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Ahhh, those three little words. They have a powerful meaning when said, but how often is too much? How little is not enough? Do you and your SO say it 1000x's a day or once a week? When spoken a lot, does it lose its meaning or does that show how you truly feel about that person?
Just wondering.
Thought provoking. I guess, I only say it when I'm really feeling it. I don't hang up the phone every time with an I love you or even at night. Sometimes though, we'll be in a lovey dovey mood and say it back and forth all day.
We say it whenever we part (in person, on the phone, etc). I'm a very mushy type of person and he genuinely can appreciate the love we share. Life is too short.
To me it doesn't lose meaning because everytime I say it, I mean it.
Good question! I've been in relationships where we said it every 10 minutes, and other where it was only said once a week. I think my fiance and I have found a happy medium. We say it a few times a day, but we do mean it every time we say it. It hasn't just become another greeting like "hello" or "goodbye".
I agree with Nexus. It's what I was trying to say but she said it a lot more clearly.
We say it back and forth all day long. When we are in a place we cannot say it out loud, we squeeze each others hand three times for "I love you" and the other one squeezes twice for "me too". I think it depends on the couple. That is just who we are. I mean it everytime I say it and I think he does too. We say it everytime we hang up the phone (what if it is the last phone call? I want it to be the last words he hears from me). But just because you don't say it does not mean you don't love the person as much. My FH does not bring me flowers randomly but I know he loves me because he tells me. Everyday. Maybe even 30 times a day.
My FI tells me "love you" everytime we say goodbye to each other. He's currently working 2 hours away and tells me everytime we hang up. When I go see him, on wekends, he tells me when I am leaving. ILU isn't said as much because I am there. He also texts me about 10-15 times a day saying " I love you" or " love you" also.
We say it a lot, definitely at least 5 times a day. Always in the morning before we leave for work.
We say it anytime we are leaving each other for any reason. If we are finishing up our phone/text conversation we will also say it.
A lot of the time during the evening, we will be sitting in the same room but doing our own thing (TV, homework, internet stuff, sports, etc.). Every once in a while one of us will break the silence with an "I love you." Its nice because often I will be so lost in what I am doing I will forget he is sitting there with me and it is a quick reminder that we are still thinking of each other :)
We don't say it all that much, maybe once a day, and I'm happy that way--in my last relationship my ex used it as a crutch because we didn't really have anything else to say to each other. With my SO and I, "I love you" is heartfelt and special, not a space filler. I feel very much loved even though he doesn't say it all the time. He doesn't need to tell me constantly because he shows me. :)
We say it all the time...although not always those exact words. We often mash up Korean/English together and/or take and English or Korean concept and make our own form of I love you. I feel super dorky even explaining this...but in Korean a cow is a 'so'. FI was born in the year of the ox, so this is an important animal to us. Therefore...in English, a cow says 'moo'....so we often say 'I love you MOO much' or 'I MOO love you.' (hangs head in shame at the dorkiness of it all...)
In my last relationship we said it all.the.time. and it did kind of bother me. We would say it when we had nothing else to say, whenever there was a lull in conversation-- which was a lot. It was embarrassing to talk to him on the phone in front of other ppl bc it would be like:
how are you?
good. you?
good.
**pause**
love you..
love you too.
so um...
yea.
love you
love you too
etc
with my FI we don't say it much... maybe a few times/week.... but it makes it better when we do because i know it isn't just words. :)
Only like a million times a day. I think we even say it to each other when one of us leaves the room LOL.
we say it a lot, but there is lots of heart behind each time it is said =)
We say it a lot. Probably between 5-10 times a day on a weekday, much more on the weekend when we are together all day long. I don't feel that saying it this often "waters down" the meaning in any way.
This is actually something that came up when we met with our minister. He asked us why we were marrying one another and one of the things The Guy said (among many others, which made me burst into tears...good tears!) is that I'm very affectionate and it was kind of foreign to him at first since he grew up in a family that didn't say I love you often (my family says I love you ALL the time, and we hug and kiss on the cheek a lot too...possibly a European thing!). He said that since he's been with me I made him realize how important it is to say I love you and he says it to his parents now too, which is something he hadn't previously done.
we say it whenever we part and before we go to sleep. i think it's partly because i was raised this way, i still say "love you" to my parents when i hang up the phone. it doesn't make it any less special or meaningful though! i guess i am kind of paranoid and i always say "i love you" when we part just because you never know what might happen and it might be the last time you get to say it...
We say it a lot, probably about 5 times a day like Mouse. We say it every time we talk on the phone. I know some people take issue with subsituting "I love you" for "goodbye" on phone calls, but since we are long distance, I've always thought - you never know if this is the last time you talk to each other. It's morbid, but that's part of why I say it. Also, it puts a smile on my face to hear it and makes the distance easier.
I was an issued child, so I have problems saying it to just about anyone that you would rightly say it to, like BF or family.
And to top it off, I don't really know how to respond, so BF is all "oh I love you", and my reply is either a snarky "me too!" or "uh... thanks?". Most of the time my family will say "uh, so, you know you're supposed to say "love you too"? ", to which I usually reply "ok". Sometimes I feel bad about it, but it's not really something I'm comfortable saying.
I guess I feel that it shouldn't be tossed about, and (yay issues) I can't say that I'm all that trusting of people who say it to me, which makes things... special.
@surkim- what is an issued child? It is nice that your bf seems ok with you working through your problems :)
we say it a few times a day. either thru text and always before we go to bed. and at random moments when we're together.
it definitely doesn't take the meaning out for us. i think both of us want to say it, even tho we both know it, just with the belief that we should always try to treat each other with kind words.
I think we say it a lot. Sometimes it is just words (before bed, before we go to work) and more out of habit but other times when it is said unexpectedly it does mean more. I think you can have the best of both worlds--saying it a lot and saying it less often with its full meaning!
@CorgiTales, it means that I came with model and serial numbers. They're behind my left ear. :p
In all seriousness, it's more that I never really felt close to much anyone, even as a kid. I think it's why I'm also wary of having children, I decided at some young age that I didn't ever want anyone else to feel like I did.
Mr. Cosmo and I say the *magic words* a few times a week . . . even after three and a half years together I still get chills when he says "I love you baby" in a quiet moment.
@ Bamm: I *puffyheartwithglitter* romantic dorkiness! :D Too cute!
We say it once a day. We say it when we feel it and we know each other well enough to know that we're truly in love with each other and wouldn't change anything.
Haha, we say it like 5 times an hour. I'm not even kidding. We say it so much, and always have. We are "that couple." We try not to say it around our friends though since they would find it nauseating.
We say it all the time. Like every time we hang up the phone. And randomly in the middle of the day on gchat :) We almost never do it in front of other people though.
@surkim
I relate ... it is very unnatural for me.
FI says it way more than I do (and sometimes it gets awkward, we are working on a happy medium) ... I say it when it comes naturally. I love him, but I have never been the type to say "I love you" in excess, to anyone, family and SOs alike.
FI says it more than I do, but we definitly say it at least 5 times a day, because we talk sporadically and we always end every conversation with an I love you.
I hardly ever said it in previous relationships. Like only to two other guys and not very often at that. With one guy I only said it because I thought that I should not really because I felt it.
With my husband, I say a lot and I mean it everytime. It's just a totally different relationship than those I had before.
FI overuses it. I think it loses some of its meaning if you say it like 100x a day. I don't have the heart to tell him, though.
Yeah, we are def one of those couples that say it all day long; but its not completely random.
We always say it everytime one of us leaves the apt, everytime we get off the phone, and several times during the day, just becasue I/he feel like saying it. In fact if I left or got off the phone w/o saying it, he would think i was upset with him.
We just love saying "i love you" it feels good :)
We say it at certain times like when I leave the house in the morning I give him a kiss and say "I love you" (he does the same if I am home when he is leaving). We also say I love you at the end of most phone conversations. Otherwise, we just say it in the moment.
My FI and I say it ALL THE TIME...it never loses its meaning for us. We have been together for 3 years and engaged for almost as long. Neither of us were really "lovey dvey" people...neither set of parents really showed outward displays of affection so we are making up for lost time =)
@hergreenapples: That's pretty similar to us. My family is not demonstrative at all and I've always been really awkward and uncomfortable with PDA and saying I love you and hugging people. It's just not something my family does. Mr Spin's family hugs and kisses and is very affectionate. His grandma kissed me on the mouth once when saying goodbye, forgetting, I think, that I wasn't family yet. That was a surprise. ^_^ Thankfully no repeats of that.
It took me a long time to warm up to publicly holding hands and I felt awkward for the longest time saying "I love you" or replying when Mr Spin said it. But receiving affection has really opened me up to being a more affectionate person myself. And I started making it a point to say "I love you" to my mom and dad and showing affection. (How many times can i say affection in this post? ^_^)My parents are a bit more demonstrative now too, which is nice.
So we say I love you at the end of every phone call or when leaving (stupid LDRs). Sometimes I still feel like Mr Spin overuses it, but oh well. I don't mind.
we say it a lot, not all day or anything, but we do end our phone calls with "i love you" and whenever we part. it doesn't lose any meaning to us. every time it's said, it's said and meant geniunely. though my favorite thing is whenever we get a quiet moment, just us, cuddling, we'll whisper it over and over and over again. love that!
i think we say it at least a couple times a day, either when we leave for work, before going to sleep, etc
We say it quite a bit, but we always really mean it. FI's parents aren't really super lovey people and they don't say it (to each other or him) very often, so it was something that was very important to him that we do differently.
We say I love you before we go to sleep every night...there's something about him whisper it in my ear right before I dream...
We also say it when we leave for work in the morning. It can be rough out there and it's nice to get an affirmation before you head out into the big wide world. :)
We say it all the time. In the morning, at the end of every phone conversation, at night before bed, random times during the day. We like it. His family has always been very expressive and I think thats important to him. Mine has always been more distant and cold. I want to have loving and expressive relationships, especially with my fiance and eventually my children.
Don't let it lose it's meaning. If you're saying it a kazillion times a day it should still not lose it's meaning-say what you want but mean what you say.
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