(Closed) Seated dinner options: Family Style vs. Plated Dinner

posted 5 years ago in Food
  • poll: Which one?
    Family style seated dinner : (20 votes)
    36 %
    Plated seated dinner : (36 votes)
    64 %
  • Post # 3
    8580 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I would do plated.

    The last time I was at a family style served reception, 3/10 at our table hardly had anything to eat – all that was left after everyone else got to it was a spoon of mashed potatoes…. we left the reception early and went to mcdonalds.

    Post # 4
    11273 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @JazzJune:  definitely plated.  i would not risk the chance of one of my guests not getting enough food.  there’s always a couple of greedy guests at each table.

    Post # 5
    2433 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I always prefer plated meals as a guest. I will say that family style is better than a traditional buffet. However, the family style receptions we’ve been to have almost always been extra messy. For one, these was a ton of extra marinade on the meat serving plates, leading to spills (both on guests and on the table linens).

    Also, if temperature is your concern, we’ve been to two different receptions where the family style platters were served barely lukewarm. Probably more of an issue with the caterer, but it seems to be an issue.  

    Post # 7
    553 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Plated. I went to a wedding that was family style and ended up with pasta in my lap when the person next to me didn’t pass the dish properly.

    Post # 8
    581 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I think that if the caterer is good at their job I prefer the vibe of family style. Just confirm that the waitstaff will bring more food if someone doesn’t get enough.

    Post # 9
    5405 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I think family style fits your venue and feel but I voted plated because like PP said, some people are greedy and selfish in that situation and some guests may end up with not enough food or not their first choice. However, your caterer may be able to have a little extra prepared so that if someone ran out, they could just ask for more xyz. Not sure if that’s something they would agree to. 

    Post # 10
    70 posts
    Worker bee

    We’re doing family style. Our caterer charges a bit more for family style because we need extra servers and more food. It’s an Indian reception so the only other real alternative for us is buffet which we didn’t want to do. Our caterer has assured us that the dishes will be replenished as they are finished though, so I’m not worried about food running out. We’re also serving on lazy susans so that no one has to pass a dish. I’m hoping it all works out!


    Post # 12
    2207 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’ve gone to weddings that did both and i really preferred the family style. It made everyone at the table talk to each other and we had plenty of food. Not sure if they purposely requested extra food or something though. 

    Post # 13
    4771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’ve never had a family style dinner, but if you have strangers sharing food, it sounds like an aweful idea.  It’s just like a mini buffet where the last people to get to it are not gonna have any food.


    Post # 14
    4512 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Another vote for plated. I’ve had family style at weddings and I don’t love it. Inevitably the dish I like doesn’t get passed my way, or it runs out before I get it. I much prefer to just have my own plate to myself.

    Also: we had a plated dinner, and it wasn’t really a pain to track people’s meals. We just asked everyone to fill out their choice on the RSVP card, and then we gave the info to the caterer.

    Post # 15
    8696 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I would not want family style with people I dont know. I think I either wouldn’t eat or would eat very little once I saw people digging through the platters.

    Post # 16
    12893 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Personally, I hate family style meals, so I vote plated!

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