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I waited to say yes, but it was totally on accident! He caught me completely off guard, and I was too busy making sure he wasn't playing some horrible prank on me to remember to say yes. Finally after a few minutes he prompted me to actually answer him...then I said yes. :)
i don't think your reaction is something you can plan. i always thought of how it would go, and it didn't go that way at all. i also accidently waited. he left me kind of speechless so i didn't know what to do but kiss him, and then he said that he assumes that's a yes. but even if i could plan it, i wouldn't have waited on purpose. they go through all that effort in getting a ring and proposing, and i don't want him thinking i had any doubts or i had to think about my response.
LOL how diabolical! Seems only fair to make them wait 1/100000th of the time us ladies have to wait! Buuuut IDK if Id be able to resist screaming 'yes'..Ill let you know how it goes when that question comes :)
I accidentally waited to say yes a lil bit lol. He caught me off guard and we were in front of both of all our families and I was so speechless. Someone in the crowd shouted "say yes!" lol
I didnt realize i had taken a long time to say yes lol, I guess I was just taking it all in
if i'm in my right mind, i would totally milk the answer because that's the kind of thing i like to do. but i probably won't be so oh well. lol. though my guy is definitely miserable for making us wait to get engaged. poor thing.
Thats so funny, but I think when I'm in the moment, I wouldn't even remember to do it.
i knew i wasnt going to wait to say yes to him, but what did catch me off guard was the uncontrollable shaking within my body that ensued after it all sunk in that he asked me to be his wife!! hehehe i felt like i was going to pass out in his arms!
matter of fact, a minute or so after i said yes, I was also sobbing uncontrollably and asking him "you really do want to marry me??!?!!" hahahaha it was classic.
SO FAR NOT YET....
But with all the hints I'm getting form our families I wish it would. Plus we will be separated for the next 2 weekends so I assume it won't happen until June 12 at the earliest. Fingers crossed!
I agree in that it is hard to know what your reaction will be! You try to think of all these wonderful things to say or do in that moment...but I was so caught off guard, I squealed (ok squeaked...like a chipmunk! brutal...) "Really?!" to which he said "Yeah" and so I said "Yes". Did I want to squeal...no. But it happened! And now he laughs about it haha...I do too...but it is still a little embarrassing!
Dance that is funny. I guess you can't plan your reaction. I just ask that the engagement God smile upon me and allow me to have flawless hair, skin and nails that day. So at least I'll look damn good while squealing! 
You definately cannot plan your reaction....I actually asked "is this mine?" about the ring! Haha no, you moron, he borrowed someone else's!! DUR
Then after a few minutes I was like "oh crap, I didn't answer you did I?"
I didn't mean to, but i didn't say yes right away and it made him so nervous! He thought that maybe then wasn't a good time and that maybe he should put the ring back and wait! My response was "are you f-ing kidding?!" I was so surprised!!! I did say yes right after a moment of disbelief though and then he felt better!
I said yes right away--actually, growing up, my mother impressed upon me the importance of saying yes right away as it's mean to make him wait, so there was no way I could have resisted; it's ingrained! (Um, saying yes as in yes, I will marry you or yes, I will go on a date with you--not yes right away on OTHER issues of note...)
Ha ha! I was thinking that was sort of mean until I got to the part where you're still acting happy and like you're going to say yes but then I realized that's almost exactly what I did! lol I was so surprised and was too busy grinning like a fool wondering if it was really happened that he had to prompt me to answer him while I was hugging him. Come to think of it, I just said Of Course! In a well, duh tone of voice! :-)
My first reaction was "Are you serious??!" cause it totally caught me unawares. Then when I realized he was serious, and he looked nervous as heck, I decided to have a my few seconds of fun/torture. I had waited 5 years after all! So I said "Hmm, well let me see how big the ring is first.."Obviously it was a joke because I'm not materialistic at all, but I still saw his face turn white :D Then I said "I'm kidding baby, of course I say yes!". Him squirming on one knee is now part of the fond memory for both of us, he laughs begrudgingly.
Hahaha I thought I had everything planned before my FI asked me. But I was completely thrown off guard (we were in a freaking cemetary for peet sakes!) and reacted the complete opposite of what I had thought: I laughed- I would have bet money that I would have cried; I swore- I never in a million years would have thought the f-bomb would come out of my mouth during the proposal; and I was wearing sweats- I invisioned being nicely dressed with make-up on at least!
I think waiting to say yes is a hilarious idea, but I wouldn't count on it if he really throws you for a loop like mine did!
I wish I could wait and make him wonder, but I already know I'll be crying and nodding!lol
I waited to say yes, but not on purpose. He still teases me! I watched him with the ring and after he finished asking I just stood there for a few seconds..then I said, "Yes!"....he jokes about it still because I'm not a quiet person at all and here I was speechless. :)
The asking in marriage is an old fashioned thing really. There should not be any concerns about you saying yes or no because you should have talked about it lots by that point.
So no, I think it would be a silly to "wait" and wreck such a beautiful moment.
I think you should do whatever you want, but consider your reasons for doing it. If you want to enjoy seeing your SO feeling uncomfortable, that's just mean. If you want to say something in response to the proposal, or to just savor the moment, go for it!
My guy forgot to ASK me!! I was so overwhelmed and surprised that I just ran up to him and started pushing him saying "are you kidding me? Seriously!!!???" and I think he was a little stunned. Eventually he just said "So?" (He never did say "will you marry me" but it was pretty clear) and I was like, "oh, right...yes! of course!"
So yah, I guess I did make him wait... not on purpose.
This seems pretty silly and juvenile to me. If you relish on making your future fiance uncomfortable, maybe you aren't mature enough to get married.
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So we all have our dream man and we know we are getting the ring. But from reading all the posts, it seems like most of the SOs are having too much fun with making the ladies wait to get the ring. I know it's due to planning, timing, saving, and wanting it to be a special surprise, but you know deep down he is enjoying every moment of watching you squirm.
So here's the question; Is it ok to make him wait also? When he asks you for your hand in marriage. Could you hug and kiss him, cry, tell him how happy you are, look at the ring, take some deep breaths, act speechless, and finally say yes.
I don't think guys breathe until they actually hear yes. Even though he knows you will say yes those 3 minutes he would feel what you felt while you were waiting.
I don't think I'll do this unless he makes me wait a long time. But it just sounds funny.
Would you do this?
BTW: A great guy friend of ours (SO & myself) suggested I drop hints by turning everything into ring. Like for dinner cook engagement chicken and onion rings. Rent the ring, lord of the rings, etc. But never say a word. I'm not doing this either.
But I'm on my way to the grocery store now to get a chicken and some lemons. LOL