Post # 1
My friend at work, who I have become closer with after starting work at a new office, has invited me to her wedding (which i’m very appreciative of, and will be attending). She has also invited me to her Hens night which I would love to go to, however she will be having strippers and waiters wearing thongs; this is outside of the boundaries of my relationship with my fiance (its just something we are both not comfortable with). This means that I will probably say ‘no’ to the hens night, but i can’t help but feel as though it rude if i’m going to be going to the wedding reception. I don’t want her to think that i disagree with her choice of entertainment, because thats not it at all, its just a personal decision that my partner and i have made to avoid any jealousy or resentment in our relationship.
What are your thoughts?
Post # 3
Just say that you can’t make it to the hen’s night, but would be delighted to be at the wedding and the reception. No need to go into details.
Post # 4
I don’t think it’s a big deal, I’m sure she’ll understand. FI and I plan on attending a friend’s wedding this summer and I was recently invited to her bachelorette but I most likely won’t go. It’s not even because of any strippers, just that I can’t afford to pay for dinner and entertainment in the city when I have my own wedding to pay for. I don’t think she’ll care.
Post # 5
I would just say that you have another commitment. Maybe a commitment to your husband not to watch strippers… but she doesn’t need to know that.
Post # 6
Agreed. Send your regrets for the hen night, go to the wedding. (Have a prior engagement.)
Post # 7
Thanks so much, i feel better now!