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That's really cute that your MIL "dropped the L bomb" on you. :) My ILs usually sign emails to me with "Love, Mom" or "Love, Dad" but the only time I can remember them saying it in person was at the wedding. I was dancing with my FIL and he told me he loved me. I really do love them (and I'm a pretty touchy-feely person), so I said it back.
Now that I think about it, I said "I love you" to my ILs easier than I did to my husband...
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Oh my goodness, I think this would make me so uncomfortable. My own family is big on saying I love you (I say I love you when hanging up the phone with my parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins). My fiance's family never says it... which is maybe a good thing because I think I would feel totally awkward about it.
Haha. Funny story about this...
About a year ago, my fiance and I were leaving my parents' house and my dad yelled "Love you guys!" without realizing he was saying it to my fiance too. Hehe. I don't think either of us are ready to say the "I love you"s yet, but maybe it will come in time. :)
Awww, Mr. Bee that's so sweet! How did you respond at the time?
My ex-bf's family always told me (still do!) that they love me and I say it back (because I do love them, even though their son and I broke up, they're still like family to me!).
I think the only time I'd struggle with it was if I didn't feel the same way back. I've never said "I love you" to anyone without meaning it, but I would imagine I'd choke on the words (if I could even get them out).
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My FMIL and FFIL (and even Gma's) say it all the time. My mom and dad tell my Mr. they love him as well. I've been saying I love you to his family for years now (we've been together nearly 6). My family is very open about that sort of thing. So it's just a part of who I am. I am very thankful to my FMIL and FFIL for bringing my Mr. into this world, they may not be perfect (but really, who is?) but I love them for who they are.
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We are very, very, very close now. So it's dropped every now and than ... not on a daily basis or anything like that. His sister says Love You everytime we talk though! Lol.
@Lorienne - I gave her a big hug. I can't remember what I said... it wasn't something I had prepared for.
But I eat all the food she makes when I visit, which is the universal way of saying "I love you", right?
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@mrbee: lol if I remember correctly.... didn't you start a thread saying how you have skillfully avoided calling your in-laws by any name over the last 5 years? Which is worse: calling her "mom", "mrs mamabee" or saying i love you? hehe
My FFIL said it to me when we announced our engagement. I, like mrbee, have avoided calling my FFIL anything other than "Hiiiiii...[insert giant awkward hug here]" It was kind of awkward and I ended up saying "Oh I love you guys too!!" lol
lol I'm convinced they think I'm the most uptight person... ever. I'm just not comfortable with PDA's and hugs from people I barely know!
@RecessionistaBride - I don't mind calling her mom or saying I love you! The mom thing is just because it never really comes up... I'm sure one of these days, I'll drop a "mom" on her!
That is really cute. FMIL will sometimes say "we love you" - sort of an I love you, but sort of not. Also FI's grandma will say "we love you." I wonder who "we" is : )
My family is not big on saying it (but actions show it all the time - lots of hugs, etc) and I would feel a bit funny if FMIL said it. I say it to FH 100 times a day (and so does he), so it feels like something for us, you know? FMIL signs off her emails "Love, Sue" and that's about as far as I'm ready to go right now. I think we show our love through actions and other words and I'm happy with that - hopefully she is too!
I think the first time I said "I love you" to my FMIL was at her father's burial service. It just kind of came out. I was hugging her, was overcome with emotion, and said it. FI and I had only been dating for maybe 7-8 months at the time so I immediately felt weird. But it was just what I was feeling and I don't regret saying it. Now we say it all the time, but they usually initiate it. I actually think I've said "I love you" to his dad more than I've said it to my dad in my entire 23 years.
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Ha. My fiance now says mother to my mom, like "Hi Mother" ... jokingly ... but he has her stored in his phone as Mother-2 lol
Not yet. But my FMIL hugs me tight every time I see her and tells me how glad she is that I'm with her son.
My mom recently called me on the day of my boyfriend's graduation from university, and asked me to put him on the phone so she could congratulate him. Keep in mind that his friend/roomate was sitting on the couch beside him. All of a sudden I hear him say, "I love you too," and kind of chuckle.
He hands the phone back to me and my mom says, "Oh no, I think I embarrassed him! But I do love him. I do! I just love him." My mom's a very effusive kind of person.
But anyway, I thought it was the sweetest thing, and I particularly appreciated that he said "I love you" back without any concern over the fact that his buddy was sitting right there. He's such a keeper.
My FI's mom said "I love you" to me on the phone shortly after we got engaged. We've been together for six and a half years without her ever saying it, so I was kind of taken aback. We still don't have a totally comfortable relationship, and I was so startled! I think I just kinda said "um, you too."
We've been sayign "I Love you" for quiet awhile. This is how visits normally end for us: FMIL hugs me, hugs FI and hugs us together and says "I Love Y'all" except for the last visit. She hugged me, hugged FI and kept a grip on him and was real obvious when she said "I love you" and never even looked at me.
My FMIL has dropped the L-word a few times but more like "I love you guys" so I respond we love you too. My FFIL and I are really not close so the L-word will definitely not be said and that is A-OK with me!
Oh heck no! Mr. K's family is an all-boy (aside from his mom), male dominated, military family! I've never heard an "I love you" uttered between any of them!
Aww. Mr. Bee I was just in this moment a few weeks ago. I really just didn 't know what to say. I just sort of paused and hugged her and let it go. I really had to think about it. But then I thought she is like a mother to me. I do love her. She is someone I think really highly of. So the other day I said it back and it felt great. Cause all in all she is more of a mother to me then my mom!
I haven't said it to my FILs yet and the guy and I have been together for six years. My FMIL says it to both of us and I leave it to my guy to respond - I just smile and wave. And I'm not even sure my FFIL knows my name yet - he's certainly never called me by my name that I know of. :D
My parents don't say it so it's awkward for me. Actually, I think if it ever came out of my mom or dad's mouths I'd have to pinch myself - 10 to 1 the pinch would wake me up!
After my FI and I got engaged, my family was not (and is still not) very accepting of it. They are extremely hard people to please, and I have never been close with them, yet I was still devastated. My FI was asking his mom for advice, and soon after they talked, she called me just to tell me how happy she was for us, and that she was so excited for me to be part of the family. She made me feel more accepted by their family than by my own. At the end of the conversation she told me she loved me. It meant so much, tears started streaming down my cheeks (and I am NOT a crier!). It was easy to say "I love you too" ...and really mean it.
I felt totally welcomed the second FH and I started dating "Officially" even before that. His mom is great and I tell her I love her all the time. Just as I do with my own mom. His dad, well he's quiet. He likes to be more of the observant type and doesn't say much of anything. It doesn't bug me, I just think if he said he loved me, I would be so touched that I wouldn't be able to answer...just because he doesn't say much, even to his own kids.
My husband's grandpa always says, "love you kids!" but I just don't feel right saying it back. We get letters/cards that say "love, mom" and "love, X" but they aren't my blood family so I feel really weird telling them I love them....I say "i love you" to my parents and my husband, that's it.
My FMIL has been telling me she loves me for a few years and I've never had a problem saying it back because I genuinely do love her. I've just started tossing around the 'mom' thing, but am not comfortable calling her mom yet. I tell my soon-to-be niece 'I love you' (I've been around her entire life), but that's about it for his side of the family.
My FMIL said "I love you" before my FI did!
My family does not really say the L word.. and I am uncomfortable with hugs and other things.. except when it comes to FI and my kids. My FMIL knows how awkward it is for me, so she says the L word to me every time she talks to me (and she calls at LEAST once a day) to wear me down to comfortableness. It's actually worked.. I say it back to her a lot now!
She's persistant (and wonderful)
My sweetie's parent's ROCK. They are the best. Our "i love yous" came at a very stressful time when sweetie was in a car accident and was in a trauma center and I had to drive to the hospital, which was an hour and a half away, in a terrible snow and ice storm. They were above and beyond in the way they treated me. His dad gave me his GPS system and tried to make me take money, even though I had my own, and his mom was so kind and caring. When I called to give them updates I said "I love you guys." and they said "we love you, too." We don't say it all the time, but we arent' really that kind of family.
My family, on the other hand, hasn't said it to Sweetie, but that's OK. My niece tells him all the time.
My fmil always says before she hangs up the phone "I love you guys!" or "I love you!". It's really sweet. I say 'Love you too". His Aunt also e-mails and sings at the end "Your Aunt Laureen" and says things like 'I'm your Aunt now too!", haha! It's so cute.
I absolutely automatically say it back when the in-law's drop the L-bomb (which happens every time I see them). I can't imagine any other appropriate response!
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My MIL said that she loved me during my last visit to see them. I was so touched! But I feel like I should say it back now. I am probably overthinking this, haha!
How about you: have your in laws dropped the L-bomb on you? If so, did you reciprocate - and how did you go about it?
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