Post # 1
So I was thinking about mailing a letter to each of my bridesmaids, first thanking them for agreeing to be involved, then informing them of upcoming bridesmaids events to occur during the months of planning, such as engagement party, dress fittings, bridal shower, ect.
Is this a good idea or is this over planning?
Post # 3
hmmm…this seems like a good and safe idea. i wouldn’t mind it personally and would find it quite helpful.
but i have hesitated to do the very same thing bc I dont want to come off bridezilla-ish….
curious to everyone else’s opinions.
i’m thinking that now I am within shooting range of my wedding (6mos) I can start doing similiar stuff without appearing crazy.
Post # 4
No, this great. It’s often referred to as a newsletter. Here’s a post by Mrs. Bee about a free template you can use:
Post # 5
I think its a great idea, but I am sure that my family would think that I am crazy!
Post # 6
I’m going to do this for the wedding weekend (the BMs are all over the place, otherwise I would’ve done it for the entire engagement period too). Then again, I’m neurotic.
Post # 7
I think as long as it comes across as helpful and not demanding it is a great idea. Just make sure the list is not too long!
The thing that I wonder about is "dress fittings" – are these yours? They might not need all of these details, unless it is customary for your group to go to things like that.
Post # 8
Good idea, as long as it is informative and not demanding.Â :)Â Organization is a nice thing.Â I wish I could have done this, but we still don’t have our day of schedule nailed down (other than ceremony/reception times).Â Eek!
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Post # 10
I absolutely think overcommunicating is much better than undercommunicating. There are so many posts about bridesmaid issues, and it usually stems from lack of communication.
Everyone loves being asked to be in a wedding, but we all assume they will know what is expected from them, and brides get resentful when BMs don’t fulfill your idea of what the duties are.
Whether it’s a letter, newsletter or informal email or note, I think it’s a great idea to send something to each BM saying, "I am so honored you will part of my day. So we can all manage expectations, here’s a quick list of things to think about."
Then you can break out what the anticipated costs will be, anticpated events you’d like them to attend, etc. I agree that it call comes down to wording, so spend a lot of care in writing it so that it seems helpful and not militant.
Post # 11