Post # 1
I just got engaged about 3 months ago. Its going to be a long engagement b/c Mr. April Showers just started law school like today! I’m scared I’m going to overwhelm myself if I try to start planning years in advance. I don’t know what I can do now and when I should start really planning. Any suggestions on when I should start really making big decisions. As of right now the only thing I have in place is a budget.
Post # 3
I would start actually planning about a year out from the wedding, as for right now you can just enjoy being engaged and gather inspiration from weddingbee and other blogs/sites!! Snippet and Ink is a favorite of mine… i-do-it-yourself.com… etc.
Congrats, and welcome to weddingbee!!
Post # 4
Here is my list of planning:
- Guest list. Speak with your FI, and both sets of parents and make up list A, and list B
- Figure out budget, taking into account deposits needs to be paid at time of booking. Also find out what if anything both sets of parents would be contributing.
- Work on inspiration boards, polyvore.com is great for that.
- Have your FI help you decide which direction to take based on inspiration boards
- Start looking for a ceremony location and/or a reception location, keeping mind the budget and the guest list
Those are some good places to start.
*Also remember to take things slow. YOu don’t have to put deposits down yet, but you can start planning and setting up ideas. Plus, welcome to weddingbee!
Post # 5
Honestly, I would hold off on the wedding planning. As LLauRRAa said, wait until you’re a year (or a year and a half) out from the wedding. While people will say that it’s never too early to start planning, I tend to disagree. First, that far out from the wedding, you cannot predict what kind of financial situation you’ll find yourself years down the road. Secondly, I think many vendors will not give you the time of day when you tell them when your wedding day is…cruel yes, but I think they’re just protecting their business. Finally, we’ve had all sorts of craziness surrounding fraud allegations due to vendors folding and leaving clients high and dry. I think it’s risky booking vendors this early in the game.
Wow, my post sounds all gloomy, but for now, enjoy being engaged and don’t worry about anything else.
Post # 6
I definitely think you can plan, just try not to book more than 18 months in advance, for the reasons Catlady posted above. And definitely just enjoy being engaged.
Post # 7
You’ve gotten some great advice here already — I want to echo some of it. Definitely hold off on booking things until 18 months out or so. If your tastes change, vendors go under (thanks to our lovely economy), etc you don’t want to lose money!
Chela has some great suggestions on things to do. I would recommend buying a horde of wedding magazines and revelling in being newly engaged. Tear out pictures you like and build some inspiration boards. Be prepared for your tastes and preferences to change some though. Also, starting this far in advance you have a great chance to really save some money for your wedding. Planning for budget and savings can never start too early in my opinion!
Congrats on your engagement and welcome to WeddingBee!
Post # 8
Don’t plan anything right now! Just take about 6 months (at least) to enjoy being engaged! Being engaged is such a happy time that is often clouded with wedding planning!
When I got engaged last December, I actually wanted to have a 1 1/2 year engagement just to enjoy the first 6 months. Surprisingly, my fiance was anxious to have the wedding sooner, so we only had about 2 weeks of non-planning engagment!
Please, just enjoy your time with your FIANCE for a bit 🙂 oh, …and Congratulations!
Post # 9
i also was afraid i might be “planning” too early as our wedding isn’t until 2011 (haven’t even settled on a date). But the truth is, its never too early to gather your ideas and begin a binder (or whatever) and get inspiration! i got engaged December 2008 and ever since then have actively kept all my inspiration files on my desktop.. no pressure to do anything with them just yet..just file ’em away.
all i can say is that my ideas have drastically changed even since becoming engaged with the help of inspiration from weddingbee and other blogs. I like having so much time to just enjoy being engaged and having fun searching for elements of inspiration. Congrats and keep us posted!
Post # 10
You are very far out from your wedding. I would say you can “plan” but dont book anything/pay any deposits until about 1.5 years out from the wedding. DEF read the blogs/wedding sites/magazines etc etc and get an idea of what kinda of wedding you want in the meantime. I really wish I had taken even a month to do that before I dived into planning because what I wanted really changed and when you sign contracts you cant go back on them. Congrats!!
Post # 11
It seems a little early. lots could change between now and then – even friends. just enjoy being engaged for a while.. if you’re attending weddings, pay attention to what you liked / didn’t so you get an idea of what you might want but i’d echo the rest and say no significant planning for a while yet
Post # 12
Thanks for all of the feedback, its been hard talking to any of my friends about this sort of stuff because I’m the only one engaged and most of them are kind of against the whole getting married before your 30 thing.. well good for them, but im in love and totally enjoying the engagement! Thanks again everyone.
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
Our goal was to get all the “big things” — vendors and whatnot — figured out by the one-year out mark. That allowed us to get the best prices, our top picks for pros and even have a little time to take a break from the wedding planning before starting it up again around the six to eight month out mark!