Post # 1
I am terrified of having an orgasm… I know, it probably sounds weird, but it usually causes me to have fairly strong cramps, only for a couple minutes, but I am scared it will lead to a miscarriage. I am very early – 11DPO and am not even sure I’m pregnant yet, but will find out soon. A couple months ago we had sex a few times right after my BFP and I started bleeding and had a MC at 5 weeks. I am not sure the sex lead to the MC, most likely it didn’t (I know the research) but I can’t get it out of my mind that it was somehow caused by it. So now, i am even scared for him to touch me TMI (i.e. no penis in vagina) just heavy petting because I am scared i’ll have an Orgasm and the cramping is bad for my uterus, especially this early on. Unfortunetly I have been very very shall we say ‘erotically charged’ lately… 🙂 So I am not sure how much longer I can last without sex, haha. Thoughts?? Do you have normal sex during the TWW?? ps. I am testing tomorrow, but I have very promising symptoms, similar to the time I got my first BFP.
Post # 3
I’m with you on that one. :/ puzzling! I don’t know if having sex can induce a m/c. I had a m/c back in April and that happened at random, nothing I can think of induced it other than the BC still in my system.
We’re on our first TTC cycle and the last time we had sex I had killer cramps afterwards that evening. 🙁 Good luck testing! I’m experiencing weird symptoms as well and may test soon too.
Post # 4
From what I’ve read, sex and orgasms are both safe and healthy during pregnancy. I’m almost 7 weeks along and DH rocked my world last night (TMI? lol) and I feel fine.
But, I’ve never had the cramping issue you mentioned. Is the cramping painful? Or do you just mean you have really strong uterine contractions? Could be something worth speaking to a doctor about.
Post # 5
i’m so sorry you went through a miscarriage. i can imagine it’s affecting you a lot in the early stages.
why not try just oral, no penetration? I find that clitoral orgasms are less intense? and guys love bjs. 😉
Post # 6
@iheartnerds: LOL!! Best response ever! And good for your DH 😉
@MrsOats: I’m inclined to say it shouldn’t affect anything and that it might even be a good thing to relieve stress but that depends how strong your cramps are too. Have to spoken to a doctor just to put your mind at ease? And like other’s have said maybe just keep it light until a bit later.
Post # 7
Vaginal and uterine contractions are a normal part of orgasm. Progesterone, produced after ovulation, should inhibit uterine contractions and so not disrupt implantation, which occurs several days after fertilization, and there are several theories for orgasm aiding conception (helping sperm motility, increased uterine blood flow, etc.) so personally I wouldn’t think it’s a big deal. You could avoid orgasm for a few days around when implantation should occur, but after that it doesn’t seem like it should matter. Of course, talk to your doctor, especially if you’re concerned about another miscarriage.
Post # 8
@iheartnerds: I don’t really have any advice that PPs haven’t given but I just had to comment on how much I loved your response! 🙂
Post # 9
Because we started spotting after sex with our first miscarriage, both my husband and I are in agreeance that we want to hold off until 2nd tri the next time we get pregnant just to make sure. I think it’s really up to you and what makes you feel comfortable.
Post # 10
If an olympian volleyball player can throw herself around a court at 5 weeks pregnant and be fine, i’m sure you’re ok! Some minor flexing will not dislodge the ball of cells that has burrowed into the uterine lining!