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hey bees,

here's the dealio...my dad and i are really close, but i am thinking about just scrapping the father-daughter dance.  my goal of the day is for everyone to be comfortable and have a good time (i know it's unattainable, but it's what i'm shooting for).  my dad is generally uncomfortable being the center of attention, and in my 25 years of life i have never seen him in a suit and tie.  he's not going to get out of the formal attire requirement, so i'm thinking a good way to drop his stress level is to scrap the dance.  another thing: i have been trying to come up with a good slow song for us to dance to for the last 10 months, and i haven't been able to think of anything that would be all that meaningful to us.  growing up we always listened to more fast-paced music (rolling stones, dire straits, jimmy buffet) that would be really hard to dance to.  so i was thinking that maybe i would just toss a few of our favorite faster-paced songs into the main dancing playlist and go and grab him when they come on, so we can boogie along with everyone else (i.e. no center of attention stuff, and still fun dancing).

my fiance says i'm going to look back at our wedding video and regret not having that special moment with my father.  but i feel like if he's uncomfortable during the whole thing then it's probably going to show anyway.  i don't know.  has anyone scrapped the father-daughter dance and then regretted it?  did it turn out fine?  did you do something else instead?

thanks!

katydid