Post # 1
A few of you have followed my pregnancy/miscarriage/TTC journey on here and I got a BFP today and I am so incrediably scared. I am scared of losing the baby, I am scared of having a third child.
I am not sure whether to cry or jump up and down. I can’t tell DH until tomorrow night. He has a huge test for his engineering liscense tommorrow. I was already suprising him with getting a babysitter for the night and made reservations to go out for dinner a few days ago so I will wait to tell him then.
At this point I am just not sure what to do with myself. Do I insist on betas, ask for an ultrasond at 6 weeks, or learn to relaxe a little? I really just can’t believe this.
I am suppose to be a bridesmaid in my absolute best friends wedding in October, and I am not sure what to. I absolutely want to be in the wedding, but I am not sure how to make the dress work. Do I call now and ask for a larger size (we ordered about 3 weeks ago).
Sorry I am all over the place, I am just so shocked.
Post # 3
First, CONGRATS!!! I don’t really have any test advice for you, but I would wait til you tell your hubs, and then see how you feel about the dress. I would probably call the bride, swear her to secrecy,and then tell her and see what happens
Post # 4
I’ve never been TTC so I don’t have any advice for you but I just wanted you to know that I’m sending a prayer your (and your baby’s) way.
Post # 6
Congratulations, darlin! I don’t have any experience to speak from, but I’m thinking of you and your family and hoping that you and your husband can support each other through all of this!
Post # 7
Right. First things first. Breathe.
So, what to do?
1. Talk to hubby. If that has to be put off until tomorrow, so be it.
2. Make a list of worries you have. You can go through them together, then with your doctor. If there are concerns/issues, the medic can sort it.
3. Try to relax and enjoy your pregnancy.
4. How long do you have to sort the dress out? I’d leave that on the back burner for now.
But, keep breathing x
Post # 8
@Button: I am not sure how long to wait to deal with the dress. If I call now maybe they can order a size or two up (I know that is optamistic) and then alter it. I am just not sure how I will ever fit in theat dress being almost 30 weeks pregnant if I don’t get a bigger dress.
Post # 9
@ieatunicorns: Hmmm. I’ve never been pregnant, so I have no clue at all how many dress sizes you can expect to go up. I’d err on the side of caution and get one in the biggest size you think you ‘d need. I expect it’d be much easier (and more comfy) to have a bigger one taken in, than a smaller one let out; if you need any extra room you may struggle.
So, for example, if your dress is a 6, order a 12?
Post # 10
I’d order 2 sizes up. If you’re 7 months when you wear it, it will fit perfectly. If you’re not (you will be) then you can get it altered to fit your current size. Don’t expect the worse! Plan for happy days…& let fate do its business.
Post # 11
I think you need to insist on whatever makes you the most comfortable. But if constant testing is going to add stress – don’t do it. You know it won’t change the outcome 🙂 I do think a list of worries to take to the doc is a good start – hopefully they’ll be able to calms your fears.
Hugs to you and prayers that this baby will stick and thrive! Congrats again and even though it’s REALLY REALLY hard try to think positive and enjoy the blessings of this new life growing in you!
Post # 12
Congrats and will be praying everyone works out for you!
Post # 13
I agree with Ivyperks, talk to your hubby first (it sounds cute how you plan to tell him). Then I would insist on getting the betas + the 6wk ultrasound. These two things saved my sanity after my first loss, I started to believe that things would be ok this time with the beta results and seeing the heartbeat. About the dress, if she’s your absolute best friend, the only thing she should be is happy for you! (especially if she knows about your previous loss). Maybe you can change the dress order? Or maybe you can get a different maternity dress, since it’s a black dress it shouldn’t be difficult to find something similar for you so you blend well with the other ladies.
Post # 14
FWIW, I don’t think that wearing a non-maternity dress at 30 weeks is really an option. I tried on a dress that someone offered to lend me for a wedding I am attending this summer. The dress was 4 sizes up from my usual size and an empire cut. I was 22wks when I tried it and already the belly was close to tight. I think I could have worn it until about 25wks max.
Post # 15
First off, congrats!!!
I just wanted to chime in that I would strongly recommend requesting beta tests. I did that with this pregnancy (my second, after a miscarriage) and it did A LOT to help ease my mind. I called around four weeks, and my doc did a beta around 4.5 weeks and then 2 days later to see how the numbers were progressing.
That being said, I was still VERY VERY nervous for the first trimester. It wasn’t until about 16 weeks, when I started feeling him move, that I got more comfortable and accepting of the pregnancy.
But just keep your chin up… tell yourself that all is good until you hear otherwise, and try to enjoy it. I know it is much harder said than done! Feel free to PM me if you want to chat more. After my MC, I felt like was going crazy from being so nervous about my pregnancy!!!
Post # 16
Oh, and also, talk to your doc about being nervous. I had an ultrasound at 7 weeks, and then my doc saw me again at 9 and 11 weeks, simply because of my history. It really helped reassure me. Doctors can’t predict the future, but they can do a lot (like extra appointments) to help calm your nerves. So if you talk to your doctor about it, maybe he/she would be open to this.
GOOD LUCK! CONGRATS!