Post # 1
We are having about 75 guests at our wedding (a little bit more or less) and I’m trying to figure out which would be best. I think that having a buffet wouldn’t be a big deal since we don’t have that many people…
Please explain your choice after you vote (if you have the time).
Other thoughts? Suggestions?
Pros and Cons?
I think seated dinners are very formal (and nicer) but buffet is acceptable now, right?
Post # 3
I like buffet because I can choose exactly what I want to eat. Family style would be okay as well. We are doing a buffet for our small wedding too.
Post # 4
We had 69 people and did buffet. I liked it because even the picky eaters got to have exactly what they wanted. The buffet was decorated very elegantly by the caterers – lovely fabric drapes, florals, etc. There were two lines for our size of guest list and people got their food very quickly!
I don’t like plated (well, I like the “fancy” aspect of it, but that’s about it) because the portion sizes are limited and if you don’t like one of the components of the meal, you can’t subsitute it with anything! I think the food can get a little cold, too, since it has to wait to be carried out and served, vs getting the food right off a chaffing dish with the buffet.
Post # 5
I like buffet in general – having choices is awesome. The reason I voted for a seated dinner is because there are too many stories on this forum of buffets that ran out or got cold before everyone had a chance to go up. I think buffet is great if you’re 100% certain all your guests will be taken care of. I’m choosing to stick to a seated family-style dinner because I want my guests to be able to choose, but I don’t want them to have to wait for their turn 🙂
Post # 6
I like buffets because I don’t like having to choose 6+ weeks out what I’m going to feel like eating that day. My FBIL and FSIL didn’t offer a choice, but had both chicken and beef on the same plate. The chicken was very good and the beef was so-so. I’m doing a tapas/food station setup because we don’t really have room for everyone to sit down so we’re serving food that can be eaten standing up and while mingling.
Post # 7
I like buffet but had to do plated at my venue because I didn’t have enough people for buffet. I think either are fine. One thing I don’t like about buffets with large weddings is that by the time some people are eating, others are completely done.
Post # 8
@alotlikelove: Personally, I love variety and offering my guests a variety of food. We are having 70 guests and we are doing food station buffet style. We will have an american style station (mini-slider burgers, mac and cheese, mozzarrella sticks, etc), mexican style (chicken tacos, quesadillas, rice, etc) and a soup/salad/bake potato bar.
Not only is it typically cheaper (a pro), but I think people like to pick and choose what they will eat. I have been to a lot of sit down style events (~60+)/weddings and honestly, its the same-o-same to me. You can have a nice sit down meal that is delicious, but it usually costs more money (a con).
Our wedding is only semi-formal so a buffet works. I would recommend pricing out your options if you haven’t already and then see what is more appealing. Have you figured out your budget for a price per guest? That will significantly influence what food will be offered.
Post # 9
i prefer sit-down. i am not a fan of lining up to collect my own food while dressed up in heels. in my nightmares i envision an accident and spilling food on the bride’s gown.
for a lot of couples, it’s a night out so why not treat them to full service.
Post # 10
I like the convenience of being served but I prefer the food choices of buffet (quality is about a toss-up in my experience, can be meh or awesome for either one).
So, pretty even, but I’d say a buffet slightly edges out plated in my preference. I think the buffet has to be done well (servers to help those with mobility problems, constantly refreshed, drinks at the tables, at least 2 serving lines to move people through quickly, etc).
Post # 11
I don’t like eating at any kind of buffet…sitting food with people hovering over it grosses me out. I also feel like a plated dinner is much more formal, and more appropriate for a wedding, depending on the kind of wedding you want to have. I’ve never been to a wedding that had buffet style, but I would imagine the lines get long and overcrowded, and that it would take away from the party.
Post # 12
@mypinkshoes: This, x10000000000! I don’t want to be all dolled up, balancing a plate of food in heels-the two just don’t go together, IMO.
Post # 13
I prefer the choices of a buffet!
Post # 14
As a guest I prefer a seated meal. I’ve been to a couple weddings that had buffet style and the lines were ridiculously long, and that was with multiple lines. As a future bride, I see the cost appeal of a buffet.
Personally, if I can afford it, my first choice is to offer a seated meal to my guests.
Post # 15
I’ve never been to a wedding that had a seated dinner, only buffets. So I guess I’m not really much help! But I don’t mind buffets, and like other bees said, like being able to choose what’s on my plate. :]
Post # 16
@Xu: In my research (about 6 venues), buffet and plated meals came out VERY similarly priced. Buffet they tend to have food costs, but plated they have more service costs.
The upside is that for the cost of 2 options at a plated meal, I can give 3 entress and a few different sides at a buffet. But the overall cost really isn’t any cheaper.
I do corporate events for a living and it isn’t unusual for nice buffets to actually be more expensive.