Post # 1
Have any of you had (or attempted to have) a scent free wedding?
I’m sensitive to smells, and my dad is extremely allergic. I want to encourage people to go as scent free as possible, particularly no perfume or strong lotions. I know that people may decide to ignore it, but hopefully they will be considerate and refrain themselves from bathing in perfume, lol.
If you did this, how did you get the word out? I don’t plan on making a wedding website, so I’m thinking on an insert card in the invitation with extra wedding details, including asking for no scents.
Post # 2
I would put it on the insert card and maybe clarify saying “Due to extreme allergies, please avoid scented products” or something like that. Otherwise people might think you are just being picky.
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
Let’s be honest here, even if i saw that in the invitation. I would probably forget the morning of when i was getting ready. Not that I wear heavy perfume, but perfume and lotions are part of my daily getting ready routine.
Post # 4
MrsSaltWaterTaffy: Oh, I’ll definitely make sure to put that its for a medical reason. I wouldn’t want people to think I’m being picky or a birdezilla who insists on smelling better than everyone else, LOL.
Post # 5
Your guests should be respectful enough to honor this request. I would be surprised if scores of people forgot it- it’s a little unusual, I would think that they would remember it.
Post # 6
ClaudiaKishi: lol – No one will smell better than ME on my wedding day.
Post # 7
ClaudiaKishi: I think as long as you let them know it’s because of an allergy they’ll respect it. Just like you’d respect theirs when, say, creating the menu.
But just in case, I’d have some sort of “backup” (meds?). I’m not familiar with that type of allergy but I’d want to be prepared in case Aunt Sally bathes in perfume and wants to hug you all night.
What do you normally do when you go to crowded places?
Post # 8
playdohpants: Honestly, I’m not super super sensitive- I’m mostly bothered by really strong perfume and cologne, and most people who wear stuff know enough not to bathe in it, so it’s rare that I’m bothered. If I am, I just need to get away ASAP or I get a headache that cannot be cured with meds :(. There have also been times where hand soap in bathrooms is soooo strongly scented I start to get a headache/tickle in my throat so I just have to rinse off.
My dad is the one who is really allergic, he gets migraines and if it happens he will probably have to leave 🙁 Which is why I hope people will be respectful. Deoderant, soap, hairspray etc doesn’t really bother him, but stuff like heavy perfume and hand lotions will- hopefully it’s not too much to ask for people to refrain for one night.
Post # 9
ClaudiaKishi: I was actually reading about this somewhere else a week ago where the bride was asking on behalf of an aunt, who was allergic and the best advice I saw was this:
somewhere on the directions card or whatever you send with the invites include something along the lines of “On behalf of guests with severe allergies, we ask that you please refrain from wearing perfumes, colognes, or strongly scented lotions at these festivities” and then, as a backup (because no matter how nicely you ask, someone will ignore/forget) make sure to seat the guest in a well-ventilated area at the reception (near a door/window/air vent/etc.)
Post # 10
I would slip a small note in the invitation and all guests who read it will probably remember. If it’s that big of a concern you might also want to bring babywipes so people call wipe off their scent vs. sending dad home.
Post # 11
I was at a wedding rehearsal where ALL of the wedding party and the couple’s family had doused themselves in perfume and cologne. I had a severe allergy attack that night. I know the pain.
Post # 12
- Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon
ClaudiaKishi: We’re doing it! FFIL is allergic to perfumes and the like.
We wrote on the inserts AND the website the following:
“Due to allergies within the wedding party, we ask that guests refrain from wearing scented products (i.e. perfumes & colonges).”
FI is adament that he is more than willing to tell someone to go wash it off if someone shows up too smelly. We’re working on polite ways to ask. FFIL will also have an exit route, should he need one.
Post # 13
I can’t see people having a problem with it, but I second the idea to have some unscented baby wipes on hand in case people forget. I would probably just go about my normal getting ready routine, spraying perfume…and then be embarrassed when I turned up and remembered.
Post # 14
ClaudiaKishi: Definitely mention allergies or sensitivities– or yeah, like someone else said- it might jsut seem like you are super picky.
I think I would remember this request- as long as it was somewhere I could see it- because I’m sure my first thought would be “that’s a first!”- for a wedding at least.
Post # 15
ClaudiaKishi: Well…I mean yes, you can put it in an insert in the invitation. But I must ask, how does your dad deal on a day-to-day basis? Does he work from home where he doesn’t have to worry? What if he goes to the store, the movies, etc. where people may be wearing something scented. How sensitive is he? Can you make sure you surround him at a table with those you know would comply and then possibly have the nearest tables to him be personally “reminded” or informed of this medical request. Maybe once you make the seating chart you’ll have a better idea of what you’re working with. Designate someone to call the guests closest to your dad to remind them of the no lotion, perfume, cologne, etc. either the day before or the week before. Even if I received an invitation four to six weeks before, I’d still forget to not spritz with some perfume before I leave the house. If someone personally reached out to me, maybe I’d remember. Otherwise, I think it’s going to be tricky.