(Closed) Scared! Please help..feeling anxious~

posted 8 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

When you go in, let your doctor know it’s your first exam and could they explain to you what the process is. That way they’ll know to walk you through step-by-step. Basically, the main thing you need to do is just relax when they do the actual exam. Take a couple deep breaths and close your eyes – it might feel uncomfortable, but if it really hurts for any reason, let the doctor know. The exam should only take a couple of minutes – they usually get a swab of your cervix, feel around for any bumps/lumps and that’s about it. If you’re “lucky” the doctor may also do a rectal check – apparently it gives them another perspective of your reproductive health. I have mine next week with a new doctor and I hope I am not one of those lucky ones again! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I was probably 22 at my first appointment.  I was nervous and didn’t know what to expect, but my doctor was wonderful and FAST!

You’ll probably have to answer questions about your sexual history, family history, but will probably just have a pap at your age.  They don’t usually start screening for HPV until 30, unless there is reason to.  My OBGYN gives me a breast exam every year, and they will push around on my pelvis to feel girly my organs too.

I didn’t think it was “painful”, it was a little uncomfortable, but a good doctor will get it overwith quickly, so you don’t have too much awkwardness.

Most imporantly, be as calm as possible.  And always know that if you don’t have a good experience with your doctor, you can always change to another one!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It is a little uncomfortable, but really isn’t painful. It is very important that you go! I still get a little nervous right before my appointment every year, but my doctor is so wonderful, I can almost forget why I’m there! He makes me feel very comfortable and his nurse is just as awesome! Maybe take a couple ibuprofen before you go in to help relax your muscles a little. And remember, it will only last for a very short while and then its over for a whole year!! That’s what I try to tell myself. Honestly, the worst part for me is the breast exam!! I am SUPER ticklish and I’m always trying not to laugh during that part… It’s really not as bad as everyone makes it out to be, it’s not the most fun place to be, but it could be worse. (And that’s coming from a person who has a lot of gynocological problems!)

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

It is not painful just uncomfortable.

The most important thing to do is stay relaxed – if the gyno talks to you through your exam I find it helps.

I will let you know what they do just so that you are familiar with what is going to happen. First they will do a manual feel – where the gyno will insert two fingers into your vagina and press against the inside wall and press against your abdominal wall from the outside to feel your ovaries. However, the will not always do this exam.

For the pap smear they need to take a sample from your cervix, this is the opening into your uterus from your vagina. They use the duck bill looking thing (can’t remember it’s name) for this part. A good doc will warm it up under warm water, as the metal ones are cold (there are plastic ones as well, but most I have had used are metal) and apply lubrication. From here they will insert the tool into your vagina to open it up. The doc will then scrape your cervix with a plastic comb or a long Q-tip. This is the part that is uncomfortable. Just breathe and relax. And then its done!

It literally is done in 5 min. I usually have a little bleeding afterwards and so they usually give me a panty liner but really there is nothing to be scared of and it will be over before you know it!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Definitely tell the doctor it’s your first exam! Try not to be too tense (easier said than done, I know.) I wouldn’t say it’s fun, but it’s not too bad.  And it’s over pretty quick!

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Oh ya one more thing. From a girl who gets irregular cells come back from her pap smear quite often there are a few things that I didn’t know that help prevent irregular cells.

Go for your exam on the second week of your cycle (so the week after your period) and do not have sex within the 2 days before your exam.

You don’t want to have irregular cells because then you need to have this exam every 6 months for 2 years – UGH!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Future Mrs. Martin:  I’ve never heard of anyone bleeding afterward, that would freak me out!  Have you asked the gyno about that?

It is not that bad… I think the key is tot try not to think about it and just remember that they’ve done thousands of these exams.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

As someone who dreads going every year – it really isn’t so bad.
Definitely tell them that this is your first visit – my gyno is super fast, and very gentle.

Figure out something that helps you keep calm and relaxed. Do you have a mantra you can repeat to yourself? Would you be more relaxed if you brought your iPod, closed your eyes and listened to music? I used to bring one of those squishy stress balls, and hold it, and squeeze that if I got upset or nervous during the exam.
What I found is best for me keeping calm is to bring fluffy, warm socks with me to wear. I am always cold, and doctors offices always seem super cold, so I like to bring big fleece socks to wear. It likely makes me look like a giant nerd, but it helps me to relax and be calm. I don’t like the feeling of the stirrup things, so the less I feel like I’m touching them, the better.

Also, if you don’t like your doctor for whatever reason, don’t worry – there are tons of doctors out there. My first gyno was fine, but she and I never really “clicked”. I LOVE the doctor I have now – cannot say enough good things about the whole practice, but especially about my doctor.But also, try just not stress yourself out – it’s not a fun time, but it’s not too terrible either. And remember, you deserve a treat afterwards!!!! Heehee take yourself out for lunch, or something else special.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Angela83: They always tell me if I am going to bleed and give me a panty liner and tell me it is normal and happens to a lot of women. It’s a really minimal amount to the point where I don’t use the panty liners (because I wear thongs).

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

The previous posters have pretty much said what I wanna say ๐Ÿ™‚ Just relax.

Spotting is common after pap smear test, there’s no need to worry about – my gyno told me before my first test. I spot everytime after smear tests.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Honestly, my first exam was so much less horrible and stressful than I thought — I was 25.  The anticipation of the exam is the worst part!  Like Goldilocks1107 wrote, it’s really more of a slight discomfort than pain, and if you’ve got a good doc, it’ll be really quick.  My exams are over before I know it.  Just try to relax!  Good luck!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Future Mrs. Martin:  Oh ok, I was thinking it was more than that.

Sorry for the threadjack ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’ve always had minimal bleeding afterwards as well. Totally normal..

Try not to be nervous as it goes very quick and isn’t bad! Definately tell the doc it’s your first time because he/she will be more understanding and accomodating. Deep breathing will help. ๐Ÿ™‚

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