Post # 1
So I have my first shopping appointment on Wednesday (and I’m also going to a wedding show in a couple of days) – I’m excited, but also really nervous.
I’m scared to try on dresses and feel like a narwhal.
I used to be thin (5’7, 118 pounds) but because of some health issues (namely my endometriosis, with lots of adhesions) exercising has become really difficult. For example, I could work out today, but the next couple of days will be filled with pain and other types of symptoms. Anyway, I digress…
I don’t want to try on dresses and feel really gross about myself. I’m doing what I can to eat better, and at least move around more, even if I can’t do too much actual “exercise” or “working out.” But what about the actual dress shopping experience? I don’t want it to be tainted with a lot of hateful self-talk. Anyone else feeling like this, or am I just crazy?
Post # 3
@ chercee – First of all, Congratulations!
When I started looking for dresses, I felt the same way. I have never been a thin person and when pinning wedding dresses to Pinterest boards and tearing out pages in magazines, I thought to myself how I am never going to look like these models wearing dresses.
I was SO worried about going dress shopping and was dreading it. However, it has been the complete oppostie experience. I LOVE it now. These gowns cost a lot of money for a reason – they are supposed to make you look and feel beautiful and accentuate your best features. I seriously can’t stop wedding dress shopping now.
You’ll try on some many different dresses, but if you have a seasoned professional at the store, you will quickly learn what you’re comfortable in and what looks good on you.
But you are not crazy going into this experience thinking this. Just keep an open mind and I’m sure you will love the experience! I hope this helps you!
Post # 4
You are not crazy!!
I am a size 2, however, I was not looking forward to the dress shopping experience as I envisoned it. I didn’t want people touching me, talking about me, etc. Have you thought about ordering a lot of gowns online? I ordered a ton online and found my perfect dress via Saks Fifth Avenue. It is great to have the comfort of your own home, your own mirrors, be able to walk around, etc. Think about it!
Good luck! You’ll find your dress!
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Post # 5
I was rather dreading it myself. I have big self-image issues. I HATE shopping for clothes in general, and I especially hate trying stuff on. I’m tall (5’11”), and oddly shaped. No boobs or booty, and thick-waisted. About as far from an hourglass figure as it gets. I just could not picture myself in anything resembling a wedding dress, and was ready to be miserable. But it really wasn’t that bad. In fact, I had fun!
Many wedding dresses have ‘camoflage’, such as draping and ruching(sp?), or even have shaping built in. Although not all that comfortable, definitely helps the figure (or in my case, lack thereof). Many shops offer to lend shapewear (corset, spanx) for your appointment.
Let the consultant help. It’s their job to know what dress works for which figure, so listen when they make suggestions. My dress was one I never would have picked out for myself in a million years, but I fell in love with the moment I put it on.
Try to keep your ‘posse’ small. Too many opinions can make you second-guess yourself, and finding a dress is very much a gut-feeling type deal.
Good luck, and have fun!!
Post # 6
I generally hate shopping. My mother and sister were terrified about the experience I was going to have. However, all the dresses are amazing! They are expensive, but they are designed to make you look fabulous! I tried on 8-9 dresses. Didn’t care for 2 of them, but they still made me look good. Loved 3 so much that it was nearly impossible to pick one! Don’t stress too much, and try to have fun! Even strangers told me that I looked beautiful in different dresses.
I do suggest doing hair and makeup similar to your wedding ideas. It just really helps you see the whole picture.
If you have a bad experience anywhere, leave and find another store. You deserve to feel like a bride, and to be treated like one!
Post # 7
I have an incredibly slow thyroid and am working my way back to being fit. It’s been a hard road, but I tried Isagenix and it helped jump start my weight loss. I couldn’t stay on it constantly, or I would’ve lost the weight much more easily. The cost was just too much in my opinion. Either way, I had lots of issues trying on dresses, but the all looked pretty good. And most of the dresses are built to hug curves, which most women don’t have at a young age. Embrace your womanly figure. There are lots of designers out there making dress for Curvier ladies.
Post # 8
Thanks for the support, ladies. At least I’m not the only one!!
I know a lot of it is just my own insecurities…they say that every bride looks beautiful on her wedding day, and I’ve always thought so. But now that it’s my turn, hahaha I don’t want to be down to my underpants with my wobbly bits being judged by some stick insect stranger! Gah! (Oh and tummy scars, did I mention thoughs? Very hot.)
Deep down, I think I’m feeling a bit insecure about being an “older” bride – I didn’t think I was an “older” bride until a bunch of people said I was … so now I’m extra-aware of all those “younger” brides out there. Add THAT to the wobbly bits and – TA DA – narwhal.
Again, thank you for the kind words of encouragement. It’s nice to know that there are other people with some of the same feelings/worries. Appointment is in two days! I will let you know how it goes.
Post # 9
Dont be scared. Bridal gowns are often very structured giving you a waist you thought you never had or a nicer shaped butt. You will be plesantly surprised 🙂
Post # 10
So here’s the update:
Today I ended up trying on dresses, without any forethought or appointment. (I’d been with my MOH looking for a dress for HER, and the shop was empty so the sales associate let me try on whatever I wanted – lovely!)
So not only was the trying-on experience really relaxed and comfortable, but ….
I FOUND MY DRESS! OMG!
Ok so I didn’t buy it, because I still have the appointment at David’s tomorrow and I want my Mom to look at it; it’s also good to sleep on big decisions, I think. Tomorrow, before going to David’s, I’m taking Mom back to where I was today so she can see it. Then we’re going to David’s to see what they have to offer – except that in my mind, I’m already in the dress I saw today.
What an amazing feeling. I can’t even explain how happy I feel right now.
Post # 11
@chercee – Ahhhh! That is SO exciting and so happy for you! I’m glad that all the inscurities went out the door and you found a dress you love. You deserve to feel happy!
Post # 12
@lambs379: Thanks so much! I’m heading out tomorrow to order it. Oooh I’m so excited I could just die. I was afraid I was missing the “bride gene” until this happened.
Post # 13
How exciting! I find dress shopping both fun and nerve-wracking, you just need to make sure you take along the right people who will provide both support and constructive criticism.
I think it really helps to look (and therefore feel) your best when you go dress shopping – put an effort into doing your makeup and hair on the day, and wear appropriate undergarments (a good nude strapless bra and seamless undies). It will help you envision your wedding look, and also give a boost of confidence when you’re out there, parading in front of a mirror and everyone around you!
Post # 14
@peonyinparis: Excellent tips! when I went back to order it (and try it on again, because YAY!) I actually had makeup on, did my hair a little, and put on the necklace and earrings I’m planning to wear. It was awesome! It was also a chance for me to realize that the nailpolish I’d hoped to wear clashed horribly with the dress and looked awful haha
Post # 15
@chercee: I thought I was going to look like a freaking marshmallow. the first appt was good. I let the consultant upfront know my concerns and she really helped.
Post # 16
@W292737: I’m glad your experience was good too! It’s amazing at how much our insecurities come out. The idea of everyone looking at me, taking pictures….ugh – suddenly I’m extra-aware of all the parts of myself I just hate. It’s nice to be able to feel good about yourself now and then. 🙂 As I said to FH, “This is one day where I want to feel more than ‘ok’ about how I look! I want to feel amazing!”