(Closed) Scared to test…don’t want another disappointment.

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

Hi Heathaah – I totally understand!! We decided early on that I would NOT test early to try and take some of that pressure off (and to avoid knowing of an early miscarriage), and while every now and then I wanted to test, I just didn’t.  The negative result is so hard to see (and the one time I did test early, 10 DPO or so, as we had a big party to go to I was actually pregnant – but got a negative and didn’t test again until a week later when I was 3 days late!!)

I know its hard, but the one thing that helped me was to focus on enjoying pre-pregnancy and pre-baby days as much as I could – because as excited as we were to have a baby, I knew that there was a lot in my life that would change with that positive test.  If you can, try and go out with friends, enjoy yourself, believe that it WILL happen when your body is ready!

 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

You are doing what I did and putting too much pressure on yourself and looking to hard at every little thing. Hubs and I made a pack that we would no longer test unless it has been a week late. After 4 mths of the emotional rollercoaster it was too much. This should be an enjoyable time whether we get the result we want or not. I know it hurts when it is negative, but I always think it just is not our time. Good luck sweetie!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

aww, hugs going out to you…I’m sure it’s extra hard to wait if you tend to have a longer cycle anyway.  I agree it might be a good idea to make a “rule” for yourself about when is the earliest you want to test, just so you won’t be upset repeatedly (if you are repeatedly testing now)

it does sounds like a good sign so far, but I know stress can also affect your normal PMS signs, etc., but my main “early sign” was breast changes, so I’m sure I can speak for the hive that we all wish you a  BFP!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

I have no advice but I want to tell you good luck!  Just remember you have time, less stress = happier.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Sending you positive energy!  I was feeling those exact same symptoms earlier this week and I tested positive, so all signs point to yes.  And, if not, I bet it will happen at just the perfect time!!

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I actually felt basically zero difference before testing the first time. All the same changes you were talking about happened, but they happened for me at the same time as every other month. I was completely convinced that I wasn’t pregnant. I also got a negative at 10 DPO before getting a positive when I tested again at 13 DPO. While it totally sucks getting the negatives, it is just. too. freaking. hard. to wait and wait and not know for sure! How are you doing with temping, any clues there?

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2007

*Hugs*  I understand the fears. My expectations got lower and lower with every negative test I took.

Set a date a couple days from now that’ll you’ll test if your period doesn’t show up.  (A day that you’d be pretty certain your monthly should be here…. 35 days or 40 days)  Maybe that’ll make it easier to not constantly ‘want to’ (and not want to) test.  Something so you have a future goal to focus on.  Hopefully this means your friend will show up (no test needed – no extra stress) OR you’ll get the results you are hoping for!  Fingers crossed for the second!

 

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Good luck! Big hugs coming your way. It sounds promising, anyways =]

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

It’s so hard because the pregnancy symptoms are the same as PMS! Not fair. I had the cramps and boobs and was really hungry and tired when I was preggers… Keep us updated please!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

Sending prayers and hugs your way! 

Post # 14
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311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

I’ve been waiting for an update from you – good luck!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Heatheah –

I also was convinced I was getting my period, since I felt cramps and thought I had premenstrual symptoms.   After a few days of trying to avoid disappointment, I finally broke down and took a test, and my first words to my husband were, “honey, am I hallucinating a second line on this thing?”  I was so convinced that I wasn’t pregnant that I couldn’t believe the test results.  I’ve been exactly where you are – and it all worked out for me, and hopefully you will get the exact same result! 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

Heathaa – I know another negative test sucks, but if you are going this crazy it might be worth taking even before tuesday.  the whole waiting to test thing is a harder thing to do if you are analyzing every sign 🙂  in any event, fingers crossed for you!

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