Post # 1
I feel like a lot of us come on this board to vent about our frustrations in our relationships. Sometimes I think…wow, I definitely do not portray an accurate view of what my relationship is like! haha.
Truth is, I would rate us at least an 8-9 (trying not to be cocky here haha)..sure we get into little stupid things every once in awhile, but in reality I have never met someone who I just “knew” from the get-go and whose thought process is so similar to mine that we can just live our day to day life so easily together. No, we aren’t making out all the time anymore, but I do love him with all my heart.
What about you guys? Rate your relationship and give me the reason for your rating. What are your personal feelings about your “score?”
Post # 3
I put a 10 because to be honest, in our 2.5 years together I think we have had two tiffs – and yes I call them tiffs because they weren’t arguments by any stance haha.
We just aren’t confrontational or argumentative people and happen to get along really well. And although we arent all over eachother anymore, I really do love that man with every ounce of my being and would do anything for him 🙂
Post # 4
I’m a solid 8.
I’m very happy, but I also have some fear about long-term relationships in general. It scares me to think of committing to someone for the rest of my life. I admit it; FI knows this as well. I’m not wearing rose-colored glasses when it comes to our life and relationship. We have ups and downs, goods and not-so-goods. But, I’m happy. He’s a wonderful man, I try to be a decent woman… and I am so glad to be marrying him and that he will be the father of my children. We are happy.
Post # 5
I gave us a 9 (although during engagement and a few months after marriage I would probably only have given us a 6). Our relationship has strengthened so much, and we rarely argue anymore. Yeah, we get annoyed, but overall “fights” and very few and far between. We always, even when we were at a 6, have fun together and know that we are meant for each other. We understand one another and communictae very well.
Post # 6
@Tatertot2003: if our financial issues were straightened out (caused by FI not having a real job) then we would be a ten. literally he is so kind and patient and giving, and we never fight unless its about financial stuff – and really even then we don’t fight, we just kind of lock horns and get grumpy with each other.
Post # 7
Exactly the same boat. We have had 2 big arguments in the last 3 years but I get annoyed with him constantly however when i think about our time together I am happy and have so much fun with him and love him to death so I give it an 8 too but only because it’s not PERFECT and he could work on not being so annoying sometimes lol
Post # 8
We teeter between a 7-9… A few months ago we were at a 5. :-/ But we’ve worked on it and are doing really well!
Post # 9
@Tatertot2003: I voted a 10 but I don’t agree with what you wrote. We are perfectly happy together because we are perfect for each other. That doesn’t mean we don’t argue, don’t get annoyed with each other, or have a “perfect” relationship. That would be very stepford and I’d be worried about a couple who doesn’t disagree at all.
I always have a deep sense of contentment that my husband is in my life and no one in the world means more to me. That deserves a 10, even though the description doesn’t fit. For a relationship to be perfect to you (and perfect you) it doesn’t have to be because you are both manically happy and always agree.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
@Tatertot2003: We had one fight recently, but I would not equate that with how happy we are in our relationship. Disagreements do happen from time to time but we work them out and compromise.
Post # 11
@Tatertot2003: I voted 10. Not because we don’t argue, but because we know how to communicate our differences which leads to less arguments & more understanding of each others’ point of view.
I think our relationship is perfect because he makes me happy and I do the same for him, we have the same expectations of what a partner should be – and if we don’t we discuss them and come up with a compromise.
Neither of us is overly dramatic or entitled one way or the other. We both work hard & live simple lives and that’s the way we both like it.
He is the only man I can spend forever with & I am the only woman he can do this with. I feel lucky to have found him & will work to keep him.
Post # 12
Its the 80/20 rule! You get 80% of what you need out of your marriage/relationship. Its really easy to focus on the 20% you are not getting – but you need to take the time to recognize the 80%!
Post # 13
I voted 10, yes we do fight every now and then but we are very good at handling it. I have no complaints. 🙂
Post # 14
I put us between around an 8. We have been together for 10 years and have had maybe two major disagreements. We have been married one month and things are going well, but my husband started a new job about 2 months ago and it has been an adjustment period for him. He worked at his last job as a retail operations manager for 8 years and recently became a teacher at the same school I work at. While he enjoys it, his first year (teaching 5th and 6th at-risk students) has been challenging and stressful. So learning to manage the new kind of stress and separate our work life and home life has been a new thing for us.
In general, we are a very mellow, relaxed couple though. We have our two dogs, lots of similar interests, but we also pursue our own individual side hobbies. We have both managed to maintain individual identities, while also working together as a couple, which helps us have a healthy relationship.
Post # 15
I’m always happy in my relationship but this can vary from day to day. We learn something new about each other every day which usually goes well but theres always that fork in the road. We always do meet up and come to a compromise on things we dont agree on. Things do get heated sometimes because we’re the same sign.
Post # 16
We have 10 days (where we’ll cheesily stare into each other eyes by candlelight for hours – not even kidding), 5 days (where I have nothing more than a mild annoyance at his every move) and 1 days (where I will invent a need for milk just to GET AWAY FROM THAT ASSHOLE RIGHT NOW) all within a week of each other. I don’t think I’d have it any other way either. I love the passion, and the back-and-forth that we share. If we lost that, and every day became an 8, well, that wouldn’t really be an 8 then, would it? We’re living, breathing, changing people that fight every day to keep our love alive. So I guess that makes us a 10.