- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
Hi ladies, I need some help and can’t really talk to my family or friends about this because I don’t want them to be hurt by everything that is going on until we actually have a decision. I am a sort of regular poster, but got a new name. Sorry if this is long.
Darling Husband has been unemployed for a while now and has been having trouble finding a job. He was a stockbroker and was laid off. There aren’t many positions for that in our area. We are both currently in school, I work full time, and Darling Husband is at home all day. He is also finishing up real estate classes and will be taken the exam to be a licensed real estate broker.
We just found out on Saturday that his unemployment is running out this week. It wasn’t supposed to run out until May, but they moved it up due to the unemployment rate going down. We have some money saved up because we knew that it was coming, we just didn’t expect it so soon. We are running out of options and he wants to move to his hometown (Boston) where he thinks he can make a better living. I agree that we both can probably make a better living there than here, but it’s a big move for me. His family is there; my family is here.
Mother-In-Law is currently in the process of putting an offer in for a house that she fell in love with. It’s a huge house with an in-law apartment next to it. If she gets the house, she wants us to move into the in-law apartment. It would be rent free, just the utilities. That’s thing #1 I am not ok with. I’m at an age in my life where I don’t think we should be living with our parents, whether it’s an in law apartment or in her actual house. While I love my Mother-In-Law and we get along great, I just feel that she will always be right there, hovering.
Darling Husband is helping her with this whole house thing and is helping her put her current house on the market. She wants him to fly up there for 2-3 weeks to help her sell her current house. That’s thing #2 that I am not ok with. While I know 2-3 weeks is really not that long, I just don’t want to be without my husband for that long so soon after we got married. I also don’t want to move 1000 miles away from my family. I lived in another state for 7 years and my mom hated that I was so far away. If I leave now, she will be heartbroken, especially when we will be TTC in a few years.
I just don’t know what to do. It is going to take a while for him to start selling houses and making money and while we could survive on just my salary, it would not leave room for much fun. Like no going out, eating out, not even out for one beer. If we move, I wouldn’t have a job right away and we would be living with his mom. She would pay him for helping her sell the house and other stuff. I’m just so scared. I broke down crying this morning. I feel like we are running out of options and we don’t have any time and we will have no choice but to move. The drive there alone with all of our stuff, our dogs, etc. is enough to deter me. I am tired of moving and just want to be settled down with my husband. Anyone have any suggestions, words of advice, anything? I’m so lost. If you made it through this mess, thank you for reading.