(Closed) Screw the diet. He loves me just like I am.

posted 7 years ago in Fitness
Post # 3
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Yes and no. I used to be much smaller than I am right now. I gained a lot of weight after college. I know he loves me how I am (he even makes comments about me being funner/happier when I eat more). Its more an issue that I want to look my absolute best on my wedding day and I know that my absolute best is not how I look now. After the wedding I won’t care as much 🙂

Post # 4
3142 posts
Sugar bee


I think you should look just like you do always. Don’t strive to be someone you’re not.

What would make you happy?  Years gone by, you’re looking at photos of yourself on your special day, would you like what you see? 


Post # 5
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with you as long as you’re happy with your body. I need to lose some weight because I’ve put some on by slacking at the gym and eating crap food so I’m making the wedding my deadline to be back to where I should be.. if I was happy with how I looked I wouldn’t worry though. Lose weight for YOU.

Post # 6
2459 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I totally know how u feel, however if there is one day where you will want to look the best you can its your wedding day.

Post # 7
1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

he may, but I don’t.

healthier = longer life.
healthier = easier time getting (and keeping) any babies.

I guess the question is, would you still be doing this if you WEREN’T getting married? I would.

Post # 8
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Oh I definitely went through this before our wedding! One of my friends made a comment when we got engaged, something to the effect of, “Oh my gosh, you’re going to look awesome once you lose that extra 20 pounds!” and I was like, “Uh……….why would I start trying to lose weight just because I’m engaged?” I didn’t get the connection until I came online and realised how many women use the wedding as a motivating factor. Personally, I didn’t buy into it. I wore a size 12 dress at my wedding and walked down the aisle in my 155 pound glory, just the way I was before getting engaged, and just the same that I am now.

Working out and eating right should be a lifestyle, about being healthy, not about trying to drop 5, 20, 100 pounds for the wedding, or because you feel some sort of societal/whatever pressure to be skinny as a bride.

If the wedding is something that motivates you to make positive life changes, and those carry over into your lifestyle beyond, that’s GREAT and I applaud you! But don’t let it just be because someone else says you should look different.

Post # 9
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I don’t diet for him.  I diet for me.  I don’t live on salad and water.  But I have to follow a menu plan or I will eat the entire world.  If I don’t have healthy food planned and tracked, I tend to binge on things like pizza and ice cream and a lot of it.  I feel so much better when I’m eating right.

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