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Scared about miscarrage

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    ForeverYoung    October 10, 2010   Montreal

    I am pertrified that I will or have misscarried.

    Now I never had any bleeding or massive cramps.

    But i have had cramps... small ones... they kinda actually hurt. They were always in the lower abdomen. I was continuesly told that that kind of cramping was normal-its your uterus stretching to make room (im 12 weeks). We have yet to have an ultrasound or hear the babies heart beat ( first ultrasound is on thursday this week). I am so scared that something has gone wrong.

    I continue to have my morning sickness and sore breats... but i read somewhere through google ( i know , i know.. google is not a doctor) that Nausea can actually be another sign of miscarrage.

    I feel like my tummy is changing... stuff is shifting... all of a sudden (*WARNING TMI*) even sex feels different.. like something might be slighty in the way... I dont know... I would love to hear from other women who felt/feel like this... is it normal at this stage that I dont really FEEL pregnant??

     

     

     

     

     
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    shelbifox15    October 2, 2010   South Carolina

    @ForeverYoung:

    Well you have more symptons than I do! ha! I had the cramping for a couple of weeks & this week nothing. I'm 7wks 4days & can NOT wait til I"m where you are at the lovely 12wk mark! This week I don't feel pregnant at all! Boobs are ok this week, I have started having some lightheadedness a few days this week, but also read that is normal. You will feel better on Thursday when you have your u/s & see that baby bean & it's heart beating away! Try asking your mom how she felt if that is an option. It might give you some insight to what you are feeling. I have never had MS ~ but my mom didn't either so I don't worry about that part.

    Hang in there! It is so hard & very normal to worry!

     

     
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    caszos    June 2010   Florida

    Hang in there, I'm sure all is normal. 

    I don't see how nausea could be a sign of miscarriage though.  Don't like 90% of women have morning sickness?  That wouldn't really work if they all were loosing the pregnancy. 

     
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    NixLapi    October 24, 2009   Toronto

    I think being paranoid throughout pregnancy is totally natural and getting us ready to be moms... my best advice - DO NOT google! I stopped very early on in my pregnancy because there is just so much info out there and a lot of it incorrect.

    I had minor cramps at the beginning and all sorts of other odd body-changing feelings. Just try to stay calm and relaxed until Thursday!

     
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    Incognito    June 14, 2010  

    Just relax and be calm. It's hard not knowing, but the best thing for you and the baby is just to go through your day. I've been sick too, but it's just part of the pregnancy. And to counter the miscarriage thing, I've also read and been told that being sick means a healthy baby. Good luck on Thursday. Let us know how it goes.

     
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    mrstilly    May 15, 2010   Ithaca, NY

    I thought I was really weird at that stage too. We had an 8 week apt, but couldn't get the heartbeat and I didn't feel pregnant. I took about 6 preg tests between when we found out and our ultrasound at 11 weeks. It was nice to be reassured that I was still pregnant until I saw it for real on the screen.

     
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    MissGreen    July 2009  

    Those are rational fears to have but I have heard cramping is normal as long as you have no bleeding. Sweetie I am in my 2ww, well 7 days to go and I am scared every day that if I yell, stress, walk wrong or jump the wrong way, a possible pregnancy won't take. I think alot of ladies early in pregnancy have that fear until they see it right in front of them on that screen. Hope you have a wonderful appt on Thursday!!! Just try and relax! :)

     
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    ForeverYoung    October 10, 2010   Montreal

    Just a quick update :)

    Everythign is absolutely wonderful!! The baby looks great they said , with nice strong heartbeat. I have never been so releived in my life. No to mention instantaneously in love:)

     

     
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    kitzy    June 2011  

    cramping is normal. glad everything is fine!

    STAY AWAY from google. it will make you go crazy.

     
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    armychica06    December 8, 2012   CT

    Glad everything is fine

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    awesome!

     
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    jilian    April 28, 2007   Blacksburg, VA

    Glad to hear everything is ok!!  

    Just a warning - You're a mom now and you'll be worrying about the little one for the rest of your life :)

    For me I didn't worry too much (above normal) during the pregnancy but I always got nervous the day or 2 before EVERY doc appt!

    Now I worry every night when I put him to sleep. Every time we drive somewhere in a car. That little fear that something bad might happen is my constant companion :) Not that it consumes my thoughts or changes the way I live... but it's there and I say many extra prayers.

    It's what mommy's do!

     
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    Jenn23    April 17, 2010   Philly suburbs

    That's awesome news! Yay!

     
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    808bride    October 10, 2009   Hawaii

    I'm glad everything is ok!

     
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    SoontobeMrsA    June 2012   MA/NH line

    I'm glad you and the baby are OK!

     
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    jennifer_espos    June 18, 2010   NYC

    I'm so glad everything is alright.  I was just about to tell you now normal my doctor said it is.  I was having the same kinda cramping (and I'm only 8 wks) and started to worry.  Turns out things are a-ok.  This too is TMI- but I can't even think about having sex at this point.  I feel so exhausted and nauseous all the time, I'd just be useless.  I'm hoping to be like you by 12 weeks! 

     
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    camrie    September 5, 2010   Louisville

    @ForeverYoung: Glad everything is okay! I too suggest not believing everything you find on the internet. Unless you are having serious bleeding - cramping and nausea are normal.

    It's kind of hard in that early stage because you feel different but not necessarily "pregnant" - hearing the heartbeat & having an ultrasound are a good way to convince your brain that it's real. :)

     
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    farmgirl2106    July 2010  

    Ah, I can totally relate. Last night I was taking a bath, not a hot bath, just semi-warm, and I felt some cramps. I. Freaked. Out. LOL, I even had my husband grab my boobs just to make sure they were still hurting (TMI, sorry :)). But I'm glad to hear everything is going well, and I agree with the PP in that I'm jealous you're at 12 weeks. I'd love to be there. :)

     
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    sand dollar    September 25, 2010   Lake Jackson

    My first appt is on Monday to hear the heartbeat, and I feel exactly the same way. Mild cramping, about 30% of the day. Sometimes it's sharp (I've read this is the round ligament stretching, like when I laugh or cough), sometimes it feels dull and achey just like period cramps. And tmi like you, sex is no bueno. The actual sex feels fine, but the second I orgasm it feels like my insides are about to fall out in agony. I just read yesterday in WTEWYE (what to expect when you're expecting) and it actually mentioned the orgasm pain. I still find myself saying "Well, hopefully when we have the baby in august", or "If everything goes well...". My husband doesn't understand why I can't be super excited/positive about it, but I'm just so worried. I'd rather take the "Hope for the best, prepare for the worst" approach until I'm out of the woods in the second trimester. Just know you're not alone!

     

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