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posted 2 years ago in Intercultural
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    yogigal    June 27, 2009   Chicago (married in Philly)

    I have been freaking out over everything lately.  EVERYTHING. Now, all I can think about is the serious culture clash between my side and his side and hope that everyone socializes together well.  I'm just so nervous about it.  I have been a guest at two interracial weddings before and had a blast, so I'm sure it will go well. However, those weddings were white/asian white/puerto rican.  I have never been to a black/white wedding before. Mine will be the first. My Dad made a (bad) joke about ghetto & crash meets culture & class Scared of the Culture Clash :  wedding interracial culture clash Icon Redface 

    So tell me about yours.  What were the awkward moments? Was the dance floor packed at all times? Did you split the music and play Earth Wind & Fire, Biggie Smalls AND Bon Jovi and Neil Diamond? Did everything you worried about work out just fine and I should stop stressin'?!!

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    Chela429    3/29/09   Long Island, NY

    AT my wedding we played mostly Spanish music, the merengue since it's easiest to dance to.  My husband is originally from Wisconsin, I call him white bread.  I'm dominican American, and our guests were from all over, Indian, Chinese, Korean, Hispanic, white and we had a great DJ and open bar and the dance floor was always full. 

     
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    SeiLuna    11-14-09   Gainesville, Fl

    I'm terrified as well!  We have a very distinct population that will be attending our wedding.  My family is very Hispanic in traditions, are loud, love to party and drink and have a good time by dancing and extending the party until the wee hours.

    His family is more conservative and proper.  Some are religious and aren't too much into the partying, drinking, staying up late business.

    Then our friends don't quite fit into this mix either.  I don't know how this is going to work out. Undecided

     
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    slicey19      

    Think of it as a way to intermingle cultures and introduce each family to new things. At least that is my perspective. We're not interacial but come from different sides of the Atlantic and there is a language barrier. Hie side (the Europeans) are suprised our venue won't let us stay until 4am (we suggested a hotel after party) and my aunt has suggested a dry reception (beer and wine will be on the menu) so I can already see differences in celebration styles coming out. However, we are excited to incorporate different traditions and some of our friends have already expressed their interest to be part of an "American" wedding. For me, when my parents met his extended family I was really nervous but that went well and eased my nerves for the wedding. I guess in the worst case scenario, our friends will stick to their own groups but that happens at any wedding where there are high school friends and college friends and family members who have never met before. Maybe you cna get your parents and a couple of close aunts and uncles together oone evening before the wedding, have a BBQ or do something casual and let them get to know each other so they will be friends by the wedding.

     

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