Post # 1
Hey everyone! My best friend is getting married, and she has asked me to be her Maid/Matron of Honor. We’ve been chatting discussing all the exciting things that are going to be happening in the coming months, and she told me that she wants a big blown out ball gown.
Now, I know that I should probably just let her do what she wants, but she is my best friend and I would have wanted her to tell me that my dress looked rediculous on me or wasn’t my personality if that had been the case. She’s a very petite, independent, modern woman, and she is not the big ball gown frilly type of girl.
How would I go about positively and kindly letting her know that maybe the cut/style/silhouette of the gowns she is choosing doesn’t look good on her small frame and is overwhelming her? I don’t want her to look silly on her wedding day, and I want everyone to see how beautiful SHE looks, not just that she’s wearing a big ball gown. However, if people think I should suck it up and let her make her mistakes, then I will do just that. I just want to be a good friend and the best Maid/Matron of Honor I can, but I also want to be honest because I want her to look amazing on her day.
Thoughts? 🙂 Thanks ladies!
Post # 3
Has she tried any dresses on? I wouldn’t say anything if she already has a dress she loves. But if she has yet to try anything she may think she wants one thing but realize it doesn’t work for her once she tries some on.
Go with her when she buys her gown because I’m sure she’d love honest feedback but let her try whatever she wants before telling her something doesn’t work for her.
Post # 4
I’d encourage her to try on a wide variety of styles just to see what they’d look like on her. Ultimately if she decides to go for a poofy ballgown thats her choice and you should be supportive.
Post # 5
Thanks for the responses!
We haven’t gone yet, we’re hoping to do that soon. I think she’s just been looking online and stuff. I want to be as supportive as I can, and if she falls head over heels in love with a dress that looks awful on her, I’ll just suck it up haha. It is her day, after all.
I think that encouraging her to try on some different kinds of dresses, just to be sure she’s getting the exact thing she wants and that looks good on her, would be the best way to make sure she knows precisely what she wants.
Post # 6
Don’t say anything yet — I was thinking exactly what others have said. The first time you try dresses on, a lot changes.
And ultimately, if she does end up wanting a ballgown, don’t assume she can’t pull it off! I’ve seen a lot of petite brides here on the Bee who pull them off and look amazing! Tailoring helps a lot. 🙂
Post # 7
I would just encourage her to try on lots and lots of dresses and tell her when one looks especially flattering. My bestie had an awful, ginormous ballgown on her “final five” list and I just let her know that some of her other options were better, instead of denigrating the dress I didn’t like.
Post # 8
I agree with what the others said, but I also have to ask how you would know better what would look silly on her than she would know for herself? I just sold the dress that everyone I know loved for me, and I’m still shopping for the one I want for myself… I understand that your motivation here is concern for your friend, but I think it is her dress to choose and you don’t have to like or agree with it, as long as she is happy.