(Closed) scheduling a baptism

posted 5 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

The reality is that people will mostly be taking pictures of, and looking at, the baby. Generally at the baptism itself the baby is held by its godmother, not by its mother so you will not likely be in many of the “action shots” so to speak. Nobody particularly notices how the mother looks, sad to say!

Whether the baby fits in the gown depends on how big he/she is when born and how fast he/she grows. Most baptismal gowns are one size fits all I think though?

Generally only immediate family comes to the baptism. People who are extremely close. These people would obviously not attend other parties, regardless of what date it is held.

Also usually the baptismal party is fairly brief and held at someone’s home… it’s a couple of hours at most and then you’re done. Usually the baby is not up for anything longer than that. It’s kind of a lot going on for the baby (lots of new experiences) and they don’t enjoy too much of a halloballoo. Everyone understands that and usually folks will have a sandwich, drop off their gift, greet the baby and then leave.

Don’t build it up as a big thing, it’s not like a wedding where the bride and groom are kind of “on stage” so to speak. Keep in mind there will probably be a couple of other babies getting baptized at the same time (that’s how it’s done at my parish anyway). Of course it’s an important day in baby’s life but don’t stress out about appearances and so forth. Easier said than done, for sure.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

hmm. I don’t know anything about that, since every parish I’ve been to requires the parents to be registered members of that parish (3 diff dioceses) for at least 90 days prior to baptism, but different dioceses do different things. I think your best bet would be to call the church you want you child baptized at and talk to someone there about it. Ask when they suggest you get it done and see how that fits with your teaching schedule and when you are due. and as for how you look.. don’t be too concerned about it. I’m sure you will look beautiful 🙂 Don’t worry about making sure the baby belly is gone.. I mean eveyone will know you just had a baby. As for the labor day weekend.. if you have traveling guests, I’d stray away from it… traffic will suck.. it always does on that weekend.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

Woodstock’s advice is good. You should talk to two priests, actually: the one in your hometown where you plan to have your baby baptized, and the one at your parish where you live now. It’s true that typically the Church prefers that your baby be baptized in the community where you live and worship regularly, but you can usually work things out to travel home to do a baptism in a family’s long-time parish. My sister & her husband did that for my niece, traveling halfway across the country for the weekend of the baptism after doing all the preparations out where they live. Just open up communication between yourselves and both priests to see what your options are and get the ball rolling.

What, incidentally, are your husband’s thoughts about everything? You guys do have the opportunity, with your baby, to start your own family traditions. If you *want* to do something smaller, or do it where you live rather than traveling, you could certainly do that. You could point out that your husband’s family does things differently and you guys are figuring out a way to blend the two traditions.

Earlier baptism is preferable, theologically speaking, and I hope that by the time your baby arrives and is ready to be baptized, you will be so overjoyed with your new little one that it will help you set aside some of your worries about your weight. The best way to guarantee good pictures at the baptism is to let your beautiful, blissful “proud new mom” smile shine! (You could also discreetly ask the people with the cameras to avoid taking full-length shots, if you are really hung up on it.)

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

If baby is due in May, why not have the baptism in July when you’re already planning to be there? Personally, I’d rather go ahead and have my baby baptized– if I have the time off, and I’m going to be in town anyway (and everyone knows I’m going to be in town) then I’d consider it. Your family will all probably want to see you during the July visit to see the baby. Unless you’d like a bit of a longer break from your family (since you mention wanting to be away from them in the later months of pregnancy…)?  My cousin’s son was baptized the weekend of July 4th a few years ago, and it just happened that one of her good friends also had her daughter baptized at the same Mass- it was very nice.

My parents grew up in Nashville, but relocated to Birmingham, AL, before I was born. My brother and I were both baptized in Nashville at Cathedral of the Incarnation because that was the family church– my Mom went to Cathedral for school, grandparents and parents were married there, other cousins have since been baptized/married there, etc. From what she said, they just got the OK from the local priest for us to be baptized there and it was not a big deal because of the family connection.  Just check with the priest at your home parish and the church you’re traveling to– I’d check with the long-distance priest first, because if they don’t OK it, it’s a moot point.

Since it’s an all-day family gathering, I’d also consider whether your family members will be OK with using their holiday weekend to attend a baptism? Are any of them already under obligations for their children or attending weddings or other events that someone else has planned for that weekend because of the holiday?

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