(Closed) Saying “I love you” to the In Laws

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

That’s really cute that your MIL "dropped the L bomb" on you. 🙂  My ILs usually sign emails to me with "Love, Mom" or "Love, Dad" but the only time I can remember them saying it in person was at the wedding.  I was dancing with my FIL and he told me he loved me.  I really do love them (and I’m a pretty touchy-feely person), so I said it back.

Now that I think about it, I said "I love you" to my ILs easier than I did to my husband…

Post # 4
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Busy bee

Oh my goodness, I think this would make me so uncomfortable.  My own family is big on saying I love you (I say I love you when hanging up the phone with my parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins).  My fiance’s family never says it…  which is maybe a good thing because I think I would feel totally awkward about it.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Haha. Funny story about this…

About a year ago, my fiance and I were leaving my parents’ house and my dad yelled "Love you guys!" without realizing he was saying it to my fiance too. Hehe. I don’t think either of us are ready to say the "I love you"s yet, but maybe it will come in time. 🙂

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Awww, Mr. Bee that’s so sweet!  How did you respond at the time?

My ex-bf’s family always told me (still do!) that they love me and I say it back (because I do love them, even though their son and I broke up, they’re still like family to me!).  

I think the only time I’d struggle with it was if I didn’t feel the same way back.  I’ve never said "I love you" to anyone without meaning it, but I would imagine I’d choke on the words (if I could even get them out).

Post # 7
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Helper bee

My FMIL and FFIL (and even Gma’s) say it all the time. My mom and dad tell my Mr. they love him as well. I’ve been saying I love you to his family for years now (we’ve been together nearly 6). My family is very open about that sort of thing. So it’s just a part of who I am. I am very thankful to my FMIL and FFIL for bringing my Mr. into this world, they may not be perfect (but really, who is?) but I love them for who they are.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We are very, very, very close now. So it’s dropped every now and than … not on a daily basis or anything like that. His sister says Love You everytime we talk though! Lol.

 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@mrbee: lol if I remember correctly…. didn’t you start a thread saying how you have skillfully avoided calling your in-laws by any name over the last 5 years? Which is worse: calling her "mom", "mrs mamabee" or saying i love you? hehe

My FFIL said it to me when we announced our engagement. I, like mrbee, have avoided calling my FFIL anything other than "Hiiiiii…[insert giant awkward hug here]" It was kind of awkward and I ended up saying "Oh I love you guys too!!" lol

lol I’m convinced they think I’m the most uptight person… ever. I’m just not comfortable with PDA’s and hugs from people I barely know!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

lol aww mr.bee that’s cute.. "drop the ‘mom’ on her!"

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

That is really cute.  FMIL will sometimes say "we love you" – sort of an I love you, but sort of not.  Also FI’s grandma will say "we love you."  I wonder who "we" is  : )

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

My family is not big on saying it (but actions show it all the time – lots of hugs, etc) and I would feel a bit funny if FMIL said it. I say it to FH 100 times a day (and so does he), so it feels like something for us, you know? FMIL signs off her emails "Love, Sue" and that’s about as far as I’m ready to go right now. I think we show our love through actions and other words and I’m happy with that – hopefully she is too!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think the first time I said "I love you" to my FMIL was at her father’s burial service. It just kind of came out. I was hugging her, was overcome with emotion, and said it. FI and I had only been dating for maybe 7-8 months at the time so I immediately felt weird. But it was just what I was feeling and I don’t regret saying it. Now we say it all the time, but they usually initiate it. I actually think I’ve said "I love you" to his dad more than I’ve said it to my dad in my entire 23 years.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Ha. My fiance now says mother to my mom, like "Hi Mother" … jokingly … but he has her stored in his phone as Mother-2 lol

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