 was too much!
Can you tell that my fiance has a accounting degree?? lol
I agree, I paid $1750 for mine which was way more than I was planning on but I fell in love. Although I have seen some beautiful dresses on the show I haven't seen anything I would trade my dress for.
I want to know what these people do for a living that they can afford that much for a dress!!
The ones that go for the $5+ dresses are never paying for it themselves. It's mommy or daddy or grandma or aunt so-and-so.
I paid $1100 and I think it was appropriate. I had given myself a $1500 budget and I was damn happy to have come under it. If I was in a better financial situation and my budget allowed room I still don't think I could spend over $2k on a dress I would wear once. There was a bee on here that spent like $15K on her dress, that is almost my entire wedding budget...I was like "Whaaa"
I know! I wish I had someone to pay for my dress or some of my wedding!! We're paying for it all (minus about 8,000)
I paid for it out of my pocket, and it felt really good to make such a large purchase. (lol because a house isn't large enough lol)
i agree, it's a lot of money (or at least for me), but i kind of LOVE it when people buy the super expensive dresses--maybe because i'm living vicariously! isn't it fun?
I started out looking between $1K-$2K but to my huge disappointment everything I liked was $5K or above. I'm not normally a brand name girl so had no idea I had "couture taste" in wedding dresses. In the end I shelled out $4K which I thought was a reasonable (if not happy) medium.
I work in finance and this was my financial justification...If I buy the dress for $4K and resell it for half that, I'm still exactly where I wanted to be. Looking at preowned sites showed me that a designer dress from a recent collection will sell easily at that price if it's in good condition. So I just must be careful not to spill red wine on it during the reception (which would BAD anyway).
@misspug - Oh, totally! Whenever i watch SYTTD I'm always on the couch yelling "GO FOR THE PNINA!"
I think its very interesting to say the least! I guess the reason we cant understand is because we dont have money like some of those people do you know? The ones that are not caring about the 15k wedding dress price are probably not to worried about money hehe
But I agree it is soooo mind boggling. i actually am more proud of myself when i find a really great deal! My dress was 349.99 dollars and its beautiful. go me! haha
Oh and I'm paying for the dress and almost the entire wedding myself. Out of my hard earned savings accumulated thru the years. Paid to be frugal until now :)
I saw one the other day where the girl had this specific dress in mind, tried it on and the price tag was between 15-20k. Her parents talked the salespeople down to about 11k and she ended up getting the sample dress in the store - which needed to be fixed up because the lace on the bottom was ripped. I can't imagine spending 11k on a dress, but especially not if I had to 'settle' for an 11k dress which was all ripped up and would need a ton of repair work!
I think its alittle interesting that everyone is bashing girls for spending more on their dresses. I think that people are in different financial situations and shouldnt be judged for that. I bought an expensive dress, but my mommy and daddy did not pay for it. I dont think its right to judge others for what they spend. Im pretty sure everyone wouldnt like it if someone started a thread bashing girls who bought cheap wedding dresses. So what if there was a girl on here that bought a dress for 15k or someone spends over 30k on their wedding, they are obviously able to financially.
@saldaq - The thread was originally about SYTTD and I was talking about the girls that are actually on the show, who like 99.9% of the time do not pay for their own dresses. Believe me, if I had the money, I'd splurge on the dress in a heartbeat! No criticism here.
@saldag: Thank you for your comment. I love wedding bee, and definitely read it every day, but I struggle at the amount of talk bashing girls who are spending a fair amount on their wedding. Personally, I am financially blessed and will be having a platinum wedding. I don't believe the amount a person spends on their wedding says anything about them or should be judged. A wedding may be tacky or beautiful regardless of what was spent on it.
sorry @kittyachi - you posted while I was writing. (If I had seen your good logic, I may not have posted). Thanks!
I think some things just cost more - like heavy pure silk - or an edgier design. Unfortunately David's Bridal doesn't knock off the less mainstream designer looks, and they just can't replicate the detail on some dresses for their customers price point. You get what you pay for and a 10k dress may be done in hand-pieced lace work or what have you that costs an arm and a leg.
And it sure is fun to watch the more extravagant dresses get tried on! I squealed when one of the brides picked my dress on the show - I was just lucky the FI wasn't home watching it with me that night.
I'm definitely a to each their own type of person. While it seems crazy, to ME, to spend that much, if other people can afford it (and aren't going into debt for it!), more power to them. And honestly, in some ways I'm envious! I would have loved to be able to spend that kind of money on a totally amazing dress!
The main thing that annoys me about Say Yes to the Dress is that the consultants seem to get annoyed when brides don't buy the dress that very day. What other $10K purchase do you make without going home first and sleeping on it/researching your other options? For that matter, I would probably sleep on a $1K purchase too!!!
I think it's great if a bride has the money to buy a crazy expensive dress - I'm with everyone else, though, I hate it when they're expecting their mom or grandmother or aunt (or whoever) to pay for it and that poor person is sitting there going "Um, the dress is HOW much?" and the bride's all "Yeah, it's fine! They totally don't mind!"
Nobody bashes anyone for buying a $50 wedding dress, and no one should bash a bride for buying a $5,000 wedding dress.
Some people worked hard, did well in school and have great jobs. Some people work 80 hours a week. Some people live in a cheap apartment or don't have other niceties like a car or cable and put the extra money in a wedding fund. And there are those people who go into debt for a wedding but eventually pay it off. Why does anyone have cable? Why does anyone buy anything other than a used car? Are they crazy? Don't they know they could save thousands of dollars? See how silly this sounds? Different people have different priorities, welcome to life.
But as long as the bride isn't living off of taxpayer largesse, and thus isn't hurting you, why judge or care? Other than jealousy.
Ha - I had to tell my consultant (Keasha) to stop listening to my mom's opinions on what was and wasn't too expensive. I saved up to buy my dress myself, while my mom suggested I rent one. So yeah - definitely didn't ask my parents to pay for the dress!
Personally I dont think its a big deal. Its like everything in life some people drive really expensive cars others drive modest cars. Some people shop at neiman marcus while others shop at H&M, and it goes on and on. Thats just the way life goes, I dont think its right to criticize others. Expensive Designer dresses are made totally different from less expensive ones and you can tell the difference. I think if you have the money its worth it. You only get one chance to wear a beautiful wedding dress, I think every girl deserves to get her dream dress whatever price that may be. Although I agree no one should EXPECT their parents to pay for it, most mothers dream of the day they get to go dress shopping and purchase their daughters gown. I know that I would love to do that one day if I have a daughter.
Wow. For the first time, I feel offended by reading a Weddingbee post. Its kind of really condescending that someone would say that "mommy and daddy" are paying for expensive gowns. My parents gifted me my wedding dress out of the bottom of their gracious hearts, however FI and I are paying for our wedding, and working our butts off to afford it. And yes, it is well over 30 K, and I don't feel that we should be judged for that. :( Sad bee.
SaidYES- but did your parents go into debt buying you the dress? Were you concious of prices they were comfortable in? A lot of brides in that show have no remorse in making their parents pay a lot knowing they cant afford it. theres a difference. my father paid for my dress but he gave me a budget of 500. and you know what ? I respected it and didnt go above it. :)
nothing wrong with parents gifting a dress under the right circumstances
Wow, girls. I don't think we should be judging other brides and their families for how they prioritize how they spend their money. It's not our money that they are spending, and they should decide how to allocate that money.
I would never spend $5k on a dress...but then I make 25k a year. If I had more money, you'd bet I would consider a more expensive dress!
@osakagrl -- Who are we to say what the right circumstances are? We aren't inside the parents decision to give that money. And even if the bride begs for the money, the parents can still say no.
I am (hopefully) putting a downpayment on my dress THIS SATURDAY! Personally, I plan on spending $2000 to $3000 of my mom's money on the dress. This came about because she wanted to make the dress, but we went to a little boutique last spring for fun that custom makes dresses, and she was blown away. My mom is a highly skilled seamstress, but just loved the fabric and construction quality, and decided she would rather we work with these talented people.
Growing up the way I did with a great seamstress in the house, I've always really cared about fabric quality and cut. I don't have a ton of clothing because I would rather own 10 great outfits than 40 mediocre things. My dress is just an extension of that. I don't think we would have considered anything but high-end silk.
At the same time, I've seen women rock inexpensive dresses. Frankly, probably only my mom and I will ever really know or care about the quality of my dress!
Wow I think this post was really innocent and is getting blown out of proportion. I think the brides on budget were very open in saying they WISH someone would buy them a more expensive dress. I don't think there is any need for people to get defensive. We all have different circumstances and there is no need to get snarky by saying others are jealous or that cheaper dresses are less nice.
Okay, can I be a little catty and say that I do laugh when girls drop five figures on giant, horrifying concoctions covered in poofs, ruffles, lace, AND beads!
I can't help it! Poofy sleeves with cathedral trains, covered in beads is like eye-bleach to me.
@ mrskesslertobe it wasnt really innocent. Sure some people said they wish they could afford it, but others were saying it is ridiculous and pointing out specific girls on here that spent more on their dresses. And people only said the quality of cheaper dresses is different, not that they are not pretty. Its a fact that most expensive designer dresses are made with better quality fabric and structured differently.
"Expensive Designer dresses are made totally different from less expensive ones and you can tell the difference"
I just wanted to say that both sides got defensive here. Personally I am proud that my FI are working hard to pay for our wedding ourselves. If other people have different circumstances then great for them.
I'd love to spend that much on a dress :D and I don't knock anyone that can. Things in NYC are very different due to the cost of living, etc. a 5000 dress in NYC is more like a 2500 or something like that dress everywhere. However, if I could afford a more expensive dress, PNINA, I'm coming for you lol!! However since I'm on the lower end of the budget spectrum, hello classifieds lol!!
That quote is true, its like saying a mercedes is made better than a honda. I dont see what is the big deal there. It wasnt directly attacking someone like this "There was a bee on here that spent like $15K on her dress, that is almost my entire wedding budget...I was like "Whaaa"" I know which girl shes referring to. And thats great that youre paying for your own wedding and so am I .
It is highly inappropriate to bash anyone for the amount of money they spent on their wedding dress or anything else for that matter. We all know our own budgets and what we can and cannot afford. If you want to spend $50 on a wedding dress.. You go girl! If you want to spend $50,000 on a wedding dress... You go girl! And if your parents or another family member happens to be paying the bill. You go girl. Does it really matter? We should all be on here supporting one another's decision to spend what we spend on our wedding items. NOT on here talking trash about girls spending more than $1,000 on a wedding dress. IT SHOULD NOT MATTER TO YOU HOW MUCH THEY SPENT. Keep it positive ladies. Keep it positive. 
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