Post # 1
So I posted a bit ago about going to the psych hospital. I was there last Mon to Fri. It wasn’t as helpful as I hoped, but I did get a medication change so hopefully that will be helpful longer-term.
But I cut quite a bit that week/ weekend before on my left forearm. There’s a lot of thin lines in a row. Now I’m really regreting it, especially because of the scars. It’s nearing spring and I don’t know if I should hide them or not. I’m using Mederma advanced and I know they will get much less noticable with time as my old ones did. I’m just ashamed that I was that out of control and now I have to see the reminder of it every day.
Especially with running and going to the YMCA. I’ve been wearing long sleeves, but soon that will be weird. Do I just say f-it, I’ve been through $hit and it is what it is? Or is there a better way to make them less noticiable or to cover them?
Post # 3
Hopefully you’re feeling better.
You could try tinted moisturizer or gradual self tanner. I had some road rash scars for a couple years on my arms; I found self-tanner made them a lot less noticeable while the Mederma faded them.
Post # 4
@wabisabi: It looks like a rash or like you were leaning against something. Are the cuts deep? From the pic it really doesn’t look bad.
If I were you, I would wear whatever made me most comfortable. If you don’t want people judging, get some sleeves. If you think you can handle it, then go sleeveless. Could any makeup cover the marks temporarily?
Post # 5
Give it some time. I cut a little flower into my wrist in 9th grade…with a ball point pen…and it’s barely visible now. In college I cut myself with scissors and my fingernails in a few spots and while there are scars, they are not visible unless you examine my forearms.
I’m glad you’re getting help! Your marks don’t look as bad as mine did. They’re sort of delicate looking.
Post # 6
Honestly, I thought it was from leaning up against something when I first saw it. Just keep using the mederma, I doubt anyone would ask you about it any way. Hope things are looking up for you!
Post # 7
I hate to be super sensitive, but you might want to put a clause in your title stating that there is a picture of the scars on your arm. Scars are a HUGE trigger for me (and other self-harmers I’ve known) and I wouldn’t have clicked if I knew it would be posted. 🙁
So now that I’m done with that, keep using the scar reducing cream. It does help, a bit anyway. I still have noticeable scars that are many years old, but many others have faded. I also got a tattoo that helps to hide some of the worse scars, so that worked for me.
While you are working on fading the scars, I use to wear a wrap around my arm, especially during the spring and summer when it was too hot for a sweater. That might work for you. 🙂
But again, if you are anything like me, some scars will never fade completely. Instead, as victims of self-harm’s affliction, we can only see the scars as reminders of how far we have come.
Post # 8
I recently had surgery, and we’ve been putting a scar gel onto the incision. Because the scars are new, they are fading pretty quickly. It is supposed to help older scars as well, but it will take more time. There are a number of brands out there, but I don’t know enough about any of ones other than what I’m using to really recommend one.
Post # 9
@Meglin: It says “scars on my arms” how did you miss that?
Post # 10
@peachacid: I wasn’t expecting a picture of the scars to pop up. Its not that the mere fact of them existing can be triggering, but a photograph is, at least to myself and other people who have overcome self-injury. Its only a suggestion as a way of helping avoid triggering other self-harmers.
Post # 11
Glad to hear you’re getting help!
I’d just keep using the Mederma. That’s the best thing I’ve heard about for scars.
And I wouldn’t worry about needing to cover them. I agree with the PPs that it looks a lot like you’ve just been leaning against something. I would never take a second glance at your arm as a passer-by.
Post # 12
I used to SI a lot and I have very faded scarring on my arms from it. I don’t care any longer enough to cover it, but if it makes you more comfortable (I know sometimes it did for me at times when mine were around the fading point where yours are… also, my arms are pretty much the same color so give it time and they’ll disappear for the most part. I had a lot, much like what you have, and what is visible now is a fraction of what was visible.) using a primer and body makeup will help. Dermablend was always a disappointment for me. Never quite matched or did the job.
If you want to cover them well, it’s an investment in primer, a good quality concealer, a brush, a good powder for setting it and a fixative spray. Once you drop the money, it lasts a long time. Using body makeup isn’t somewhere I’d try and cut corners, it can get obvious looking. :
I also started using Amlactin on my whole body because of my really dry skin and noticed my scars faded faster. As long as all of those are healed, I’d get a tube of Amlactin Ultra and use it twice a day. It has Alpha-Hydroxy Acids (the three it uses are ammonium lactate, potassium lactate, and sodium lactate) that speed skin cell turnover which would make some sense in helping scars to fade. Moisturizing them is important, regardless. Just a little tip.
Anyway, my must haves (in order of application) were Clarins Instant Smooth Perfecting Touch primer, Cover FX Total Cover Cream Foundation in N-0 applied with Bobbi Brown foundation brush. I used Make Up For Ever Pro Finish Multi-Use Powder Foundation in 113 Neutral Porcelain with a Kabuki brush (pretty sure it was just one from Sephora, I wasn’t picky there) to lightly dust powder over and help set it and finished it all off with a quick cover of Urban Decay All Nighter Long-Lasting Makeup Setting Spray. And that sounds like a ton of work but it took maybe 10 minutes.
I also really loooove MUFE’s Full Cover Concealer vs Cover FX, but it’s a small tube of the Full Cover and while a little goes a LONG way, the Cover FX is the less expensive route.
Hope that helps. 🙂 Don’t be afraid to just say f it, though. I did for the most part. I only covered them for certain occasions. Whatever makes you more comfortable right now.
Post # 13
It’s pricier but I’d recommend StriVectin over mederma. My mom wanted something to help her 25-15 yr old stretch marks fade & I got her a bottle of stri-vectin for xmas at her request. She loved it and said it worked so well on her stretch marks she started using it on her face for her acne scars. Said it was too expensive to waste on an area no-one would see. If I remember correctly it’s just amped up mederma….
Post # 14
@Meglin: I am sorry; I should have put a warning in the title. I just flagged it asking a moderator to edit the title since I don’t know if/how I can do it myself.
I have been using mederma for a few days and I’m hopeful since they are really new scars that they will fade quickly. I’ve also been making sure to use lotion in general, since that seems to just make my skin look more even overall.
I was proud of myself and I went to the YMCA today for a bit of cardio and Pilates and I didn’t wear long sleeves. I don’t know if anyone noticed or not. I was totally self-conscious about it the whole time, but not enough to interfere with my workout or make me cover up. It’s odd though because even DH hasn’t seen all my scars. He gets so mad about cutting and he doesn’t understand depression/self-harm at all, so I have only told him that I cut again before going to the hospital last week.
At least I have a few more weeks of long sleeves for everyday clothes.
@mrsscribbles: I don’t know if I want to make that investment to cover it up, but I might have to try something because I have a family wedding to go to in April and the dress and shoulder wrap would show my scars.
Post # 15
I’ve read that BioOil really helps to fade scars
Post # 16
I would use BioOil it helped with a scar I had. I also combined that with mederma (oil first let that sink in then put on mederma) and it’s hardly noticeable now.