Scared to get pregnant.

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@SummerThyme:  I really don’t like going to the doctor in general. Mine is because I hate getting on the scale. At first, you only go once a month, for the majority of your pregnancy (unless you develop a complication or something). The appointments take less than 15 minutes. It seems like I always wait longer than my appointment lasts. Basically, they will weigh you, check your BP, have you leave a urine sample, and listen to the baby’s heartbeat. It’s pretty uneventful. There are a few tests (most are optional) that require blood work. 

When you hit your third trimester, you will start going every two weeks, and then in your last month, you will go weekly. She only did a pelvic exam at the first appointment, to make sure my cervix was high, tight and closed. She has been checking me now from 36 weeks on, but you can also decline the checks if you don’t want the exam. 

It’s really not that bad! And you’ll feel better when you’re there and hearing your sweet baby’s heartbeat.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@SummerThyme:  you are so welcome! They are very quick appointments, I promise. In my experience, OBGYN offices just have a much more “upbeat” and positive vibe and atmosphere than regular Dr. offices. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

i havent had a pelvic exam or ultravaginal ultrasound at all. ive only had abdominal ultrasounds,and at each monthly appt they check blood pressure and weight. ive had urine and blood work done once

i mean clearly at the birth theyre going to have to go near your vagina but prior to that…nto necessarily

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Yeah, i don’t go the doctor much unless I am pregnant LOL.  I just hate all the clinical stuff involved.  But it’s not so bad once you find a doctor you can relate.  The doctor I go to now is located in a clinic and the appointments are quick, like 10 minutes or less.  I get weighed, blood pressure checked, and the measures my belly and listens to the baby’s heartbeat.  I got checked for the 1st time pelvically last week because I was having contractions and she wanted to see if my cervix was opening…that was it.

She asks me a fw quick questions like how I’m doing and then that is it….. the tests I have to get done are done on a separate day and those are also an in and out kind of thing.  Not too bad.  You just have to get your ming ready.  I dealt with a midwife that was affliated with myhopsital with my 1st kid and I had an awesome experience with her.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

at 14 weeks my appointments have been pretty non-invasive. Some bloodwork and ultrasounds. We only got up close and personal and one appointment because I thought I might have a minor yeast infection. I’m not a big doctor fan (and I HATE HATE HATE the dentist) but once you get the bonus of seeing baby, you put up with the other stuff a little more readily. 

I do think it’s important to find a doctor that you like, My doctor is good, but the ultrasound tech and the staff are especially friendly and accomodating, so I find it’s worth the 30 minute drive. (I hate congested highway driving, almost as much as the dentist 😛 )

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I used to be terrified of doctors and needles. We had infertility issues though which led to lots of visits and blood tests. I no longer have doctor issues. Hopefully once you get pregnant and get into a rhythm with you doctor you will feel better about it too. 🙂 Pregnancy visits are way better too because you get to see and talk about your baby!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

It makes all the difference in the world to find a provider you like, trust and are comfortable with. A midwife might be a good option for you – their model of care is centered around wellness rather than pathology. It might be a good idea to look up midwives and birthing centers in your area.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i am seriously needle-phobic and never went to the doctor (ever) prior to getting pregnant so i definitely relate. i agree with most PP that doctors appointments during pregnancy are mainly just listen to heartbeat, check your blood pressure, measure you and then you’re on your way. 15 mintues tops and you don’t even have to put on a gown. the other stuff (blood work, etc.) is not fun, but it honestly didn’t seem that bad. i feel like it’s easier to deal with when you’re thinking that it’s for your unborn child’s benefit. you’re helping them stay healthy and it’s not about you. at least that’s what helped me through it.

i’m sure there are other options too that don’t seem as “medical” that you could look into (birthing centers, etc.) good luck! in the end, it’s all worth it 🙂

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

Those of you who have had midwives – did you generally get a pelvic exam early on, regardless of whether or not you were having related problems? Or…were those reserved for the last month (Group B Streptococcus test) for many of you?

 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I have a midwife!

I had appointments with her once a month until 30 weeks. Now we’re doing every other week (I’m 31 weeks along right now). I have NEVER had a vaginal exam yet, and my midwife says that as long as baby and I seem healthy I won’t need one at all. Our appointments are usually around 20 min, and are always upbeat. We talk about day to day stuff while she measures my belly, takes my weight, etc, and then we listen to baby’s heartbeat. She gives me advice on my diet and activities to keep me feeling good. Waaaay better than when I first got pregnant and was seeing my regular doctor.

We’re planning a homebirth. We’re going to a seminar on how to prepare for it with my midwife and a few other couples tonight. If you want I can PM you tomorrow with some info.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

@SummerThyme:  Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth by Ina May Gaskin is an excellent read if you would like to know more about how midwifery care works. She also does a wonderful job of demystifying birth and helping to allay fear of it!

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