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Do you guys ever watch Say Yes to the Dress, Big Bliss? First off I hate that name and think its very insulting. Secondly, do these women really think they look good. I watched a marathon yesterday before I went out and I couldn't believe some of the dresses they picked. I mean seriously. I am a big girl so I can judge, right? LOL. You never put a fat chick in a mermaid dress, it looks like 5 pounds of crap in a 2 pound bag. AND the girls with the big arms, SLEEVES ARE YOU FRIENDS.
EVERY picture I have seen here of all of you in your dresses you look fantastic. Everbody here seems to understand how to dress....I think we all need to go to Kleinfields and teach them a thing or two.
xoxo
As a former "big girl" the name of the show pisses me off. With that being said, I have seen a few episodes and I agree with you. They seem to put them in the most unflattering dresses possible. I feel like sometimes it is done just for the cameras. When I was big I knew what worked on me and what didn't, and I can tell ya, mermaids never worked!
I recently saw one where the bride went back to the dressing room bawling her eyes out because her family was picking on her. The real kicker was that her mom was bigger than her. I wanted to punch her.
That is what I am talking about. One girl was about 8 times bigger than her sister and she was trying to get a better dress than her sister and it was horrible. At that size you are not going to top her so why try?
My seamstress told me that I picked the perfect dress for my size. Hides every flaw that is possibly can. I honestly look about 2 sizes smaller that I am. I love it. Wasn't my idea dress on the rack but on me, its perfect!
I might email TLC that that name is offensive, LOL
@Legallyblondiebride: I just saw something similar on the Atlanta version. Her horrible mother said she looked like a linebacker. I felt so bad for her. What are people thinking?
@GroovyHippieChick: I know, some people can be so awful, and I feel so bad for those girls. I will never forget how awful I felt about myself after I gained over 50 pounds. People treat you different and say mean things. People suck.
yes they do, but I am what I am and it doesn't change me on the inside. Fat I can change, Ugly you can't lmao
@GroovyHippieChick: Oh my god, I watched that episode the other night and was astounded by that girl's HORRIBLE family. Ugh. She looked beautiful in most of the dresses and they ripped her to shreds.
OP - I haven't watched any eps for the fat girl spinoff version, but I'm not sure I want to with your description. I usually think SYTD does a good job putting the girls in great dresses, but this one just seems to invite people to make fun of larger women trying to look pretty.
Though I have to say... why couldn't a big girl have a "better" dress or look better in her wedding dress than her smaller sister? I'm not sure why that's supposedly impossible.
@jocember: because all of the dresses they were putting her in made her look like an elephant, LMAO
You ladies are funny. I am a small lady (sorry) and never even thought about the title. You guys are right the name is not very nice. But I do agree, some of the ladies don't look that good in the dress especially a mermaid but then again, I looked pretty bad in a mermaid. But think about it, it is hard to see a wedding dress in magazines when the models are a size 0 and is 6 ft tall. It's totally different in your true size. I am 5'2 and loved every dress in the magazine, even dreamed of a mermaid style dress (smh) then I got a reality check when I went to try them on. Maybe they should have a "Say Yes to the Dress- Short and Sassy" :)
I've never been big but the name of the show also bothers me. I don't understand why they have to have seperate shows based on the girl's size. I also can't believe some of the things that are said to the girls. Many of them have self esteem issues as is and to say stuff like that makes me want to slap the people who said it.
Agreed, its an aweful title. Some of the dresses those girls pick are not flattering at all. Maybe they like how they look in a mermaid dress! I agree that other styles would make them look so much better, but im sure those people at Kleinfields have a hard time trying to get them into something more flattering when they have their heart set on a certain style. Why cant they have one for petite girls! They have a harder time probley finding a dress and have to get it altered like mad!
@GroovyHippieChick: I saw that episode too. I'm thinking her mother is just miserable... especially with the nasty things she was saying about the father. Thank God for him telling his daughter that she's beautiful and showing some emotion. :)
That episoide was so sad. Seeing her walk off crying made my heart hurt. I hope when her family saw that they fet horrible. The sad fact tho is they probably laughed at her again. People like that just don't care.
I agree. The name or the show is horrid!
I refuse to watch the show simply because of the name. It is so insulting to those who are full figured and those who have been. I dont like any show that focuses exclusively on the weight of its subjects (including weight loss shows). Full figured gals go through the same problems picking out a dress as a small girl. And to make an entire show about how much harder it is only continues on a negative steroetype.
Also, from what I've seen from SYTTD before the spinoff, the store really doesn't know how to dress big girls. Or their designers are not flattering for the shapes and sizes.
@ohmybears48: I agree with you 100%. I am a full figured, large chested girl. I would NEVER wear a strapless dress or a mermaid dress. Niether one would do a THING for my figure....
Randy from SYTTD answered my tweet!
@Ms. Gertie: I am curious what the positive message is exactly.
In the words of my oh so thoughtful FI "why do the bigger girls need their own show?" I completely agree. Instead of seperating the plus size ladies to be ostracized why can't they just continue to be part of the original SYTTD? It baffles me completely. Can you imagine if they had a SYTTD "Skinny Satification."
On a side note I don't really watch Big Bliss simply because they continue to put the women in the same few dresses, including the ever abundant Adorae.
@Treejewel19: I have yet to see a dress at Kleinfield's that I would even bother to give a second glance.
Did anybody see the episode where the woman picked out two dresses that cost 50K? She said her fiance would wash dishes for 7 years to pay for what she wanted its disgusting!
I totally saw that episode where they called the girl a linebacker too and I felt so sad for her!!! My DVR records all SYTTD and when I was watching the other day I noticed it was called "Big Bliss" for the first time and I actually thought to myself... wow that's a little offensive.
Maybe the need a SYTTD: Little People
SYTTD: Alternative Marriages
SYTTD: Gypsies
SYTTD: Gothic
I could go on and on.....why segregate?
@Treejewel19: Agreed. What if they had a show that was about skinny size zero girls looking for a dress? People would be freaking!
@Treejewel19: I've always thought that! I watch it sometimes just because I feel like I can "relate" to them more but I'd really love it if there were women of all sizes in the original SYTTD. Ya know, like how it is in real life? Gah. Shame on TLC.
I have seen bigger ladies wearing mermaid dresses and they have looked good it in, so i dont think its about size but more about body proportions
@bells: in all the Big Bliss shows I have watched I have never seen a big girl look good in a mermaid dress *shrug*
@Treejewel19: I am curious what the positive message is exactly.
In the words of my oh so thoughtful FI "why do the bigger girls need their own show?" I completely agree. Instead of seperating the plus size ladies to be ostracized why can't they just continue to be part of the original SYTTD? It baffles me completely. Can you imagine if they had a SYTTD "Skinny Satification."
Yes! That is my thinking too. And you're right they keep using the same dresses.
I have to say though, I've seen a few plus sized brides that have been put in a dress and it made them look a lot smaller than they actually were. Like a "wow" moment. I want one of THOSE moments when I go get my dress. LOL
It would be nice to include more plus size brides in the original show rather than segregating them, but I personally like the idea of the show. (I haven't watched a whole episode, only clips online... no satellite or cable TV at home!) It's tough enough doing dress research, not knowing what a gown will look like on me because all the "plus size" models aren't any bigger than a 10. It's nice not having to wait around to see dresses made for plus sizes.
I get bored with the original SYTTD because almost all the brides are thin. I can't relate to their "Woe is me, I look amazing in every dress" dilemmas. Pffft. Besides, clothing designers have ignored the plus size community long enough. Checking out the "Big Bliss" clips, it was really cool to see other women with big bellies and large busts trying on gowns and looking beautiful, in spite of whatever their rude family and friends had to say.
As far as the name goes, I flat-out refer to myself as fat so I find it hard to muster any outrage at use of the word "big," but there was probably a time I would have have found it offensive too. I'm just glad fluffy women are getting some attention that isn't all about losing weight or being the butt of fat jokes. :)
I love the show, but I think they need just one. Why segregate body sizes? Just have a good mix of everyone. Big and small girls all have the same body issues. I just feel like if they had a version called "tiny bliss or skinny bliss" people would be super angry! I think they need to have more gay and lesbian couples on the show, or what about super petite girls? I'm sure they have a very hard time too.
Big Bliss ticks me off too! Why does there even need to be a plus size version of the show to begin with. Where is the Skinny Bliss version? UGH!
I agree, the title sucks. And I really don't understand how these "experts" can't manage to pick good dresses for bigger ladies. I mean, it's all about the body proportions, not JUST the fact that they are bigger. If you can dress the curves of a size 8 why can't you dress the curves of a size 18? It's stupid. I went into my dress appt and said, "I do not want your typical "big girl" dresses. I want X style, it looks good on my shape."
Btw, I do think strapless looks good on some. Sleeves make my shoulders look BIGGER and don't de-emphasize them at all. I tried a few on, and they were totally unflattering.
I really like the SYTTD show, and I think that the concept of "Big Bliss" was the realization that the plus sized brides on the original series were probably popular with the brides watching and discussing the show. I like the fact that the show features women who aren't afraid to push the envelope in wearing something that they love! And I notice that there are always moments that the bride's feelings don't match the viewers.
@MrsBlueSeptember: I am not sure of what you are looking for but David's Bridal just upped their selection BIG TIME for the plus sized dresses. If you see my picture in my thread First Fitting, my dress makes me look at least 3 sizes smaller than I am. The dress I picked just came out in August at DB, so I am probably one of the first to wear it for my wedding.
You WILL find a dress that you love and makes you look perfect for your wedding day!
@automaticflowers: The title may work for you but as a person who was bullied my ENTIRE life and still am to this day I take great offense to BIG BLISS. I am person. I should not be defined by my shape, size, color, sexual orientation. I should be defined because I am me :)
@bells: i was thinking the same thing. I saw an episode on sunday that featured a girl who was a plus sized model and she ended up choosing a mermaid style gown taht actually really flattered her figure. sure, it was a little more belly than i would have thought would be comfortable for her (and i'm not a big girl so maybe i am not entirely accurate), but she looked so great--very curvy and confident and as she put it, it "emphasized all the right curves". it was realy flattering on her.
Edit: I should add that what i'm trying to articulate is, while the name does seem like it would be offensive, i am always happy to see a 'big' bride with tons of confidence who knows she looks good and doesn't give a shit what her family says.
@akp0702: I saw that one too. She had great confidence but I agree that dress did nothing for her.
If you aren't a large girl and never have been, its hard to understand that insulting nature of the title :(
@Ms. Gertie: I just went and looked. You look great! I am so dreading trying on dresses. I'm sure I will find something...just nervous.
@MrsBlueSeptember: The thing is I went in with NO expectations of what I wanted or what would look good. I just took my MOH with me and she was awesome. She knew just want would make me look slimmer and what would work for my body frame. This girl could be a wedding planner, for sure!
Don't take too many people with you it can get overwhelming. Take somebody you trust to be honest, not tell you for the sake of it that you look good.
Good Luck!
@AmeliaBedelia Btw, I do think strapless looks good on some. Sleeves make my shoulders look BIGGER and don't de-emphasize them at all. I tried a few on, and they were totally unflattering.
I agree about sleeveless looking good for some bigger women. Even if they have big arms. Sometimes, a cap or full sleeve makes them look larger.
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