Post # 1
I have narrowed my venues down to two that are vastly different in price (and BTW I’m a $6k budget bride paying for my own wedding…)
At Venue A, the less expensive of the two, my guests would be seated at tables during the ceremony. Average decor, but I’m a DIY so I know it can be prettied up. We would be responsible for set up and tear down.
At Venue B, the guests would be in a different room for the ceremony, then brought into a reception room. And, the golden crown – Chiavari Chairs. Staff does set up and tear down.
I’ve seen photos of weddings at both – both are amazing in their own way. The thing that I can’t seem to get past is the guest being seated at round tables during the ceremony, then basically getting up and feeding themselves after the announcement of the bride and groom. Something about that screams informality – I know one person who was forced to do this because it rained on her outdoor wedding and they moved inside, but planning for it seems odd to say the least.
Any thoughts on this?
Post # 3
i would prefer not to have rounded tables for the ceremony. it would be awkward for those sitting facing backwards, and it might be hard for people to see. but if you’re on a budget, i think it would depend how much less that venue costs. i don’t think it’s that big of a deal that i wouldn’t do it if it saved a bunch of money.
Post # 4
The difference in cost jsut FYI is about $700 provided we get every cent of our deposit back.
Venue A – $1295 flat
Venue B – $450 + $150 liability insurance + $500 deposit
Post # 5
My biggest reason is people would have to turn around to see us.
Post # 6
I’ve shot both kinds of weddings, and I’ll be really really honest.
It’s every bit as bad as you imagine. People get distracted, the vision of the bride and groom is poor, it’s awkward and icky, people rummage through purses, kids fight, everything is more noticable…..
If the difference is only like $700, I’d do it. For the better chairs + 2 venue locations it’s worth it.
Also, think about how much you’ll have to spend to dress up each location. If location A is going to take a lot of DIY your time and money DO add up. Even DIY isn’t necessarily “cheap.”
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay
hm, that’s a touch choice. while first preference may not be for round seating (because of what you and artbee mentioned), it depends on how much the monetary difference means to you. also, and this is harder, but it depends on what kind of value you place on other people setting up and taking down decor instead of you and your friends/family doing it. but i’m a non diy person so take that with a grain of salt.
i think either way you choose will be fine. with a $6000 overall budget, if you choose the round tables and diy decor, i think that’s a great solution to save money and still have a lovely wedding.
Post # 8
At round tables, guests would have to turn to see you. Also, i think that they would have a more reception feel than a ceremony feel if they were sitting at tables.
Post # 9
I somehow envision people checking their iPhones under the tablecloth, looking around waiting for the dinner, mentally critiquing this choice in seating, the rummaging in purses etc… everything about it ledns to informality in my mind.
Miss Pug – As for the set up and tear down, I’ve considered this too. I want to be relaxed (don’t we all) which does not include me giving directions on how to do things, doing any of it in my dress, etc. I want to feel put together and pampered. 🙂 DIY or not, I don’t see myself doing DIY the day of wedding… all should be done ahead of time.
Post # 10
I really, really hope nobody gets offended but I’m going to be totally honest. Personally, from the photos I’ve seen of weddings where the people were seated at the same tables they eat at during the ceremony, I think it looks really bad. Maybe I’ve never seen a wedding where it was “done right” but I just don’t like it. I totally agree with the vision of people checking their phones under the table cloth and stuff. Dishes might get clanked around by fidgety people, etc. If you can afford the extra, I would defintely go with the other place. If not, I would see if maybe there was a way you can have the tables moved out so you could have a standing ceremony (as long as it’s not longer than 15ish mins, it should be ok), usher people somewhere else for a cocktail hour, and then have the tables fully set up for the reception.
Post # 11
I will be the dissenter and say I have been to two weddings where this was done and it would just perfectly. One was my mom’s, and the other was my MOH’s. The pictures are fine, people just turn their seats. I say do it!
Post # 12
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I’ve been to a wedding where guests were seated at round tables, and honestly it wasn’t bad at all!! Some people had to turn around to see, but it wasn’t a big deal or anything!