- 5 years ago
I think I just need vent.
My husband just revealed to me that he did not have his HS diploma. I was shocked, really because we had talked about careers before and I was under the impression he had his. I know his job background was spotty but didn’t realize why.
At this moment I feel devastated for him. He is embarassed about this, especially because I have a couple degrees and, by most accounts, would be considered a very driven person.
His job prospects are bleak- I now see how bleak- and my immediate reaction is to push him to get in school. This will mean leaving the low paying daytime job he has now and enrolling in classes as a first priority. There is a tech training college right down the street from our house- the logistics are perfect. To top it all off, we’re expecting. I make enough to sustain us and daycare is expensive. In my mind it’s all aligning so that he can get his GED, work towards a career, take care of the baby during the day and have a real career path in less than a couple years…
You know how they say some women like a project? Well I guess I got one and didn’t even know it. My instinct is to shove it down his throat and be demanding about my plan (because I have the plan seems to work perfectly). Maybe he needs someone to be a jerk to him. I don’t understand that level of complacency.
There also a voice that says I need to step back, now that he has revealed this, and let him handle the actual planning himself- which is very hard for me. IMO, that GED needs to happen before the end of the year…I’m confused about my approach.