Post # 1
I am currently in school and will graduate in May. I have a job lined up after I graduate that I will be able to start by July and I can continue to work at my job I have now until then. This new job will pay pretty well, but I am already nervous because I know that it is going to be really stressful at first, and maybe the whole time I have this job! The reason I am worried about this is that my fiance will not be able to get a job until October and our wedding is in November. This was not originally the plan, but the way his classes worked out at school it was really the only thing he could do. We are going to be buying a house a few months before the wedding and I am just worried that this new job is going to be too much for me to handle and I will have the main responsibility for this house until he gets a job and a wedding happening all at once! I really don’t want to move back the wedding, that isn’t the problem. I am just already starting to feel stressed about starting a new career that I am slowly learning is VERY hard and stressful and buying a new house that I will be responsible for. I know that even if I hate my job and feel stressed and unhappy that I won’t really have a choice but to stay, at least until my fiance gets a job! Any advice or did anyone else feel this way when first buying a house/ starting a new job?
Post # 3
I would put off buying the house for a few months at least. Rent a place for 6 months and then deal with buying after the wedding and your FI has a job.
Post # 4
@WeddingTime18: I would just Rent, home ownership is not something you need on your plate right now. Have a wedding you can afford and enjoy settling into a new job. Once your hubby to be is completely on his feet and you are in the swing of things THEN would be a great time to look for a home. Month to month is a great option if you can find it
Post # 5
@WeddingTime18: I’m sure this depends on your area, but where we live, we couldnt get a mortgage in both of our names unless we were both employed.
Either way, I agree with PPs that it’s probably best to choose either a house or the wedding. Doing both within a few months of each other is a TON of money to spend in a year. My husband and I have both had stable employment and even still, we bought a house then waited almost three years before having our wedding in order to get our budget together.
That said, I do think you could have a tiny, casual wedding soon after buying a house. We actually first considered having a surprise wedding at our housewarming party! Though we ended up decided to wait and have a big wedding later on, it would have been very affordable and super exciting to have the wedding in our new home.