Post # 1
Im feeling a little defeated. We have been trying for 3 months… no luck.
When i was growing up my doctors thought I had something called MTHFR. Most commonly found it women who miscarry. Years later dr said I dont have it I only carry a gene for it so I am in the clear….
We got married recently but I knew I always wanted to be a mother… I am not late yet but it hurys everytime i take a test and its neg.!
I know it has only been 3 months but
Post # 3
What are you doing to TTC? (charting, OPKs, supplements, etc)
Post # 4
Have you done charting and all that jazz? That can really up your chances.
Like you say, it’s only 3 months in.. I wouldn’t start to worry until you’re at least a year into the process. I’m sure it’s hard, but if you have no real reason to suspect you won’t be able to conceive, you should be in the clear 🙂
Post # 5
@Mrs.Moser: As @OldMrsMcDonald: asked, are you tracking your cycles? You could just be having sex on the wrong days! I am so irregular, I’d never get pregnant without charting my cycles on fertilityfriend.com. 🙂
Post # 6
I highly recommend charting, first cycle I wanted to try without it being a ‘chore’ but actually charting is so easy and really fascinating following what your body does. Were you on BC before? They say couples under the age of 35 can take up to a year to concieve and this is normal, so realistically 3 months isn’t very long.
I am the most impatient person, so I understand, but hang in there!!
Post # 7
I didn’t do any of the charting stuff, I found it too stressful. It sucks going through every month and not getting anywhere. If you can handle charting it might be worth it to confirm that/when you are ovulating. It took me 5 cycles to get my BFP.
Post # 8
@Mrs.Moser: i understand how you feel. we’re on our 4th cycle TTC and after the 1st cycle, i stopped testing early. i will only test if AF is late because seeing the BFN’s was so painful. i get depressed when AF shows too. 🙁 i do recommend charting at least for a few cycles so you can see if you guys are hitting your fertile window.
Post # 9
I didnt chart, because I have practically had sex everyday just trying to make sure that I can get pregnant.
I will try charting as soon as possible. I just bought an ovulation test to use as well.
I was never on birth control, since I get severe migraines and BC makes it worse.
Thanks for the positive vibes <3
Post # 10
Definitely look into charting, and check out Toni Wechsler’s Taking Charge of Your Fertility.
Be advised, too, that having sex daily can actually hurt your chances of getting pregnant because it can deplete your partner’s sperm. You are better off having sex every other day to give him a chance to replenish his stocks.
Post # 11
+1 for giving it at least a year.
Post # 12
@Mrs.Moser: Try having sex every other day. It gives your hubby time to replenish his sperm count. 🙂
Post # 13
Reading your response, I’d suggest joining fertilityfriend.com, buying a basal thermometer and some cheap OPKs in bulk from Amazon. I’ve been charting for a few months and I am AMAZED at what I’ve learned… For example, I don’t ovulate until day 19-21 of my cycle, instead of the “typical” day 14 or so, and my entire cycle is about 32-34 days instead of 28.
Once you start charting, it will make it easier to target your most fertile days and when you should be having sex. It also gives you lots and lots of data to show and discuss when your doctor if you don’t get pregnant during the year– you’ll have a jump on the entire process when you can show what your cycle is normally like, in the event you need medical intervention for fertility.
Post # 14
Thank you! I did get my period 🙁 So I am going to be trying all of the tips and tricks you have given
Post # 15
I use the Taking Charge of Your Fertility comapnions website to chart electronically. It’s easy!! We haven’t started TTC yet, but I’ll be prepared when we do!
Post # 16
Still nothing, trying PRE-SEED lubricant now to see if it helps