(Closed) Scared!

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh yeah for sure!  I think it’s like that with any big change in your life.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Your feelings are completely normal. Before I got pregnant with my first child, I absolutely couldn’t stand to be around children. When I got pregnant and had my first child that all changed. My kids are my life and your child(ren) will be yours too. Your life will change, but it will change for the better. I cannot even explain how good it is to be a mommy. At times you will be scared because they don’t come with instruction manuals, but your mommy intuition will kick in and you will do great.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Ummm, I think I felt that way all the way up until I was in labor (and maybe even then, too!).  It’s normal to be scared of the big changes that are taking place.  We all feel this way at some point, but for the majority of us, all of that fear gets replaces with overwhelming love for your new little one.  🙂

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It’s so scary! My family is fostering a 6 month old, so I go through stages all the time. I guess ultimately every step in life is going to have scary moments, and will be hard, but the good outweighs the bad.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Tooootally normal.  I had a HUGE meltdown before we decided to TTC.  Now that I am peggo Im waiting for the next “IM SCARED” meltdown.  Its 100% expected =o)

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I feel like that I’m in my 2nd trimester! Everything about it scares me…my body changing, not knowing what to expect, whether I’ll be able to do a good job being a parent.

But in the long run I couldn’t imagine not having a family – so hopefully one day when I’m old I’ll be able to look back on it all and my fears now will seem minimal compared to the reward.

Post # 9
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5399 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You surely aren’t alone!  I felt that way before I was pregnant and still even feel that way at times now that I am pregnant! 

Post # 10
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990 posts
Busy bee

@Lillindy:

I agree, I always feel crazy! One minute I cannot wait to meet my daughter, the next mintue, I am freaking out about how much sleep I will be losing, how much childcare is going to cost me. But it’s so normal to feel that way!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Story of my life right now! I am so ready to be a mom, but I worry that feeling ready means that I have unrealistic expectations and no idea what I’m actually getting into. DH and I got married and bought a house this year, so this is a lot for us at once. I know DH and I will be good parents, but it is SO scary at times. Then other times I feel a kick and am so happy and excited and it makes everything else melt away.

Post # 12
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484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think you totally just ready my mind! My hubby and I just had the baby talk again, and I said – so do you think you would be ready to be a daddy in 2011 if it happened? And he said yes… and then I had a freak out moment which led me here… LOL!

Not only do I think about how different life will be as a mommy, I wonder what the relationship will be like between my hubby and I? We are still newlyweds – I wonder if throwing a baby into our dynamic would be positive? Ahh!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m scarred too. I go back and forth on being ready to TTC or not. I think I really want kids, but I worry about childcare costs, the fact that we’re in a condo and the fact that I’ll be an older mother.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Bump. Anybody else struggling with this?

Post # 15
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229 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Our home and the two acres it sits on

Me, me!  I had an ugly freak-out panicky meltdown on Friday, then felt bad all weekend for unloading my worries on my husband, who’s doing his best (and probably trying not to freak out, too).

Post # 16
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5399 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@cheese: I may or may not have had one myself this morning. 😉  I guess you could say that hitting the halfway mark really hit me today. 

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