Post # 1
So I wrote a post and now I don’t see it. Yay for typing my fears twice :/
I bought a BBT thermometer a few months ago. My cycles are still wonky ish. Got off BC/last pack in Dec. Normal-timed AF in Jan. No AF in Feb/March but in early April. I should get my AF tomorrow if it goes according to plan. (I have a sinus headache/pressure, like I normally do right before AF but I had that on and off a few times during my crazy looong cycle last “month” so who knows.)
I understand it’d be a lot easier for me to see where I’m at within my cycle if I charted temps but the thing is.. I’m absolutely terrified of my BBT thermometer. I understand the premise, that part isn’t hard… temp the same time each day and watch for patterns. Easy, right? Then why the heck am I so scared of it? I don’t know what the temp cycles look like, as every time I go to read up on it, I get overwhelmed and closed the web browser but there’s no reason why I haven’t started collecting temps in the first place. IDK if in my head I’m intimidated or if it’s so much of a next step that when I get BFNs/AF that I’d be even more crushed or what, or if maybe my cycles are still presumably still so wonky that no amount of charting will help the process (which would then lead me back to the thought previous to this one. IDK. All I know is that I literally bought the darn thing a few months ago and haven’t touched it since taking it out of the package and now wishing I had taken temps so I’d know if I even ovulated yet and could expect my AF tomorrow or if I will have another few months of waiting for normalcy.
I guess I’m just blue and not feeling hopeful. No, this isn’t me saying I’ll never conceive/whoa is me. I think I’m just so fed up with my body taking its sweet time to regulate out that I feel so blah.. which is I think the biggest reason I haven’t started charting. (Though I think a secondary component is getting overwhelmed knowing what to look for, though that’s no excuse for a reason why I havent started taking temps.) The good news about this… mindset.. is that I’m not really even trying to symptom spot because I know it’s just a let down. As odd as that is, I’ll take that as a win. (Maybe that’s another reason why I haven’t started temping yet.. I’m scared to get back into that symptom spot mindset?)
I’m not sure what the point of this post is other than for me to get my feelings out there. Maybe it’s a plea for a temping-101 in a sentence or two so that the crazy graphs/charts on fertilityfriend don’t scare me away… maybe it’s a pat on the shoulder saying your body will settle down soon.. maybe it’s a glass of wine to keep my mind calm lol Thanks for listening 🙂
Post # 2
I hear you. For me charting is a double edged sword. On the one hand, yes it does provide lots of useful info. On the other hand it is easy to get obsessed and feel down if your chart/temps don’t look the way you’d hope. It’s really super easy to get the hang of charting if you watch the FF tutorials. I’m really glad I started, because it turns out I have PCOS. I would have NEVER guessed I would have this problem as I had none of the signs while on the pill. So it helped me to provide more info to my doctors sooner and get treated sooner. The long cycles are so frustrating though. It makes me actually mad at my stupid ovaries!! It’s like can you just work, why are you soooo slow!!
Post # 3
RMBsbride: I also quit the pill in December and am waiting for my cycle to return to normal after nearly a decade on HBC. I just started charting this cycle, and MrsZapatos nailed it. I was elated at first when my signs predicted ovulation, then hugely let down when my temps didn’t continue to follow the pattern. I have no idea when/if AF will show (despite taking my temp every morning) and feel very discouraged.
It’s easy to get fixated on your temps, so I think you are wise to hold off on using the BBT for now. I am actually thinking of taking a step back myself. Maybe just tracking your periods and CM would be a good compromise? FF has a free ebook called Charting Your Way to Conception that explains how to do it.
Post # 4
RMBsbride: I have been off my BCP since June 2013. I started temping in October 2013. I still have irregular cycles. It does cause stress when your chart doesnt look the way that it should – but for me it causes less stress than not knowing what is going on. And Fertility Friend makes it so easy since it does all the interpretation for you!
Post # 5
RMBsbride: It can a year (or more) for your body to regulate after being on hormonal birth control… So don’t stress about that, it’s different for everyone. But, charting can be a really helpful tool. I started charting before we were TTC, I wanted to “make sure” my body was doing what it was supposed to… I wasn’t great about it and my first few charts were all over the place. Some months I would start charting later in my cycle and not get a full picture, some months I would stop charting after I believed I ovulated (I have very regular cycles now). I say just start taking your temperature first thing in the morning at the same time and record the temps. If there is a pattern after a few months? Great, if not, that doesn’t mean there is anything wrong. But FF (fertlity friend) predicts patterns better than any person can and the more info you give it the more accurate it will be.
It took us a year of TTC with severe MFI before we were blessed with our miracle baby (I’m 12 weeks pregnant now). Sometimes it just takes time. But if you are stressing out about it either way, I don’t think charting would HURT anything.
Post # 6
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
You don’t have to chart to get pregnant.
If you don’t want to chart and/or charting stresses you out, then don’t do it! When I first started charting, I absolutely hated it. I woke up every morning like it was Christmas, and then failed to see a temp spike and was depressed the rest of the day. I didn’t ovulate for my first 6 cycles of charting. It was really hard for me because here was proof of my biggest fear: that there’s something wrong with me and I won’t be able to have my own family.
But then I decided that I wanted to have as much information about my body and my situation as possible so that I could seek help. So I kept charting and ovulated this cycle out of the blue. Even before the confirmed ovulation, I felt better about charting because I didn’t let it affect me emotionally. I made a decision that I wasn’t going to let it upset me and I wasn’t going to dwell on it all day long. Now, I love charting!
So, it’s all about what you feel comfortable with. If you want to do it to understand your body better, then do it and seek support from the lovely women here on the forums. If you feel that it’s only going to stress you out more, then don’t do it, throw away your thermometer, and don’t give it another moment’s thought.