Post # 1
So my SO is from Scotland, and last night we were talking about our wedding, and I expressed to him that, since we were having the wedding in america, that i’d like to incorporate his Scottishness into the ceremony. I think using the scottish thistle as the flower would be a neat idea, but I really dont want my wedding colors to be purple… and then I asked him jokingly, if he was going to wear a kilt, to which he replied, Of Course!
Excuse me for being an ignorant and clturally inept american but… am I the only one who thinks the kilt thing is a tad silly looking? Of course I would honor absolutely anything about his culture and what he wished to wear on our wedding day. But I worry about my american friends and family finding his dress of choice funny. I want the focus to be on us and our day and not on what they dont understand to be a very long-running scottish tradition.
I don’t know, any insight and words of encouragement would be appreciated, as well as any other ideas any of you have to honor the Scottish culture?
Post # 3
Just wanna say- I like kilts. If my fiance was even a little bit Scottish I would want him to wear one.
Post # 4
@xSparr0w: I lived in Scotland for a year and the guys always wore their kilts for any formal occasion. They actually “dress up” quite nicely and look very distinguished- NOT silly!
Will your SO be the only one wearing a kilt or will he have family over to the States as well? The kilts might make more sense to Americans to see several of them together.
No other ideas how to incorporate a Scottish theme- besides serving haggis and Irn Bru at the reception 🙂 Scottish ceilidh dancing is a really good time as well, even for people who have never done it before!
Post # 5
I don’t think the kilt is silly at all. People are proud of their heritage. It’s not like he’s asked you to get a wedding dress with his family plaid as the material. In all the weddings in my family, the BM/Bride/groom wear a ribbon of our family plaid. Mine was wrapped around the bouquet, the FG’s had them in their hair and one cousin had her garter made of the plaid and my brother’s have ties in our plaid.
You can carry a horsehoe and a sixpence. I’m sure you’re SO will have other ideas as well!
Post # 6
Personally I can’t think of a single Scottish guy who WOULDN’T wear a kilt on his wedding day. It is very much an ingrained tradition, and pretty much all the guys I know love wearing their kilts. Also, they get TONS of female attention, which I’m sure helps. I’ve been to weddings in the States and in the south of England (where they are not traditional) and have ever heard a negative comment. On the contrary, it’s often commented how good they look and we even had strangers taking photos of some of the boys as they walked around town. When a wedding is so often focused on the bride, I think it’s quite nice when the groom gets some attention just to himself.
Post # 7
@xSparr0w: Definitely not silly! My family is Scottish, and the men wear kilts on all the formal occasions. When my Uncle used to fly to Canada, he wore his kilt on the plane 🙂
I love the look of a Scotsman in a kilt. My FI’s family is also Scottish but he didn’t want to wear a kilt on our wedding day – boo!
Post # 8
A kilt is no sillier than a tuxedo. As long as he’s not planning to wear a tutu or a t-shirt, your SO should wear whatever he wants for his wedding.
Post # 9
Thinking about ways to incorporate ‘Scottishness’:
- Tablet or whisky as favours
- Having a ceilidh (an integral part of any Scottish wedding!)
- Incorporating his family tartan (if he has one) in your bouquet/garter
- Looking into incorporating Scottish foodstuffs (we went to a wedding where they served haggis-stuffed chicken and it was AMAZING)
- Giving the groomsmen whisky glasses as their gifts (we’re probably going to do this one)
Can’t think of any more just now, but if you think outside the box there are plenty of ways to include his culture.
Post # 10
@kestane: Hopefully he can get his friends and family to fly out here! If not, he would be the only one.
I guess ‘silly’ might have been the wrong word to use! I definately respect his culture. I just don’t want him feeling out of place. Oh well! Its our wedding, and hes gonna wear the damn kilt 🙂
Post # 11
My SO will be wearing a kilt when we (eventually) get married. This is one of the only things he is adamant about. I was a bit hesitant about it, but all of my concerns are pretty shallow so of course he can wear a kilt!
For example I’m a bit worried about what the rest of the bridal party will wear- so it all matches. I don’t think all of the groomsman will be in kilts. I looked up some pictures on pinterest (and the knot had some good ones) and this made me feel a bit better about how things would look. I’m also a tad worried cause we are about the same size- so I was worried in a kilt he would look smaller than me (as the socks they wear are tight and my dress will be lose-ish at the bottom). Again, a shallow concern!
So I totally understand how you feel! I reccomend looking up some ‘kilt weddings’ on the knot to ease your fears, this helped me a lot!
A lot of the bees above have good ideas of how to incorporate “Scottishness” into your wedding. I will be wearing a Scottish garter that my Future Mother-In-Law made for my SO’s cousin and maybe his dad will play the bag pipes.
Sorry for the novel! This is something I’ve thought about a lot.
Post # 12
I hope this works (trying to post a photo on an iPhone), but here’s a pic of my Fiance (far right) and his friends at a wedding, so show you a mix of kilts and a suit (the friend in a suit is English).
Eta: Ack, didn’t work. I’ll try it from a real computer later.
Post # 13
@ginmar: Yes pinterest has been my soul inspiration. I love this celtic tradition thats practiced that involves holding hands and kind of making this infinity loop with a tartan rope that goes around our hands, ill have to ask him about that one later. The Knot? Havent heard of that site, must look up.