Post # 1
We live in an apartment building and there is a couple and a child that live below us.
This kid seems to be screaming, or throwing tantrums or something at all hours. It seems they never sleep. We can hear her screaming her lungs out at 2AM sometimes.
If it was a baby I wouldn’t think much of it because I know babies cry a lot, they have no other way to express themselves. This girl is probably about 3, I would guess.
It’s very concerning to me that she is screaming this much, could they be hurting her or something? Is there anything I could even do?
I am worried for the safety of this little girl but I don’t think I can call the police and be like “The kid who lives below us won’t stop screaming and it wakes us up at night”.
They have lived there since June or July and this hasn’t been any sort of issue until the past couple weeks.
Post # 3
Calling the police might be premature unless you genuinely believe that the screams you are hearing are “i’m hurting” noises and not “i’m annoyed” noises.
However, contacting your apartment manager is EXACTLY the right move. They can send notice to the parents, you’ll get another set of eyes on the child. If the apartment manager (who has the right to enter the unit) feels something is not right, he/she can contact the police.
That being said, if your gut instinct is saying “something is wrong” and not “this child is a brat”, the next time something like this happens at 2am, contact the police with a noise complaint. Explain the situation. They will send someone over, and if they see something alarming, they can take it from there.
Post # 4
@Asia: +1. I don’t think much can top this answer for you. Definitely figure out if it’s annoyed or pained screams.
Post # 5
I am a mother of an autistic 2 (almost 3) yr old. He NEVER sleeps and is up SEVERAL hours of the night. Thank God we own our own home because if we lived in an apartment neighbors might think we’re crazy. He screams throughout the night and has repeated melt downs. I would try to get some more info before you jump on those calls UNLESS you believe the child is truly in danger.
Post # 6
I would agree with PP, if you think it is a bratty screaming kid talk to your apartment manager about the noise. Sometimes toddlers are just evil little creatures.
But if there is any reason that you would think this screaming is beyond a three year old temper tantrum, then next time it happens I would call the police. I don’t know what I would do if I heard something like that then later found out something horrific was happening to the child and I ignored it. Even if it is just a kind of off feeling about how often and the way the kid is freaking out, better to inconvince innocent parents than allow a potentially abusive situation to continue.
Post # 7
What should I say when I call my apartment manager? “The little girl who lives below us is screaming and crying loudly often and all through the night, and I’m just concerned”?
I have never had to deal with this type of situation, its one thing when other people in your building are blaring music or having loud parties, its another when its a kid screaming.
I don’t have any kids but I would say she’s about the same age as my nephew and while he definitely has tantrums he sleeps through the night without screaming, and he definitely doesn’t scream that often.
Post # 8
If you call the apartment manager and tell him the situation, maybe you will find out if anyone else has called and complained.
Post # 9
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I agree with PPs…tell the apartment office exactly what you are hearing. They should be able to take it from there.
Post # 10
@FutureMrsShrewsbury: The family who lives across from them has a baby that must only be a few months old and I can’t imagine that they don’t hear it. They also have 2 boys who used to be pretty loud (we could only hear them if they were in the common area of the building) but since the arrival of the baby the boys have quieted down a lot.
Part of me feels bad for complaining about this, it doesn’t wake me up in the night but but my FI gets woken up by it. I just notice that its going on alot while I am awake. She was screaming a lot at about 10PM but its almost 11 now and I haven’t heard her. Now that I’ve said this though she’ll probably start screaming soon haha.
Post # 11
@melitabonita: Yeah, tell your apartment manager exactly what you’ve told us. You don’t need to give a written notice of complaint or anything, but they’ll get the gist of it if you say that the child has been screaming, and its concerning you in various ways.
Some people might not get it, but I think a lot of parents would rather you call the apartment or the police if you genuinely felt their child was in danger (and wasn’t) than if you just tried to let it go. Good luck!
Post # 12
I agree on calling the apartment manager